Deal breakers
Phoenix133
Dance
Everyone has different tastes so I was wondering what ate deal breakers for you. What turns you away from a girl? Hair color/length? Clothing style? Tattoos? Waist size? Small breasts? Small butt? Giant breasts? Giant butt? Plastic? Stretch marks (maybe you are fine with this to a degree even), loose skin(again maybe you are ok to a point, but where would be the line?), bad teeth? Voice? Talk too much? Etc.
Also the vice versa what do you like in a dancer?
For me I would say heel banging is a big turn off. I don’t mind once maybe twice if I’m in a decent mood but any more is annoying. (Though I don’t mind a little heel clacking and find that impressive as long as it’s not done excessively)
I’m overall not too nit picky on physical appearance though think long legs and bubble butts are the most ideal look for lower body.
Also the vice versa what do you like in a dancer?
For me I would say heel banging is a big turn off. I don’t mind once maybe twice if I’m in a decent mood but any more is annoying. (Though I don’t mind a little heel clacking and find that impressive as long as it’s not done excessively)
I’m overall not too nit picky on physical appearance though think long legs and bubble butts are the most ideal look for lower body.
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+ wearing too-much clothing (an outfit that covers most of her body) - not necessarily b/c what it might hide, but I don't want her taking half-the-song taking the outfit off - and worse yet she only takes it off partially b/c it takes too-much work to take off an on
+ fake tits - not a 100% deal-breaker but ~90% of the time it's a deal-breaker - there needs to be something else about her I can't resist in order for me to get dances in-spite of the fake-boobs
+ super flat-ass - I like'm big, round, and juicy Sir-Mix-A-Lot style - not having a big round ass that sticks out does not necessarily mean it's a no-go, but it her ass looks like she got rear-ended by an 18-wheeler then her tits better be incredible
+ straight-hips - don't like non-curvy hips - even worse when her midsection is actually a bit-wider than her hips
+ don't like super-thin lips - like very full lips - not a deal-breaker but if I'm on the fence, the very-thin lips may tilt things not in her favor
+ girls that say dances are $20 (club price) but I charge $30 - 99% deal-breaker w/ very rare-exceptions and will usually blackball her indefinitely
+ dancers wanting payment upfront - deal breaker 99% of the time w/ rare-exceptions - IME dancers that push for payment upfront have often either been ROBs or just sucked as a dancer - I can understand a dancer being wary of getting ripped off, so I'll show her I have the $$$, or if she wants I can pay her after every dance, but not upfront
- Some piercings, some tats. Piercings on her face other than ears, and tats on her neck or face, and full sleeves, are examples of the things I have trouble getting past, regardless of how great she is.
- Flat ass, fat ass, augmented ass. I'm an ass guy. The further you get from bodysize proportional, heart-shaped, firm & projecting ass, the harder time I have overlooking this to see your other attributes
- A jaded, hustle, or high pressure attitude. These are instant dismissals, no sense in wasting either of our time. 90% of the time I'll move her on if she doesn't drink (drinking with the stripper is a part of the experience I'm in the club)
Big tats, like arm sleeves, full frontal displays, etc. - I find them painfully jarring and I'm always baffled about why the fuck an attractive girl would ever do that to herself.
Fake tits and asses - I don't know why, but I just hate them. Give me all natural itty bitties any day on a pretty girl over saline.
Too fat - I like them curvy to be sure and don't mind a little thickness, but no huge pot bellies, rolls on rolls, chunky pock marked asses, etc. And yes, it is fair for me to criticize despite my own flaws because I'm not the one getting on stage and asking others to pay for it.
Obvious drug use - just no bueno. If I can tell that she's fucked up or if she has obvious signs of hard core drug use, then I just move her along.
Those are my automatic no-fly types. I have other preferences and dislikes, but they are a little more flexible if the girl is otherwise fun to be with.
