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6 years ago
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ei8ht_BallStill don't know what I'm doing here . . .
For a long term CF/ATF (like 6 months or more) I would give a Christmas bonus and birthday bonus.
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6 years ago
First of all are you talking about it being a lame dance or a dance that just isn't to your liking? One thing I have learned from this forum is that guys preferences in lap dances vary massively. Some of us like a lot of position changing and some of us don't. Some of us like a intense porno style experience and some of us want a more affectionate romantic experience.
For me my willingness varies depending on how interested I am in them. With a good candidate for ATF DS then I have spent hundreds of dollars on dances and slowly coached the dancer into the style I prefer. But other times I am 1 and done.
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6 years ago
Some dancers I have known are super fearful of rejection and/or are happy to make a lower income with less hustling as it is overall better for the psyche. So they only approach guys who express a lot of interest or tip them on stage. Then there are high demand dancers who almost never approach anyone who doesn't explicitly ask for a dance. Again better for the psyche and they avoid time wasters.
This is more common in busier clubs. At a high volume club there are always customers so dancers can be picky about who they approach. At BDD during the lunch rush there are tons of non spender guys and I have seen a table of the higher demand girls who will literally turn their backs to the room in a leave us alone posture. Then at Bucks there is a dancer I am super interested in but she will never approach me despite verbally expressing interest in dances on 4-5 visits, from talking to other dancers I found out that only approaches customers of a certain age range (older than me).
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6 years ago
Most of my favs have all been gay. I personally find lesbian strippers to be more relaxed around guys and really good at giving you a more buddy/friends with benefits type of experience.
I also know that the gay dancers I have known were pretty nervous to reveal it as it can kill the fantasy for a lot of customers.
How long have you been seeing her?
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6 years ago
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two_bitsIf there was a problem Yo, I'll solve it, Check out the hook while my DJ revolves it, nice spice baby, nice spice baby
@pinksugardoll - Regarding your comment about knowing what other guys pay you. I can see it both ways. Yes a guy is only going to spend what he is going to spend. And knowing what other guys pay doesn't affect that. However there is a point where being percieves as being in demand as a dancer (which is a good thing for you) can go too far and actually turn off some customers. For myself I sometimes avoid the highest demand dancers as I know the amount of money I spend is not likely to buy the amount of time and level of attention with them I would want. Another example would be a newb customer is interested in dances with you but sees another customer make it rain on you and gives up.
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6 years ago
I think most of us here wouldn't be comfortable with it but there probably are more mainstream customers that would be. So not a bad idea to have it in your locker just in case.
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6 years ago
Yeah I think you have gotten a little crazy since going to TJ.
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6 years ago
rubmaps
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6 years ago
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san_jose_guymoney was invented for handing to women, but buying dances is a chump's game
Just to clarify I mean ask a female your question yourself directly in person...
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6 years ago
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san_jose_guymoney was invented for handing to women, but buying dances is a chump's game
Why not ask one yourself?
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6 years ago
One of the clubs I go to is occasionally picky about gym shorts so I have been on the lookout for something different. I found a pair of these short on clearance at walmart for $6:
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Men-s-Knit-Jogger-Short/56257628
No zipper or buttons on the fly
The material is the same as sweatpants
Paired with a polo shirt should get into every club near me
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6 years ago
When you say you are paying for the dates does that mean straight paying her or paying for food.
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6 years ago
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ei8ht_BallStill don't know what I'm doing here . . .
So you want to go to the strip club but know it's a bad idea. Easy, just look at porn.
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6 years ago
I don't care.
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6 years ago
Phatboy99 is definitely a troll he is just playing it half serious.
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6 years ago
On the subject of spending money fast I agree with blahblahblah23 and disagree with been_there_already. If you don't require a ton of conversation first before spending money it absolutely makes you stand out as a customer.
I never want to spend more than about an hour in the club and that gives me priority over most other regulars even those who spend way more. Additionally the first time I get dances with someone I specifically don't want to talk too long which helps a lot.
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6 years ago
Echoing what others have said. BDD is pretty reliable and especially if you have been there before you are familiar with it's limitations. I tend to not go there because the lap dance setup (bench vs chairs) and rules (1 foot on ground at all times) are more restrictive than what I prefer.
If you are in Fort Worth Bucks Cabaret is the best place to go. And either BDD or Bucks Fort Worth are the only places worth your time during dayshift IMHO.
The Lodge is cool to see once. But a lot of the dancers at the Lodge give an extremely tame lap dance compared to every other club. And at the Lodge and the Mens Club some dancers push VIP hard and aren't very interested in selling dances.
All clubs in DFW are non smoking but have smoking areas (some are nicer than others).
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6 years ago
I was hoping it was this video:
https://youtu.be/XY4L5RU6kyo?t=44s
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6 years ago
@nicespice - I am actually way more interested in the tipping for dances part. How aware are most dancers of what they get from a set of dances?
Let's take the case of you and I as customer/dancer. You aren't going to give me any priority for a $40 2 song LDK w/conversation first. But if I am willing to pay $80-100 then it changes the equation and moves me up your priority list (still not at the top).
I think there have been a few times where I have tipped a dancer a bunch extra and they totally didn't notice.
@papi - When I tip I am paying for attention, service, and priority. For me I rarely tip for just straight appreciation in the way I would tip some other service job.
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6 years ago
@NJballa - Search your number on this: https://www.peoplesearchnow.com/
Past that if your phone number is I think linked to your google account it can show up on other peoples phones depending on your privacy settings. Regardless if you don't want strippers to know your name don't use your real phone number.
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6 years ago
@SJG - Yes you can use google voice on a cell phone or computer. It will make calls or texts from a regular 10 digit number from a local area code or it can forward those to your main number. I only use it for texting and it works just like any other texting app. I think there is some sort of limitation on video MMS but I have never needed that. Pics work fine over text.
And yes I want to separate dancers from knowing my real number which can be googled to find my real name, occupation and wealth.
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6 years ago
I use google voice which is free.
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6 years ago
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steeldog65I swear, it's just shrinkage due the cold
I actually sort of agree with rickdugan.
If you want something but never ask for it you are being a pussy. If you ask and she says no it's fine to decide to keep seeing because what you are getting is worth it. But but you should at least ask.
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6 years ago
I have run into a few dancers who immediately upon meeting them they will talk about how much they loathe dancing and the SC. Which is like WTF are you doing.