Seeking Arrangement gone bad ... The Salt Daddy
Call.Me.Ishmael
Rhode Island
I'm at the very beginning stages of giving SA a whirl. While doing a little research on the best ways to fill out a profile, I came across this article on the "salt daddy" phenomenon.
https://thecitybachelor.com/salt-dating-…
This is something that I'd never do. Partly because I have ethics (not many and they're fraying at the edges, but still...) and partly because it feels like something that could easily blow up in your face if you're not careful ... or even if you are. Anyway, I thought I'd put it out here for for you folks to chew on and debate.
I'm so shiny new on SA that I have no real feedback to offer. I will say that I don't understand why women under the age of 30 are compelled to take selfies with their tongues sticking out. I know; I'm old. You don't have to tell me. Still, it looks really dumb and not attractive.
https://thecitybachelor.com/salt-dating-…
This is something that I'd never do. Partly because I have ethics (not many and they're fraying at the edges, but still...) and partly because it feels like something that could easily blow up in your face if you're not careful ... or even if you are. Anyway, I thought I'd put it out here for for you folks to chew on and debate.
I'm so shiny new on SA that I have no real feedback to offer. I will say that I don't understand why women under the age of 30 are compelled to take selfies with their tongues sticking out. I know; I'm old. You don't have to tell me. Still, it looks really dumb and not attractive.
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There's so many more disagreeable things on SA profiles -- in particular, the women who don't have the emotional IQ to keep their irritation and lecturing off their page, the many women who emphasize their political affiliations (almost always loony left around here) because evidently they can't hold a conversation with someone who has differing views without getting their feelings hurt -- that I tend to just ignore the stuck out tongue.
"... The general idea is that you sign up for a Sugar Daddy profile on a website like Seeking Arrangement. You lie about your net worth. You lie about your income. You take girls out on dates. You bang them. You don’t pay them. That’s it ..."
IMO most guys on here are not into ripping-off providers - most PLs on here seems to wanna pay a fair-price, instead of low-balling a girl or getting ripped-off.
Per the little I read of the article, it seems analogous to going to VIP w/ a girl then somehow skip on paying her - no bueno according to most TUSCLers, IMO.
As far as sticking out their tongue that’s idiotic but so are the pseudo selfies where they are holding their phone up to the mirror and just looking at the camera angle you know someone else took the picture for them.
1) Scheduling three girls on the same night, hoping to fuck one of them, and taking the first one who shows up.
2) Sailing into town on a business trip, sleeping with someone you met on SA, and never seeing them again.
The tongue thing, septum rings, excessive tats, and goofy Snapchat filters are all pretty common for the under-25 crowd. But I still maintain that you can find gems on SA, and much more efficiently than relying on strip clubs. At least if you're near a large metro area.
I doubt I’ll ever do the SA thing (I’ll stick to Internet porn and my hands). But if I did I don’t think I’ll take his advice.
My third SA date did not work out, as described in my post earlier this week, but again the conditions were clearly set up and agreed to by both parties beforehand and the girl was honest enough to alert me to her issues and call off the date before we got into a very awkward situation.
I think in all three cases these were normal civilian girls who need extra income and have accepted this route as an occasional alternative to hitting the street as a “professional.” I feel somewhat badly in using them if this is something they really dont want to do, but I’m not going to give them a handout for no return either.
As far as understanding the girls’ basic motives, I don’t think it’s too hard to figure out. If they emphasize or overuse the word “ fun” in their profile then they’re probably DTF. If they show a lot of skin in their pics or emphasize their cleavage then they’re probably DTF. Professional escorts list substantial or higher as their lifestyle expectations. If Friends with Benefits is shown as an expectation then you can look for a fun evening. If you see the word Romance then RUN! If sex is not going to ever be part of the program the girl will make that pretty clear. At least that’s how I see things.
What I can not figure out though is why so many girls show photos of themselves sitting in a car. Someone please help me out with that one.
But the writer of the article seemed to be pretty pleased with himself for deceiving his way to free pussy in the prostitution business. Treating other people fairly in life is just the right thing to do and he should’ve paid when the ladies put out for him.
He seemed to be trying too hard to pat himself on the back.
I'm not too worried about it, though. I suspect that the number of guys who are willing to be this shitty is relatively low. It interested me more from a sociological point of view. I was doing research on how to do SA right, and of course one of the first things I found was this screed on how to cheat the system.
BTW, I also have no judgement for guys who are using SA like backpage, basically coming in, looking for a single hookup, and moving on, provided they are up front about it and not manipulating the girls like those salt daddies. It's not what SA is theoretically about, but there are sooooo many escorts, and women who behave exactly like escorts, that it doesn't make sense to get bent out of shape that there are people on SA who prefer this model.