- fake ass
- rocking a butt plug
- flat tits
- charging over the norm
- bad hygiene
- too skinny
- too fat
- too sweaty
- does not tease my dick
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I like large sexual body-parts
+ big natural breasts - I don't think I've seen a pair of natural breasts that were too-big for my liking, assuming the breasts are not sloppy
+ big round asses
+ wide meaty hips
+ big full lips (also like a large tongue, both wide and/or long)
+ big pussy lips and clit
i.e. I'm into brickhouses/voluptuous women, and I emphasize *women* - I'm more attracted/turned-on by the womanly-look than the girly-look; I like for her to look like a woman and not a girl - not necessarily b/c of the pedophyle thing, I just like the womanly vs girly look in terms of what turns-me-on/attracts me
+ also like touchy-feely dancers - she doesn't necessarily have to be stroking little-Papi although I *do* like that, but a friendly back-rub or hand-on-the-thigh for me is a nice-touch
+ she needs to respect my BFF (aka my penis) - if the club is a 2-way-contact club and she tries to avoid my johnson while grinding on-me, then it's one-and-done - I'm paying for a service and paying to get the type of dance I like, not paying her to do the type of dance she likes
+ 2-way-contact - if the club is a contact club, then I expect for their to be grinding on her part, and groping on my part (breasts, butt) - again I'm paying for a service and paying for the type of dance I like - I'm willing to spend but expect to get what I'm supposed to get w.r.t. what I'm paying for
Bad lap dancing. Don't like.
Bad clock management. Don't get mad if the hundreds you didn't know I had got spent somewhere else.
Not knowing to sit on a lap. You have to know your tailbone is digging into my thigh. Learn to distribute your weight.
Begging for dances. Go away...unless you're very hot and I'm bored.
It's hard for me to put into words, as my strip club choices are usually due to my brain losing blood to another part of my body
WCG
first words: 'Wanna dance?"
bad hygiene, obviously
scary tats
bad fake tits
Dancers that are too aggressive.
I am relatively tolerant of different body types as long as the dancer seems to take care of herself.
What attracts me is a dancer that approaches me in a non aggressive way and is engaging and intelligent.
Good sense of humor is a plus
Someone who gets close and can read my body language on how to move forward.
as far as what i DO LIKE---dancers who are friendly/have a good attitude. some strippers are just better at this than others. as far as physically, i like girls who are all natural--even if they don't have the biggest boobs. my current fav is only a B cup and her breasts are beautiful. an olive skin tone is sexy too. that's about it
My dick usually lets me know
😄
WCG
Personally all I can think is damn that would hurt if they snagged on something when I see them.
I do have days where I’m not into it as much though (but I try my best to not let it show cause I mean people come in to have a good time and get away from drama they don’t want you killing the mood.)
I also have some customers I don’t care for as much as others. Maybe at first they were ok but they later just made me no longer comfortable with them thus ruining my genuine good time vibe with them
what did they do to you/do wrong?
1) bad hygiene - should be a given but apparently it isn't.
2) bad attitude - I can get passed a girl that just seems to be having a bad day and is a little bit of a bad mood but I can't get passed a girl that is constantly pissed at the world or a girl that is so stuck up and entitled that she things men should just give her whatever she wants just for being her.
There are a few other things that I can get passed if everything else about her is worth it.
1) too many tattoos - a few are good but if most of her body is covered in ink it can be hard to get past
2) fake personality - wether it is playing the dumb bimbo, overly aggressive bad ass or any other fake persona I would prefer she just be herself, but if the body and dance style are right I can get past it.
3) smoking - I can deal with a girl smoking around me as long as she isn't doing it non-stop or blowing it in my face
4) over done plastic surgery - implants can be nice if done well but some girls take it too far. I won't turn a girl down just because they went a few sizes too far on their implants but it makes me less likely to choose her over the competition
I had a coworker a few years back that told a similar story, her friend made up a scenario about a three way (MFF) relationship going bad. They got into a tussle on stage, but the 'bouncers' broke it up before any tits exposed. She enjoyed the hotel, food, drinking, and moment of 'fame '.
Interesting that you're the only one to mention that so far. I can usually get past a few things I could do without (lots of tattoos, nipple piercings), but heel banging is one of the few deal-breakers for me. Comes off to me as too aggressive. In my view, it's not conducive to a GFE, which is often what I'm looking for in a dance partner. Of course, to each his own.
