Dating A Dancer Part 2

When you say you are paying for the dates does that mean straight paying her or paying for food.

If you’re paying for dates than you aren’t dating a dancer.

I pay the restaurant tabs etc. She gets no cash from me.

I'm glad it's working out for you. If you're having fun, then not much else matters.

Yes i am paying for dates! If i have said it once i will say it a million times there is no difference! So keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better

Does she pay for your video games and weed?

I wouldn't worry too much about labeling things. Just understand there is a good chance it's going to absolutely crash and burn. But if your having fun, then why the hell not.

Just watch out for, now that she's getting close to you. Dudes can get F'ed up in that spot. "OMG I need $XX,XXX because XYZ happened! Who else can I turn to!"

15 minutes late for any woman translates to “on time.” Lol

“Accidentally” started dating a stripper. Yeah I think all my encounters like that were by accident as well. I was just trying to get into her pants or “g-string” so to speak and I end up becoming some sort of “boyfriend.”

Rockstar, you should ask Gawker's advice on having a long term relationship with a dancer.

Flagooner, I've snorted her coke for free..she has her own weed so we share.

Shailyn, if you want to dig out my original 'Dating A Dancer' thread you'll see how it happened. I would buy dances from her in the club, and after the third visit she asked me out on a date. No sex on the first date...

Muddy9: Yes I'm prepared to crash and burn...how can one date a dancer and not be?

What's the age difference?

Oh, and yes I run over in my mind how I'm just a self deluded PL...the difference is money. During our first date she was telling me about a PL who wanted OTC but not pay her even though there was no sex. She said that's stupid; come to the club or pay me for my time. Then I questioned her about our relationship vis a vie money. She said if I had offered her money (for sex) she would have dumped me. Just like if she asked me for money for sex, I'd have dumped her. I'm in WAY too deep emotionally with her to have our relationship turn in to a P4P thing. BTDT with an ex-ATF...I'm done with that BS.

Random, she's 37. I'm in my later 50's. That's a lot of years but at 37 she's no newbie to adulthood.

The fact that you don't pay her for her time and sex is about the only remotely reliable indicator that it's something more -- some sort of FWB at the very least, IMO. Of course, knowing these girls, it is very far from impossible that it's merely an exit strategy. One of my ATFs had gotten married and then divorced a few years later, in the settlement he agreed to cover her and her kid with health insurance for some amount of time after the divorce. I remember being surprised how un-emotional she seemed over the whole thing; one day she told me "getting my daughter covered by health insurance was really the main thing I wanted out of the marriage, so as long as I get that even though we're divorced, I don't really care about the marriage".

Anyway, I'm rambling. I do agree with rockstar that the fact that he's not paying means he's moved beyond customer; and if he's having fun, that's awesome. Just keep in mind that just because you no longer have to dodge stripper hustle, doesn't mean she doesn't have alternative malicious plans to watch out for. But as long as you realize that, have fun. FWB w/ a stripper has always been amazing for me

Subraman, thanks for your comments. She has 4 kids (from the same man) but none live with her (long story)and they're well taken care of. She sees them weekly or more. I have no desire to raise them or insure them. It would be a real dilemma if she turned to me in these matters.

rockstar: good you're safe there :) My point was more general though: sometimes strippers have ulterior motives (Yes, I'm wearing my Captain Obvious hat and uniform), even in their real-life romances. Just a general warning to keep in mind. In the meantime, like I said, the few FWBs I've had with strippers have been some of the most outrageously fun times I've had, so enjoy it. Just sleep with one eye open, figuratively speaking.

37???? Can I have her phone number!?!?

I think Rockstar should be okay, serious relationship or not. The only comment I’d have is to never share assets (even if marriage or anything is a possibility in the future)

But otherwise, the risk at this point seems to be the same as it would with any other civie

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Did the age gap ever make it feel weird or awkward at first?

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Aww, go easy on Phatboy99

"Rockstar, you should ask Gawker's advice on having a long term relationship with a dancer."

Or Daddillac's.

As to "We'll see how long it lasts," what's your current net worth?

she's into you. at 37, she's gone thru all her SS days. enjoy your relationship

txtittyfag: I took you off ignore because you're harmless, but if you spam my threads you'll disappear to me. If you want me to read your posts, don't be an asshole.

Nothing is free; it's just a matter of where we want to spend our money. Bernie wants to return our tax dollars to the people as an investment in America, while Trump wants to return it to corporations and millionaires as an investment in America.