Married Dancers with Children
rickdugan
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My CF (soon to be ex-CF I think) is married with children. The kids are from her husband and the oldest is 9, so they are an intact family unit that has been together for a long time. I am sure that I popped her OTC cherry in 2016, but I am not the only one who she has seen since it happened.
I used to never think twice about this sort of thing. She's a grown adult after all and can make her own decisions. She is also far from stupid. But recent actions of hers (which I posted about on here) make me wonder if I did her family a disservice by starting her down the OTC path. In particular, I am wondering if I contributed to furthering a rift that was already forming between her and her spouse. Not only because of the her OTC activities, but because of endless conversation we have had ITC and OTC about our respective families. Net-net, when it all shakes out, I'm wondering if her kids would have been better off if this girl never met me (and maybe a few others like me now).
Idk. I'm no narcissist and she has a lot of things going on in her life that have nothing to do with me. I am just one of multiple strip club regulars that she has. But I can't help but wonder how much I contributed to her changing viewpoints about her own marriage, especially with what happened recently re: her offer to see me without the need to pay her.
I used to never think twice about this sort of thing. She's a grown adult after all and can make her own decisions. She is also far from stupid. But recent actions of hers (which I posted about on here) make me wonder if I did her family a disservice by starting her down the OTC path. In particular, I am wondering if I contributed to furthering a rift that was already forming between her and her spouse. Not only because of the her OTC activities, but because of endless conversation we have had ITC and OTC about our respective families. Net-net, when it all shakes out, I'm wondering if her kids would have been better off if this girl never met me (and maybe a few others like me now).
Idk. I'm no narcissist and she has a lot of things going on in her life that have nothing to do with me. I am just one of multiple strip club regulars that she has. But I can't help but wonder how much I contributed to her changing viewpoints about her own marriage, especially with what happened recently re: her offer to see me without the need to pay her.
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Moulin Rouge illustrates for dorks, like me, who like this sort of thing.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Rn0xXo1gwG…
On the other hand, it also seems likely to me that those problems could have preexisted your involvement, and would eventually have manifested despite your involvement. That’s going to come across as a self serving rationalization, and to a certain extent it is, but I can only go based on my own experience with the MILF and my ATF. Both married with kids, and my involvement hasn’t appeared to have caused any problems that every marriage encounters from time to time. Not only that, but my own marriage hasn’t suffered some thirty years of what most of you would call “infidelity”, but isn’t such at all.
Not sure what to tell you, other than it’s water under the bridge, and you’ve decided to stop seeing her, so to whatever extent you’re responsible for, or a contributor to, her issues, while you can’t change what you’ve done, you can at least stop doing it.
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LOL!
Most of @Dugan's stories are depressing in one form or another. Whether it's a heroin addict, a flood refuge, or a desperate middle-aged stripper.
@Bj: Great points. There are parts of this story I left out regarding his actions and suspicions in general and, more specifically, regarding me. I also did not detail his employment struggles. Some of these specifics might give away too much, especially as we have a few active members on this board who frequent the same clubs that I do.
So, what do you think the odds are when the wife is the major bread winner, working as a stripper ?
Sure, moving on to OTC worsens the odds of a marriage surviving, but it was already pretty iffy. Plus, it’s unlikely the marriage was solid if she chose OTC.
She’s got her own issues with her hubby. Just enjoy fucking her - and enjoy the free pussy soon too!
So hate to burst your bubble but it could have been just about any PL with a little cash to get her to go down this road as evidence that you are now not the only one.
I know I’ve popped a couple ITC cherries, both unmarried, but I made it clear to the girls that we wouldn’t do it unless they were fully on board with any potential long-term guilt.
@BJ, I love the tango, sexiest dance ever! I don’t dance but if I did that’s the one I want to learn. I once went to a tango show in Buenos Aires. I couldn’t help but wonder if they had one giant orgy afterwards!
Rickdugan would be an expert on Dr Phil. He could refute the husbands claims - and tell everyone what really happened when an out of work hubby offered a struggling stripper $50 for full service - otc in her trailer....
If this is reality tv fodder, then what can I say? Deal with enough strippers long enough and I suppose a certain number of these odd situations are inevitable. Anyone who thinks that these discussions are not topical on a strip club site can always go back to discussion Ford Roadside Service and SA girls I suppose.
Idk where I sit on the self-introspection spectrum, but I cannot be the only one around here who occasionally questions what he is doing with strippers. For me it is the only way that I can keep myself centered and put this all in the proper perspective.
Oh, and nice example of more snarky ankle biting. Nip nip old man. :)
Oh, and if you're going to use words from other languages in some misguided pseudo-intellectual attempt at making a point, at least do so properly. Schadenfreude is a special term that always starts with a capital S. See, nip nip old man. :)
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Get off my lawn you little piss poodle !
All of us would be better off if we'd never met you.
You aren’t. But I suspect that some of the more hostile responses you’ve gotten are from people who recognize themselves in this post, and are...reluctant to face that fact.
I know I’ve been in the position you’ve described, along with a host of others that have left me with a sometimes unpalatable decision to make, more than a few times in the last three decades. Sometimes I’ve walked away, and sometimes I’ve accepted that good pussy has a price I can live with.