Deal Breakers:
Bad Hygiene
Serious Drug Abuse
Nipple Piercings
-Bouncing during lap dances
-Getting hands swiped away from boobies when getting set of multiple dances (totally understand dancer not wanting to get groped for single dance, but I never get open floor dances or single dances - always multiple dances in VIP, and hands getting swiped away by 3rd dance of a 3 dance set earns a never again rating)
-Getting glitter or spray tan on my pants
-Fake butts
-High pressure hustle (I get it dancers are there to make money, and I am not a time waster or cheapskate, but high pressure hustle gets a prompt adios. Sit with me a few minutes, and if you're fun and quasi my type, I'm spending money).
-Telling outrageous lies (so unnecessary)
-Bad breath (mild cigarette smell not a deal killer)
-Snatch stank
-So high that can't carry a coherent conversation
-Overcounting songs
(BTW, tattoos and piercings not a problem. Don't prefer nipple piercings, but not a deal killer)
Turn-Ons:
-Slender or athletic (age is not a factor, some of my faves are mid to late 30s)
-Natural boobies of any size
-Fun or funny during chit chat time
-Sensual stage show
Like so many others, bad hygiene, bad attitude, entitlement, and ROB behaviour.
I don't mind the tats and piercings. In fact, I'm usually highly amused by others' rejection of girls with them.
No certain thing attracts me to a girl, but to name a few, natural breasts, butt, attractive, skimpy outfit, and if she takes the time to actually talk a little before asking for a dance.
Yeah - that is a deal-breaker 99%-of-the-time for me also
Sure - there's a chance that "she'll be awesome" - but often times it comes across as mercenary
A turn on however is a big butt with an in shape waist. Or boonies. Real or fake. I'm not fucking her (probably) so it's all about visuals. Especially in her dress
Bad Breath
Shitty Attitude
GPS
Turn ons:
Long puffy nipples
Excellent conversation
Smiles and laughs
Appears to enjoy herself
Will engage in fun and drinks 🍹
Touchy. Very, very touchy.
Good solid eye contact
Put the phone away
I’ve noticed that the few times I’ve went as a customer, black dancers in mixed clubs are above average in being engaging. I hear about them providing better mileage but I’m not really a beneficiary of that and that’s not what I’m talking about. I just mean in starting a conversation and holding it well. And at least pretending to be enjoying themselves. But then again, I’ve heard time and time again the industry is rougher on them so maybe it’s a sink-or-swim thing. There’s other races that are good too don’t get me wrong, but it’s just an averages thing.
main turn on... sexy.
Obese;
Loud;
Heel Banging;
Twerking;
Hygiene;
Bad teeth;
Upseller;
Pushy;
Polotical.
In general, this is what I like:
- Dancers who are friendly and open whether they think I have money or not.
- Gals who drink because that gives us something easy to do while chatting.
- Gals who don't smell like cigarettes or weed. I don't care if they smoke, just prefer if they don't reek of it head to toe.
- Dancers who go with the flow during lapdances.
- Dancers who can be patient enough to let the game come to them. If I haven't mentioned dances, it's because I haven't decided I want them yet or I'm deciding about how much I'm willing to spend.
Dancers can't necessarily control their look, but they can control their behavior as entertainers and salespeople.
I suspect that with the right combination of booze and boners, a lot of these unforgivable faults get forgiven, ignored, or rationalized.
Biggest turn offs for me are bad breath, stnky pussy, smelling like she didnt wipe her ass, bad attitude, money hungry instead of service oriented,
Turn ons include friendly, able to carrynon a great conversation, light touching
- “ The dances are much better in VIP”
- “ I’m so horny”
- Just starting to dance without asking you
Me: You smell amazing!
Her: Do I? (she's clearly delighted)
Me: Yes! Not all the girls smell good down ther--
Her: (ethnic group redacted) girls!
Me: What? (I'm now frantically looking around. We're in the VIP alone but I take a quick glance to see if I can spot the video cameras, to see if they have a mic)
Her: Yeah, the (ethnic group) girls! They come in in the morning, without having showered, and just babywipe themselves.
