Anyone else here ever been burnt out on the drama?
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Chances are if someone gets burnt out they don't go to this forum, but I thought I would throw this out there in case some of you have been through the cycle, or as a data point to anyone that reads on and feels the same way I did. The regular places were the rhino and sapphires in vegas where I live.
Been going fairly often for the last 2 years. Had a fav that was a total gf when I was there. Some incredibly awesome nights I will never forget, but also some really ugly nights where we would argue like real bf/gf. It was a total club soap opera and I bet funny to watch for the uninvolved. That's too real of a gf experience for me! Anyway, every bad time has eaten away a bit of the desire for going to any club. Money isn't really an issue and I usually do a vip, so saving money is good but its not the primary driver.
I've been reading this site for about the same amount of time, and did the total dude thing of "hey, that doesn't apply to me, I found a good one" Boy was I wrong. She had been working for about 9 months when I met her, and I think she really was stable then and had a good attitude saying is was something she always wanted to try. She had a female partner, but still liked guys and this was here outlet for that. Seemed perfect to me. Working in a club for years might have done her in. In some ways my story is similar to the guy who wrote that 5 part series here on the site. Not sure if that was real, the writing seemed too good, but it fits my situation.
I suggested we back off to being friends at least for a while. She said OK, but when I went back in and was with a different girl she got totally pissed. I know, big surprise. I'm totally done, maybe permanently.
Any similar experiences?
Been going fairly often for the last 2 years. Had a fav that was a total gf when I was there. Some incredibly awesome nights I will never forget, but also some really ugly nights where we would argue like real bf/gf. It was a total club soap opera and I bet funny to watch for the uninvolved. That's too real of a gf experience for me! Anyway, every bad time has eaten away a bit of the desire for going to any club. Money isn't really an issue and I usually do a vip, so saving money is good but its not the primary driver.
I've been reading this site for about the same amount of time, and did the total dude thing of "hey, that doesn't apply to me, I found a good one" Boy was I wrong. She had been working for about 9 months when I met her, and I think she really was stable then and had a good attitude saying is was something she always wanted to try. She had a female partner, but still liked guys and this was here outlet for that. Seemed perfect to me. Working in a club for years might have done her in. In some ways my story is similar to the guy who wrote that 5 part series here on the site. Not sure if that was real, the writing seemed too good, but it fits my situation.
I suggested we back off to being friends at least for a while. She said OK, but when I went back in and was with a different girl she got totally pissed. I know, big surprise. I'm totally done, maybe permanently.
Any similar experiences?
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Kudos to you for admitting it – now you can move forward – hopefully if she doesn’t have too much of a grip on you or your penis.
“… She had a female partner, but still liked guys …â€
To me, *personally*, that is a red flag – most dancers are emotionally unstable as it is – adding a female lover to the equation just raises the instability of the whole thing IMO.
I also got the questions from all the other dancers when I went back. I live by a certain set of guidelines which include not talking about things like that, so I don't answer any. But thats something I would do in any situation, not specific to this one. The most common questions was "can you tell me what you two did back there?" Not answering that one gets the most mileage by far, both because they wonder about it, and also because they know you won't tell what they do either.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be ATF/fave drama although that may be the worst kind – but just the general bullshit of having to deal with f’ed dancers and the f’ed up people that work in most SCs.
I was at a dive on Sat. night and just walked out after an hour w/o really wanting to leave – but I’d had enough with the BS going on that night and just left (which I rarely do this).
I am contemplating taking a SC hiatus for a while b/c I am currently fed up with the SC SS – and this would also have the added benefit of helping my savings account which needs it!
I wish these strippers would learn that one hand takes care of the other! It's the little things that make me want to be more generous! It's going well, and I'm keeping my emotions out if it!
Money can’t buy me love – or so it’s been said.
Also, the more $$$ one spends on girl/dancer – wouldn’t that make one look even more like a PL in their eyes and just an ATM machine for them to run-to/use?