Comments by dr_lee (page 3)

I’ve literally never asked for sex. Part of it is you never know if she will be offended. The other is I’m at a strip club to actually see stripping. There’s also the fear of rejection.

Getting more into the actual physical and away from the other things, I favor brunettes over anything. For me to really REALLY like a blonde, she has to be like Marilyn Monroe type perfect. Maybe not that far, but gorgeous is required. I give a lot more flexibility in looks when it comes to brunettes. And I definitely prefer thick girls over skinny ones. Like someone else said thick but curvy, in shape, and fine. I will go for a thin girl with a curvaceous body, but skinny stick figures do nothing for me. And I’m a big fan of great legs. I also like outfit variety. I’ve had dancers who always seem to be wearing a different outfit when I see them and some who seem to own only one stripper outfit. Nowadays, all I see are bikinis and that’s conformist and boring. The bikini divine of those outfits where I think a female should have an almost perfect body to flaunt. Gowns, dresses, skirts, wraps, etc tend to hide bodily flaws and also leaves something to the imagination.

Something I JUST realized the other night is that 3 of my favorite dancers in this one club NEVER have a drink in their hand and this is a pet peeve of mine when I see some females who every time I look up ALWAYS are holding a drink or going bottoms up. It’s like the glass is glued to their hand. Subconsciously, I honestly think a big reason I regularly get dances from these 3 females because they always seem focused on the job and not low-key alcoholics. Another pet peeve is dancers who ask if I want another dance after EVERY song. If I’m not saying anything that means I want another one. I stopped getting dances from this one girl because of this. Totally kills the flow and mood. Other things I don’t like: your last two are virtual deal breakers for me. Loud, obnoxious dancers with annoying voices are a major turn off. If they’re loud on the floor, then that means they’ll be loud during the dances. I find myself always stuck next to booths or couches where the dancer is literally talking the whole time she’s giving dances. If a dancer starts the 20 questions thing WHILE she’s giving dances, I’m out. And on the note and cycling back to the drinking thing, when they do obnoxious things like slam their glass on the bar like it’s an Old West saloon. Things I like are opposite of everything I said: quiet girls with manners and class...major turn on. Also, great body doesn’t hurt. But if she’s got a great body AND follows all my pet peeves...no way, no day. There’s always someone better around the corner,

Oh, yeah, years ago, I remember a favorite dancer of mine told me this guy she was sitting with paid her $1000 just to talk for a couple hours. So these guys actually do spend money. It just doesn’t look like it on the surface.

Been saying this all my life...there's no such thing as a 10.

I pretty much only deal with the same dancers because I’m super picky, so it boils down to most dancers just don’t do it for me. There’s this one club I go to where I actually find most of the dancers very undesirable, unattractive, bad habits, but there are like 2 or 3 really hot classy girls where they compensate for the crappy ones. Vegas is the only place I’ve been to where the turnover is so rapid, I’ll always find a new girl worth dealing with every time I go.

I’m just wondering why she’s talking to you about it and not the manager or bouncer. What does she think you’re supposed to do?

Dark hair and thick

I don't care how they take it. I used to cover my bases by saying "not right now" and I don't even do that anymore. I literally say "no" or "no thanks" making it be known without a doubt I don't want a dance. It gets them off my back the rest of the night and any other time I might come back to the club. It's much easier for me to say no now because the dancer quality in many clubs has gone way down.

Unwanted

I told an old drinking buddy of mine in a SC a long time ago when a particular hot dancer was repeatedly dissing me the whole night “There’s always someone better.” I used to like to be chosen a long time ago. Now I really don’t care and prefer to choose, because I save a lot more money that way. I only spend when I really want to. I actually see pretty hot dancers that I would have salivated over years ago and let them walk by me because I don’t like their attitude, demeanor, habits. I actually observe a lot while I’m in the clubs. I used to be like you and only wanted the 8s/9s ( there’s no such thing as a 10) AND the icing on top of the cake getting the perfect lap dances from them. I promise you, there are some 6s/7s that are way more worth the time, effort and trouble. An 8/9 with a crappy attitude is basically a 1, while a 6/7 with a great personality is s 9!

