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Being associated with a specific dancer?

metrocard11
So lately, I've been really focused on one particular upscale club. I tend to hit this spot up on the weekends, around the same time, and for the most part I've come to expect the same dancers working when I go in.

On my most recent trip, as I entered, the doorman said something to the effect of "Your girl just got here a few minutes ago". I'm thinking to myself, "my" girl? I had only visited two times prior in my life, and both of those visits were only a few weeks earlier. Granted, I took the same girl to VIP on both visits, but only twice.

This time, I wanted to try some other dancers. Miss Girl Next Door comes over...we hit it off...I say let's go to VIP...and then she hits me with "I'd love to, but you're so and so's customer." This is the same girl I took to VIP on my prior visits. Then we got into a back and forth talking about stupid stripper code bullshit about not stealing each other's customers. Oh well...more ca$h for me then.

Now, there isn't anything wrong with having a favorite, but that's not the direction I'm aiming for at the moment. I guess my question is this: at what point do club staff affiliate you with a certain dancer, and what are some good ways to avoid being branded as that dancer's customer? I don't have any qualms about telling someone otherwise, but damn!!

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SuperDude
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12 years ago
"She's one of many. I'm here to enjoy the full compliment of dancers." Then pick someone else out of the pack as soon as you can and tell her that no one owns you.
lopaw
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12 years ago
This happens to me alot, sometimes after only one visit. It's ridiculous and if the dancers in a club are tight and watch out for each other you're screwed.
The only way I avoid it is by rotating thru a ton of clubs and not letting anyone get their claws in me if I can help it.
jester214
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12 years ago
Find a new club. Now.
jackslash
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12 years ago
A dancer will try to make you a regular for economic reasons. She will stake her claim and tell other dancers and staff that you are hers. The only thing you can do is insist on dances with other strippers. It is your money.
DandyDan
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12 years ago
This is one frustrating aspect of one of my regular clubs. One time I showed up and they were surprised I showed up because "my" girl was gone. The thing is, this is the one girl I wish would go away if I had to pick any of them there to go away, because she acts like she owns me. Besides, if they really knew me, they would know there are two other girls there who I will always get dances from, and it used to be more, but I know one was fired and one may have hung it up for good.
gatorfan
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12 years ago
No the police usually cant connect me to anyone.
dallas702
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12 years ago
That kinda' happened to me twice, in different clubs. First time I mentioned to "my" dancer that I thought it was neat to be "going steady" but I wanted to play around. Her reaction was, "OK, can I be your pimp?" That was actually fun while it lasted.

The second time, years later in a different club, I tried the same line and she walked off. Afterwards NONE of the dancers would come near. I didn't go back to that club for months and a few dancers avoided me even that much later.
shadowcat
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12 years ago
2 years ago I had one favorite dancer walk up to me when I was talking to another dancer and tell her "He's my husband" and then walk off. The other dancer asked me "Why did she say that?" I said she like to think that I am hers but don't worry I cheat.
stenton1
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12 years ago
That's a ridiculous stripper code that happens in some clubs, especially ones with lots of Latinas in my area. Yes, they can get very upset, and then stop speaking. Inevitably, they'll get over it, and call you back. That's why I rotate through clubs. It keeps things fresh, and keeps the drama down.
metrocard11
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12 years ago
Yeah. It's ridiculous...do these women seriously expect patrons to be "monogamous" when they've been with God knows how many people earlier that day, let alone in their careers? Strip clubs feel like miniature high schools sometimes!
3LeggedMan
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12 years ago
Just went to my local club last night and as I sat with my fave I asked "How's my favorite dancer?" Her response to that was "I haven't always been that, have I?" She had me there. I'd put her on the shelf during the 6-7 months my uber-hot 3rd ATF was working there. I remember the icy stares from those days. All became good when I stated "you are my favorite dancer NOW". Then off to the VIP room so she doesn't dwell on those past crimes.
Papi_Chulo
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12 years ago
Really? Aren’t we all adults here (e.g. SC)?

No dancer is going to “force” a customer into dances or VIP he/lopaw does not want – if the custie wants to do something w/ another dancer it is b/c he/lopaw wants to not b/c the “other dancer” forced him/lopaw into it.
MondoGoGo
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12 years ago
^ Right on @ Papi!!!
sclvr5005
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12 years ago
As long as money is involved this type of thing will always exist. I have only had this happen to me once but the dancer made my visits so crappy that I avoided that club for awhile.
Alucard
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12 years ago
You have NO control over this. It is usually dancer initiated. Go elsewhere if you have an issue with it.
motorhead
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12 years ago
I hate it when I walk in and the doorman or the DJ greets me with "she'll be ready in a few minutes"

It's true - but I still hate being known to everyone in the club as "her" guy
sharkhunter
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12 years ago
That's another good reason to have multiple favorites. I find myself in the danger zone because I may be down to no favorites in one club and only one in another. If I arrive early and leave before it's too late, I could easily not see any favorites.
Alucard
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12 years ago
"That's another good reason to have multiple favorites"

Not for me. I STRONGLY prefer the single ATF system.
rickdugan
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12 years ago
In my favorite local club, they call back into the dressing room for 'my dancer" when I walk in the door. And I can tell you that, in this club, no other girl will come within a mile of me when this chick is working.

It happens, especially in the smaller clubs. Honestly, if there was an easy way to deal with it I would like to hear it.
Alucard
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12 years ago
Go somewhere else if it is a serious issue for you.
Hugh_G_Rection
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12 years ago
Go on her day(s) off and if you can get dances with other dancers, let it be known that you are NOT owned property.
Alucard
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12 years ago
"Go on her day(s) off and if you can get dances with other dancers, let it be known that you are NOT owned property"

Often that tactic doesn't work. The sure way is the use of another club.
rockie
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12 years ago
Task your "exclusive" entertainer with introducing you to other dancers of interest to you at her club. Suggest nicely that you'll take your business to a different club if the exclusive tag is not removed. I've ducked, dodged, and changed clubs too, but these days I'd prefer to stay local and establish an even playing field that suits me.
stenton1
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12 years ago
We realize that many of these dancers are emotional train wrecks if you push the wrong buttons within them, I feel that of there is one club in particular that you prefer, and your "relationship" with a specific dancer is over, then go anyway. You control the scene with your money. This has happened to me a few times in the past, and I am always nice about it, but tell them that I've decided to move on.
Sure, some get angry, but never fall for this bizarro world bullshit that they own you. They'll have a funeral for your lost wallet, and then life moves on. They're born hustlers.
ilbbaicnl
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12 years ago
Unfortunately you have to cut her off, at least for a while. If there's no other club around that appeals to you, just don't do anything but stage tip until you stop being considered her bitch.
ilbbaicnl
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12 years ago
This is another example of "feeling entitled". The irrational sense people often have of deserving to get something for nothing. Aside from strippers thinking they "own" certain customers, another example is customers who don't think they are being leeches when they go to the SC and don't buy dances or stage tip.
sclvr5005
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12 years ago
^^^ also there are the RIL customers that becomes delusional in their dealings with their ATF and do their own version of possessiveness. I'm not talking about whales....just the average Joe/Jane who goes from infatuated to creepy to stalker.
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