Me: (nervously) Are a couple of white people allowed to have this conversation?
Her: I'm not white
It's a give and take - you can't always get exactly what you want so you work w/ what you got - analogous to the guy that would like to drive a new Mercedes-S550 but can only afford a Toyota-Camry - the answer is to not bother buying a car, but to get what he can get.
And these sorts of girls, they always look very superficially at things. They get by in life just because they have two X chromosomes. If they had to actually do anything or make any real moral choices, they would be lost.
Otherwise physical looks things are not going to be deal breakers. A girl's limitations will always be the ones found between her ears.
I have never been judgmental about how women look. It is has never been to me a moral issue.
Welcome back Phoenix133, hope life is treating you well.
SJG
Another pet peeve is dancers who ask if I want another dance after EVERY song. If I’m not saying anything that means I want another one. I stopped getting dances from this one girl because of this. Totally kills the flow and mood.
Other things I don’t like: your last two are virtual deal breakers for me. Loud, obnoxious dancers with annoying voices are a major turn off. If they’re loud on the floor, then that means they’ll be loud during the dances. I find myself always stuck next to booths or couches where the dancer is literally talking the whole time she’s giving dances. If a dancer starts the 20 questions thing WHILE she’s giving dances, I’m out. And on the note and cycling back to the drinking thing, when they do obnoxious things like slam their glass on the bar like it’s an Old West saloon.
Things I like are opposite of everything I said: quiet girls with manners and class...major turn on. Also, great body doesn’t hurt. But if she’s got a great body AND follows all my pet peeves...no way, no day. There’s always someone better around the corner,
Personally I think this is a good/polite thing to do - a lot of inexperienced custies ask for a dance and since they are inexperienced and not paying attention, pretty-soon they're down 100-bucks in dances when they were intending on a dance or two but the dancer just kept going - also many ROBs will inflate the count at the end thinking the custy did not keep track or was not paying attention - I personally prefer her telling me as we go along rather than hitting me at the end with "yeah we did this many", and we not being on-the-same-page w.r.t. the dance-count - most dancers are honest but a good # are not.
:) :) :)
SJG
SJG
Never have I seen and of the above.
SJG
I also like outfit variety. I’ve had dancers who always seem to be wearing a different outfit when I see them and some who seem to own only one stripper outfit. Nowadays, all I see are bikinis and that’s conformist and boring. The bikini divine of those outfits where I think a female should have an almost perfect body to flaunt. Gowns, dresses, skirts, wraps, etc tend to hide bodily flaws and also leaves something to the imagination.
But it was still basically girls who worked just to do OTC, and they would come and go as they liked.
One girl I liked especially, she was so good about it. A whole suite case on wheels full of outfits, including foot wear.
She would do her set, then sit at a bar stool, dressed as she had been on stage, as about 5 other girls did their sets. So you could OTC her, dressed as she had been on stage.
Then when it got down to the two girls, she would off to the dressing room to change outfits.
She was really good about all this, and she kept her face painted just so, real turn on. Strict rules, but perfume in the har getting in my face. She was a trip.
SJG
I can be flexible with physical traits, but too many "deductions" that makes dancer non-competitive with most other dancers would effectively put her off my list, even during slow shifts. Some deductions for me are tattoos, nipple piercing, being too fat, too skinny, sagging tits, a bad boob job. I don't mind enhanced breasts as much as some prior posters as long as their well done. Butt jobs are mostly out for me. I'm with Papi on too much clothing- they tend to get in the way of enjoyment, and takes time to remove if dancer isn't too attached to her special outfit. (stockings, high boots, body suit, elaborate corset, etc.)
SJG
Do you mean just like something got frayed or an actual hole in the panties? So this is the front room and all, but some dancers will have two pairs of panties on, one with full coverage of her girly bits and one without. As for clothes that are a little frayed, sometimes a dancer will just let someone finish them off. Fishnets are a good outfit to get the "just tear it apart" treatment from your lap companion.
Dislike: facial piercings, too 'raunchy', a dancer too clearly being 'about the money', bouncy on lap. Too much makeup.
