Choosing a dancer vs Letting a dancer choose me
Evasparkling
Atlanta
Monday, August 5, 2019 12:31 AM
Since I started out Strip clubbing, I have noticed that I do enjoy my time & company if a dancer chooses me rather than choose a dancer myself...
I'm not a frequent clubber since I tend to go once very Month & as such I don't have any favourites and I tend to prefer getting dances from multiple dancers rather than being stuck with one dancer...
Now here is the problem whenever I have been in a position to choose a dancer I usually go for the hottest dancers in the club usually the 9's &10's but during the course of my dance I have noticed that most aren't willing to extend the Mileage Necessary for such dances i.e. Wouldn't let you touch her Boobs and even when you do she brushes your hands away & wouldn't be willing to grind as much as possible...
Now compared to whenever I have allowed a dancer walk up to me & ask if I wanted a dance usually the 7's & 8's. Most are willing to work for every penny & always able to extend the Mileage Necessary for such dances i.e. They would reach into my pants and play with my dick while also allowing me the opportunity to fondle with her boobs...
They're also the ones that are explicit about what's available on the menu i.e. Sloppy Toppy= Sucking Dick & Fucking=sex...
These ones have no problem using & understanding my terms...
But when I ask the Hot ones what's on the Menu they always try to be Vague...
My question now is:
(A) How do I choose a hot dancer that offers High Mileage without getting ripped off
(B) Are there any signs to watch out for that might indicate a Hot dancer would be fun either during dances OR VIP
Using my approach in a club goes like this:
(i) Arrive in the club, park my car & after a pat down enter the club
(ii) Go the bar & order a drink while my eye adjust to the darkness in the club
(iii) Start watching the dancers on the stage while keeping a track of dancers giving dancers to customer to determine whether or not the offer High Mileage Dances
(iv) Sees a hot dancer walk by & then tap her on the shoulder & let her know I need a dance if she's free
(v) If the dance is very High Mileage & she offers extras I will try I negotiate the specifics & exact price before heading to the VIP Room
But also sometimes while my eye is busy scanning dancers I occasionally by accident look at a dancer too long & by the next minute she's already over my side asking if I need any dances { Sometimes I do get dances if she's hot & other times I just let them know I just got here especially when she isn't my type}
So folks how do you choose your dancers especially when you're new to a Particular Strip Club?
I'm not a frequent clubber since I tend to go once very Month & as such I don't have any favourites and I tend to prefer getting dances from multiple dancers rather than being stuck with one dancer...
Now here is the problem whenever I have been in a position to choose a dancer I usually go for the hottest dancers in the club usually the 9's &10's but during the course of my dance I have noticed that most aren't willing to extend the Mileage Necessary for such dances i.e. Wouldn't let you touch her Boobs and even when you do she brushes your hands away & wouldn't be willing to grind as much as possible...
Now compared to whenever I have allowed a dancer walk up to me & ask if I wanted a dance usually the 7's & 8's. Most are willing to work for every penny & always able to extend the Mileage Necessary for such dances i.e. They would reach into my pants and play with my dick while also allowing me the opportunity to fondle with her boobs...
They're also the ones that are explicit about what's available on the menu i.e. Sloppy Toppy= Sucking Dick & Fucking=sex...
These ones have no problem using & understanding my terms...
But when I ask the Hot ones what's on the Menu they always try to be Vague...
My question now is:
(A) How do I choose a hot dancer that offers High Mileage without getting ripped off
(B) Are there any signs to watch out for that might indicate a Hot dancer would be fun either during dances OR VIP
Using my approach in a club goes like this:
(i) Arrive in the club, park my car & after a pat down enter the club
(ii) Go the bar & order a drink while my eye adjust to the darkness in the club
(iii) Start watching the dancers on the stage while keeping a track of dancers giving dancers to customer to determine whether or not the offer High Mileage Dances
(iv) Sees a hot dancer walk by & then tap her on the shoulder & let her know I need a dance if she's free
(v) If the dance is very High Mileage & she offers extras I will try I negotiate the specifics & exact price before heading to the VIP Room
But also sometimes while my eye is busy scanning dancers I occasionally by accident look at a dancer too long & by the next minute she's already over my side asking if I need any dances { Sometimes I do get dances if she's hot & other times I just let them know I just got here especially when she isn't my type}
So folks how do you choose your dancers especially when you're new to a Particular Strip Club?
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B. There is an active thread in VIP now with that exact question.
I choose my dancers based on the ones who get my dick hard. And would be a pain in the ass to lasso IRL.
I go up and tip/ask dancers I think are hot, I’m very picky. If they come up and want to get dances/go VIP cool. If not fuck them next club. I’m not paying for 6’s and 7’s. I’m just gonna be honest, Its gonna sound douchie but I’m just way too sexy for that shit. And I’m too impatient to wait around. If nothing comes my way next club or save my money. There is just way too much pussy walking this earth around to not turn my money into fantasy.
The more I club, the more I refuse to accept anything less than exactly what I want. Any discrepancies just ask directly to clarify and be respectful while doing it. Don’t find this shit out after you paid $200 to get into VIP that night. You’ll get the vibe real quick.
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I rarely let dancers pick me. I almost always pick them.
Get used to the fact that far fewer 9/10-rated dancers offer extras. They don't need to. Unless you're a regular and known to them or you're waving around a huge wad of cash, they can afford to say no.
I ask for what I want and I don't mince words. If a dancer is being vague or if she's new to me, I'll politely explain that I'm going to give her some money up front but I'm going to hold some back until the end of the VIP (or whatever). So, if she's not going to provide what I want, then she's not going to get paid.
