Comments by Array (page 6)

I was fortunate when working to have an office with a door. At lunchtime I’d close the door, lock it and take a 10-20 minute nap. That’s all it took to make a world of difference in my afternoon productivity.

I like Ishmael’s thinking and would add Iron Butterfly’s Ina Gadda da Vida. Grand 1511, I’ve seen Salome several times but never fully nude. I would not want to see most of those singers nude!

Paul Drake, do you think Kate does dirty old men? I’d fight you to be first in line!

I learned about extras when a coworker got a stripper pregnant.

A butt plug. I didn’t do it.

It’s easy to say on here what we would or would not do, but when we’re “in the moment” our perspectives can quickly and drastically change. I met up with an SA girl a few months ago, but I failed in the due diligence beforehand. When she showed up I was mentally devising reasons to nicely tell her to just turn around and go away. But, being the non-confrontational wimp that I am, I went ahead with the deed. The sex, as it turned out, was awesome. My point is that we get into situations where we do things which we swear we’d never do, but to pass on opportunities that appear less than desirable may mean missing a great experience. In a perfect world I’d never do less than a 9, but that’s never yet happened.

I knew a stripper for about a year in a large city who was up for anything both ITC and OTC. About mid-way through that year she got married, but that changed nothing regarding her ITC activities. The guy she married did not seem quite like a total loser, at least he had a steady job. But he was a loser at marriage. This was his third marriage to a stripper, and each was much younger than he. In this case he was 30 years older than the girl I knew. Given his record I didn’t have any qualms about doing what I was doing with the stripper because I had little faith that this third marriage would last either. Btw, she told me he was well aware of what she did in the club. His only requirement was that she didn’t do it “too often.”

“Sometimes I go topless” on a convertible driven by one very hot babe.

Since I’m married I only use SA when traveling alone. I’ve met with three girls after having made it clear that it was a one-time thing with each of them. None seemed to have any qualms about the situation. I’m now working on an arrangement with a more local girl who is pushing for an on-going relationship. I’m giving serious thought to cutting that one off before anything really gets going. Since PPM is contrary to the stated goal of SA, setting up SD/SB arrangements, I’m always curious about what’s driving these women who say they would never be a prostitute. Two of the women I’ve met clearly do it as an occasional thing for the extra cash. The third, I’m fairly certain, was being driven to do it by a lazy-ass, drug-addicted, abusive, good-for-nothing boyfriend. That’s the only one I felt badly about afterwards.

Huntsman, I appreciate the correction. I always associate Douglas with that statement, probably because he was the one with the hot wife about 50 or so years younger.

Shadowcat, I had the same problem a couple years ago, if BPH is your situation. A little outpatient surgery with a laser knife and it’s just like the old days except for the retrograde ejaculation. I was recently in a club in the Atlanta area, not your favorite, and got a very satisfactory relaxation treatment. The girl, however, wouldn’t believe I had cum because there was nothing to spit!

I believe it was Supreme Court Justice William Douglas who said, “I can’t define pornography, but I know it when I see it.” Well, I can’t define prostitution, but I know it when I see it!

I’ve done the SA thing twice. Both times it was on a business trip, and I was completely up front with the girl that it was going to be a one-timer, although in one case it turned into a two-nighter. So, maybe I’m not a true SD, but I’m not the jackass that wrote that article by any stretch of the imagination. As long as we have a clear understanding of what’s going to happen and how much money will be exchanged I have a clear conscience. My third SA date did not work out, as described in my post earlier this week, but again the conditions were clearly set up and agreed to by both parties beforehand and the girl was honest enough to alert me to her issues and call off the date before we got into a very awkward situation. I think in all three cases these were normal civilian girls who need extra income and have accepted this route as an occasional alternative to hitting the street as a “professional.” I feel somewhat badly in using them if this is something they really dont want to do, but I’m not going to give them a handout for no return either. As far as understanding the girls’ basic motives, I don’t think it’s too hard to figure out. If they emphasize or overuse the word “ fun” in their profile then they’re probably DTF. If they show a lot of skin in their pics or emphasize their cleavage then they’re probably DTF. Professional escorts list substantial or higher as their lifestyle expectations. If Friends with Benefits is shown as an expectation then you can look for a fun evening. If you see the word Romance then RUN! If sex is not going to ever be part of the program the girl will make that pretty clear. At least that’s how I see things. What I can not figure out though is why so many girls show photos of themselves sitting in a car. Someone please help me out with that one.

Update: Did not strike out. The club came through the second time around. I recently did my first two SA’s. Both showed up and both were a good time. They were late though. This was my first bust. To the girl’s credit she did seem to have every intention of showing up, and I do appreciate that she didnt just show up with a red surprise. I didn’t go to Follies because on my last two visits there the talent was less than stellar, as seems to be the opinion of multiple reviewers.

San Antonio is no fun. Dallas is little fun at most clubs unless you find a rare bird. There are several clubs in Houston that can be considered a sure thing, and a number of others that you can fairly readily find a cooperative girl. That is, if your definition of fun means extras. If you’re looking for less I’d still rank them Houston>Dallas>San Antone.

When i lived in Houston I counted seven strip clubs within about three miles of my house. I was regular at two of them and almost never went to the others.

Hey, I’m going down to Florida next week. Do you think she’s on SA?

#twentyfive - “...you support the Constitution when it works in favor of what you like but you deny others the same right...” Sounds like a lot of liberals. And, sounds like a lot of conservatives. And, it particularly sounds like a lot of politicians on both sides of the aisle!

One of my more regrettable SC experiences was in Houston. A girl I had done things with in the club once before called me asking if I wanted to come in and have a little fun. I did. While hanging out in the club a little later my then CF showed up, also looking for a little fun. I was honest with the CF, and she was sort of understanding, but CF wanted to know who the other girl was. I told her and CF hit the roof. She asked me if I realized the she was probably in the dressing room right then spending the cash on more drugs. Like the poster above I have never touched illegal drugs, even marijuana, and would not have done what I did that day if I had known where the money would go.

The key words in the first paragraph are “ long time.” Nine years is a long time for a lot of marriages and is when a lot of people are seriously questioning why they ever got married or if they married the right person. I lasted a bit longer, 12-15 years before I started asking those questions, but it will happen in almost all marriages. So, I guess I’m saying that you should feel a little guilt, but certainly don’t feel that any problems are all on you. I know I’ve popped a couple ITC cherries, both unmarried, but I made it clear to the girls that we wouldn’t do it unless they were fully on board with any potential long-term guilt. @BJ, I love the tango, sexiest dance ever! I don’t dance but if I did that’s the one I want to learn. I once went to a tango show in Buenos Aires. I couldn’t help but wonder if they had one giant orgy afterwards!

I’ve had several dancers say it’s common or they have done it.

LOL, OP! Every time I see one of those skaters I think of Onatopp.

I’ve never been to Dean’s Gold, but I will be in South Florida in a couple weeks. Do I need to make a stop there before it’s gone forever? Or, since time is limited should I just stick with old faithful Diamond Dolls Pompano Beach? Life is so short!

Thank you, Shadow! It scares me to think how much I may have spent on having sex with strippers. So, if I take my current estimate and divide by 3, it doesn’t seem nearly as bad. Or, only one-third as scary, or something like that.

They’re going to try to collect some DNA off them and blackmail you.