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11 years ago
I had an on again, off again ATF for a long while! As others have stated, I got tired of her sense of entitlement, trying to provoke ITC arguments, and intense jealousy if I even looked at other dancers. Anyway, I decided to fire her for good, and I started seeing another dancer who at least for now, doesn't want compensation for her time if we meet up for dinner, drinks, movies, etc. She has treated me a few tines, which is a pleasant change. i know she may be trying to set me up for the future, but at least I'll see it coming based on my interactions with other strippers. I do gladly compensate her for OTC sex, which is awesome.
I wish these strippers would learn that one hand takes care of the other! It's the little things that make me want to be more generous! It's going well, and I'm keeping my emotions out if it!
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11 years ago
No
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11 years ago
Yes, you will be getting tons of texts soon, especially when the club is slow. Next will come the "baby" talk and the fake romance. Enjoy it for what it is. If you have multiple numbers, which we all do, you can maximize your fun as you decide which club to hit. It's always good to know when your club fave is working, so you don't waste time.
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11 years ago
Sage advice and wisdom can come from anyone, from any walk of life. There are good and bad role models everywhere. Filter out the bullshit, and remember the good advice for the future. There have been many posts on this subject, but don't get attached to strippers! I know two guys who defied the odds, and married strippers. One went down in flames, and the other has been happily married for 7 years.
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11 years ago
Nice test drive! The next time, the salesman will make you.buy the car. Remember, it's your money! Do what you want,
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11 years ago
We realize that many of these dancers are emotional train wrecks if you push the wrong buttons within them, I feel that of there is one club in particular that you prefer, and your "relationship" with a specific dancer is over, then go anyway. You control the scene with your money. This has happened to me a few times in the past, and I am always nice about it, but tell them that I've decided to move on.
Sure, some get angry, but never fall for this bizarro world bullshit that they own you. They'll have a funeral for your lost wallet, and then life moves on. They're born hustlers.
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11 years ago
I really need $3000 for my mortgage! I'm about to lose my house! I can't ask anyone else because I don't give anyone else my number. I think I'm falling in love with you baby!
And no...,she didn't get the money. I had a laugh with fellow clubbers as she fed them the same bullshit.
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11 years ago
Alucard- Yes, it's been surprising in my area, because many of the clubs I hit were packed to the hilt at this time last year. Many of the girls known for not doing extras, are now leaping at the opportunity to do so.
Dougster- I know they're all on the border of being whores, but many of the club "prudes" are now doing OTC. That's why I asked the question how have things changed in YOUR area.
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11 years ago
Yes, that is absolutely true. Anyone thinking they can find love in a strip club is sorely mistaken. I know from personal experience when I was a newbie. If you defy the odds, and do actually date a dancer beyond OTC, a nightmare of headaches, drama, and other bizarre events await you. Just like they say with drugs, don't do it!
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11 years ago
That's a ridiculous stripper code that happens in some clubs, especially ones with lots of Latinas in my area. Yes, they can get very upset, and then stop speaking. Inevitably, they'll get over it, and call you back. That's why I rotate through clubs. It keeps things fresh, and keeps the drama down.
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11 years ago
A year and a half. Just don't lose your perspective. It's pay for play only. If the drama of sob stories get to be a bit much, cut your loses and run! It's always about the money, never about emotion, so don't go there.
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11 years ago
Dalex, no truer words ever spoken! Every time a "relationship" with an ATF ends, there will be a new one to come along who is much better in every way! I think many of us use the acronym ATF loosely, because at that given time, she may be your all time favorite. No one knows what the future will hold, but when your relationship ends, and ultimately it will, there is someone much better that will come along!!
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11 years ago
46
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11 years ago
Every club has it. The behind the scenes drama never ends. Anytime you get a bunch of women in close quarters, the catfight ultimately ensues. Steer clear and just get what you want from your ATF. The dressing room drama plays out everyday in every club.
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11 years ago
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Papi_ChuloMiami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
Ahhh! The sweet scent of stripper love is in the air. Another stripper telling a story that ignites romance in my heart!
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11 years ago
What about the Blue Goose in Patterson? I've never been there, but I have heard the mileage is high if that's what you're looking for.
There's also the Gogorama in Laurence Harbor. I've had some great times there. The Showplace in Dover is a guaranteed high mileage spot, go with the Latinas for the mileage.In south Jersey, there's Playhouse, but the talent can be uneven, and some dancers are good, others not so much. There's also Club Champagne in West Deptford. You've got to choose your dancer wisely, because the $30 lap dances add up quickly.
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11 years ago
Meet my buddies over at a great Latin club/ restaurant for a few drinks before heading to a strip club. Sometimes the bar is packed with beautiful Latinas, so we never make it over to the strip club. That's on a really good night!
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11 years ago
Vanessa Del Rio ten years ago. An absolutely awesome experience!! One of the true queens of porn. We did a standing up grind session. That's all the club would let me do. After that, I had my friends take a few pictures with her. She is just as incredible in person!!
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11 years ago
In scrolling through this thread, there's clearly a unanimous consensus here! Don't ever do it! When I was a newbie, I was burned twice by ss loans. Never again!
When they ask now, I politely decline them. Most will stick around, and others will get mad. You'll find out just where you stand with her after you nix their proposal.
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11 years ago
That scenario would set off World War III or make a good episode of a deadly love triangle on the ID Discovery channel. Be careful out there!!
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11 years ago
This must be an April Fools joke!
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11 years ago
Just say no...remember you're dealing with a professional con artist. There are no receipts or guarantees in this game.
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12 years ago
In my opinion, there is really no such thing. I have a gf who works at a club nearby, and she frequently asks me to come by, I usually only stop by to say hello and leave. It keeps her wanting more! I can't get involved in the jealousy thing, besides the only way to keep my perspective is to have someone else as well. You guys who are doing this will completely understand! A stripper can flake out at a moments notice! Just keep it moving, and your feelings will be spared! She can find someone else quickly, and do can too!!
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12 years ago
Penthouse, Delilah's or Cheerleaders in Philly. What club are you currently working at in Delaware? I would live to come down and see you!
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12 years ago
Yes! My old ATF became very possessive and jealous. She had a family member who is a corrupt detective in her city's police department track my cell phone. She was dumb enough to tell me, and I told her that was illegal and couldn't be done without a warrant. Needless to say, I had to stop seeing her very shortly thereafter! I was beyond creepy for someone to be able your track your every move.