Walking around the club so fast she is basically running. You’re in a confined space indoors, not an outdoor track. I saw one other other day that made me dizzy just looking at her walk-run. Strippers that I ALWAYS see, meaning they are there every time I go to the club and never seem to take days off. That means they have to work all the time because nobody really wants them. I’ve stayed away from certain clubs for months, show back up and it’s always the same base 4 or 5 girls working. Loud females, they are just begging for attention and trying to be important. Some of them are so obnoxious I want to actually ask the bouncer to tell her to dial it down 10 notches. All of the above tend to converge on the same girls, too.

-Talking too much; in a bar recently where dancer wouldn't shut up for telling her life story to a customer next to me -Always having a drink in her hand; again, I look up and it always seems like certain girls are sucking down a glass or bottle of something. -I don't like stick figures. No thanks. I actually like thick girls that are in good shape, but I won't turn away a thin dancer that's really fine and with great legs. -Dancers who dance everywhere but on the actual stage. They actually do solid dance moves on the floor, but when they get on the stage, they just walk around looking mean.

I saw one recently that had the face of a horse.

Voyeurism for the sake of it doesn't bother me as much as other dancers being nosy and watching for the sake of trying to get the girl I'm dancing with in trouble. Like if they blab to the manager that she's doing something she's not supposed to do or something she deems inappropriate, even if it really isn't. It's not like clubs don't have cameras now and bouncers walking around the dance area every 10 seconds and they can decide for themselves.

False, because I’m like Tommy Devito in Goodfellas. I get a different girl every night.

If I spent 20 bucks, it means I didn’t like the dance, so nada.

Personally, I wouldn’t have done the date nor had regret. If a stripper I’ve seen in a club for a long time comes up to me unexpectedly then chances are I could live without her attention anyway.

I’ve got a saying “I’d rather be with a 7 that’s hot than a 9 that’s not.” One of the most gorgeous women I’ve ever seen in a strip club (long time ago) was a complete cold fish and an awful dancer. Ever since, I’ve expanded my taste and look for things other than just looks that turns me on. High mileage is where it’s at.

No, it's all a smoke screen.

#3 is the only one on your list that annoys me. It gets annoying always seeing everyone except the actual dancers flying in front of my line of sight every minute. I can look at dancers all night, but get sick of looking at the waitresses and bouncers, some of whom hang around like a bad habit. I also don’t like: 1) Dancers who are obnoxious on purpose. Like some of them just act out their nasty habits on full display and don’t even try to show class. Some guys don’t care, but I prefer women who act like they have some maturity. 2) Dancers who dance when they’re not on stage or giving a lap dance. You know who they are? They are always flailing their arms and swinging their hips in the middle of the club trying to be the center of attention because no one actually wants to get a dance from them. 3) Waitresses who never wait on anyone. I’ve seen full houses where waitresses just stand in a corner looking stupid or circle the entire club looking at tables of low or empty glasses and bottles. 4) Uncleanliness. Seen tables with spillage or crumbs on them never getting cleaned off all night. Maybe the waitresses could do THAT while they’re busy not serving customers. 5) Customers who act like they own the club. Loud, disgusting, too mobile, always in my line of sight because they can’t be still for 5 seconds and have to show the entire club they are really important and entertaining.

Another thing is when all I see most of the time are bouncers and waitresses floating around the club and no dancers.

Agree with that and I don’t care to see them eating anywhere in plain sight. Other thing is dancers who chew gum, which is a ton of them. I saw one recently who was chewing gum with her mouth so wide open I thought she was going to swallow her teeth and gums. Also I hate when they walk by me and run their hands through their hair. Don’t even know what that’s about. And the ones who do it usually need a stylist. Don’t like loud females or ones that ask 20 questions. I have sent away females I otherwise would have gotten a dance from if they weren’t so nosy. When dancers ask what I’m doing on my phone in a strip club when every single person, including them, in the club is on their phone at some point. And I hate it when some dancers take their aggression out on me as if I’m going to take their attitude. Take it out in the guy or girl that pissed you off earlier that day, not me.

No, but she’s sat on it.

The only thing I dislike is when the dancer moves around every 2 seconds. Stay in 1 position for a reasonable amount of time, switching it up occasionally. Good enough.