I frame this chat in terms of wanting to avoid an awkward / ugly conflict at the end of dance. And I'm very polite and respectful about wanting to know and respect her boundaries.
The ultimate goal is to let the dancer know that perhaps I'm new to *that* club, but I'm not new to strip clubs in general. Some dancers peel away pretty quickly, and that's fine. Those are probably not the dancers for me. Others will break down and talk in plain terms about what they do and don't offer, and the associated costs.
Some guys don't like this approach because it makes the encounter more transactional and less "fantasy". You need to decide what you want more... fantasy or risk of not getting what you want. If I was hitting the club relatively infrequently and with less "fun money", then I'd place less emphasis on fantasy.
Keep in mind that I don't always negotiate up front. Sometimes I roll the dice and hope for the best. Depends on my mood. I've been disappointed at times, but I've also had some brilliant experiences.
It's always going to be a gamble to some extent.
The girl still approaches me, but only the girls that I want will approach me. I was real frustrated at Flight Club in Detroit. The girls don't circulate, so this plan doesn't work.
That said, mostly I just sit at the table, make at most make some eye contact, and wait for the stripper I want to come by. So from her perspective, maybe she thinks she's picked me. If she doesn't come by at all, after a while I'll go catch her on stage
More than anything you should trust your gut. Our subconscious mind processes vastly more data than our conscious mind does and guys who have done this long enough tend to pick up vibes. Also the conscious mind can tell you plenty too by observing her body language and behavior.
While I agree that the lower end girls tend to be easier pickings in many places, I don't fuck around with the B Squad, so I'm in the same position in having to parse out which hot girl will do xyz and which won't. When in doubt, just be clear about what you want. Truth be told though sometimes it's easier just to take a chance if you're just talking about a lapdance as you'll figure it out quickly enough anyway.
As in many things it can often come down to 3 things:
1) location
2) location
3) location
i.e. certain clubs one can just sit back and get attention; other clubs one has to be proactive.
I generally prefer for dancers to approach me bc:
+ as has been mentioned, makes me think they're trying to earn that $$$ which makes me think they'll try harder to show me a good time - but in strip club bizarro world you never really know - I've had dancers approach me and be very forward then turn out to be duds or ROBs - I've had dancers that looked disinterested on the floor and have subsequently rocked my PL-world
+ I prefer dancers approach me bc when I go to the clubs I don't want to have to put in work/effort chasing down dancers
So my default pref is for dancers to approach me although at times I will do the approaching and I admit that being the approacher usually results in being more able to get with the particular dancers one wants most - waiting to be approached also means having to deal with dancers one is not interested in - I like getting with as many dancers as possible in the club that are my type and sometimes I get cockblocked by dancers not my rype talking me up - generally like others I usually sit back and make eye-contact with dancers that interest me and avoid eye-contact with those that don't interest me.
But in some clubs one has to be proactive or one can often leave empty-handed.
As Rick mentioned, with experience one kinda develops a PL 6th-sense w.r.t. dancers but of course it's not foolproof - sometimes one can see which dancers are high-mileage by observing how they dance for others (in clubs where you can do that).
If a dancer I'm interested in is talking me up and has issues with my hands wandering as we talk, then it's usually a no-go for me (again nothing is foolproof so her letting my hands wander while we talk is no guarantee she won't be a dud when it comes time for action).
In the end if one is looking-for/wanting a specific experience, one is usually better-served being proactive and the initiator vs leaving it up to the dancers - and why in part many SCers like having fave-dancers bc they know what they'll be getting.
^That’s a pretty good way to approach it.
I wouldn't set a rule...some of my best dancer relationships today were not my type to begin with but turned out to be pretty amazing.
Many times, I will ask a waitress to send a dancer over, especially if a have a cf in the club. I prefer the dancer approach me though. It’s better they be desperate than me.
Sometimes I run into the same problems that everyone does (girls I want disappearing, girls I don't want approaching me) but that's part of the game. One thing that makes me different, though, is that I almost never sit at the club. I just feel like a target when I sit, so I stand and walk. Girls have told me that it makes me appear unapproachable. Ah well.
All that said, Dugan probably said it best when he said to go with your gut. I don't do VIPs so my gambles are small, and I've learned to cut women off after one dance if necessary. That's so important: don't accept substandard performance - however you define it - and don't wait for things to get better. One underrated but obvious thing that affects the beginnings of our interactions with dancers: the endings of our interactions with past dancers.
I used to be like you and only wanted the 8s/9s ( there’s no such thing as a 10) AND the icing on top of the cake getting the perfect lap dances from them. I promise you, there are some 6s/7s that are way more worth the time, effort and trouble. An 8/9 with a crappy attitude is basically a 1, while a 6/7 with a great personality is s 9!
Most times I let them choose me...
As Nidan111 said above if she Grabs My Dick while negotiating for dances that’s a sign that we’re going to have fun...
It doesn’t work every time but about 9 times out of 10 that a Stripper Grabbed My Dick while negotiating for dances I have always ended up happy...
I call it the “Strippers Handshake”
That’s one of the signs I look out for before taking a dancer back to the VIP
Most dancers that offered me the Strippers handshake while negotiating for dances on the floor have always made sure I left the VIP happy & satisfied...
Again this method doesn’t work 100% of the time but it has it’s own way of weeding out the Low Mileage Dancers...
however... sometimes i get EXCELLENT results asking that 9 or 10 for a dance!