Eh: Opinion on tattoos varies, some look awesome, some detract, learned to accept most. The rare beauty without can really WOW me.
Pluses: long hair, mischievous smile, pretty eyes, can dance, can do some graceful moves on the pole.
Really like: shapely, can be kinda skinny or kinda thick, but must have a distinctive waist and curves. A friendly manner.
Nice boobs. A cup to hand filling DDs, I like them all. With perky B-Cs the sweet spot. And nips.
And permission to play with them. Gently of course.
But also, best if you select the girl you like and approach her yourself.
SJG
Drug addict
Floppy pussy lips
Pierced nipples
Pierced clit
Too fat
Thinking she’s better than the rest of us
I’m down with breast augmentation so long as it’s a decent job and proportional (detest fake DD + larger)
SJG
Squatting in high heels
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Peter Frampton Do You Feel Like We Do (2019, quite interesting)
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Creedence Clearwater Revival - I Heard It Through The Grapevine
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Amy Winehouse/Paul Weller - I heard it through the grapevine.Hootynanny 2006.
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What are you spamming about? Is this something I'm supposed to be paying attention to, or is this directed at someone else?
Fishnet is amazing. "Just tear it," is a great solution. Whoever decided that women should wear it should be in the hallowed annals of history. No matter how perverted that sounds as I read what I just typed.
-attitude!!
-smoker stench
-poor hygiene
-not shaving their pussy!
++I knew a dancer who was cute and fun as hell! One night last summer in. Nude establishment she started complaining that she wasn’t making good tips. I just looked at her and said “flossing is not fun”. She gasped and quickly left for the dressing room. Next set she was smooth and totally bare. I tipped her and asked for a nude lapper. After acouple she went off to make the rounds - came back quite a while later smiling from ear to ear. Told me I was right.
- nose ring
- unattractive face
- nipple rings
- non-perky breasts
- bush
She comes to sit down after her set, so I offer her a drink and we chat. I'm wearing a mask and she's not. The mask is its own story, but here's the problem. Her breath. There's bad breath and there's her breath. I'm in a mask and I'm literally trying not to breathe every time she speaks. I don't know if it was something she smoked or chewed, but it was worse than stank pussy. That's really bad by the way.
What's worse is the dancer I was killing time waiting on came back but didn't want to sit because halitosis girl wasn't wearing a mask. Then she walks s few feet and gets snagged again for dances. So the breath monster was there even longer before figuring out dances weren't happening and moving on. Please let her have a friend that tells her to brush her teeth. Or gargle. Something. Wow.
w/in stripper's control:
bad hygiene, too hairy (esp armpits or full bush), awful hairstyle (too short, mop top etc), annoying personality (phony, entitled, or pushy), terrible tats (choice, placements, and/or size), and overdone enhancements (breasts/butts).
out of stripper's immediate control
appears to be over 35 (loose skin, pronounced wrinkles and skin discolorations), obese (a little pudge is ok, but overhanging gut or arms as thick as my legs are not), and certain clothing though not deal breakers are turnoffs including fishnets and slingshot bikinis.
NAAAASTY
Women who have literally always been with a man from youth until now. Dependence and codependency are gross as fuck to me.
Hygiene of course. Body weight. Other than that I have like literally no other standards haha
I do not mind piercungs and tatoos, I like all hair styles and colors, body typees, nationalities, and personalities.
My only deal breaker was of I knew she has a significant other, it was not a subject I would broach but if she mentioned it or I saw evidence of it, I would bail and move on.
I have no delussion that sexy, young women would not have a significant other, I just did not want to know about it.
Fortunately for me, most of the DS and BG I wanted seem to know this information is best kept private.
I can only remember a handful of girls who mentioned a signicant other or (accidentally) showing pictures of one.
One BG who I really enjoyed my time with and was going to be a regular until I saw on her significant other on her WhatsApp posts and I dropped her.
It was fun finding BGs to replace her
If her breath is bad - put her on all fours and just pound one out in her.
Dude, that breath was so bad the other night I didn't want anything else that came out of her body anywhere near me.