I have a CF that I will see soon for the first time in awhile. While I find her hot and her VIP time is awesome. we haven't had sex. I haven't pushed for sex and she told me right off the bat that she doesn't do ITC/OTC but our time together is really good for me. Thing is, I don't know that I want to change things. We have really hot make out sessions with oral and FIV, ITC/OTC has never really been a goal for me, I like it, but it, doesn't make or break the experience. Do you guys find yourselves with CF's in this sort of place or am I an anomaly
No all girls do everything. If you like the experience and you like the girl, then keep seeing her.
My CF doesn't do everything, but she does a lot nonetheless. I love hanging out with her and I'm completely content the way things are. I've found that the prettier and sweeter the girl, the less she does, so it's a trade off. I prefer pretty and sweet over dirty and whorish. But that's just me.
It doesn't matter if you're an anomaly. If you're having fun and can afford to keep having the fun you like, then don't sweat what's happening in the VIP room next to yours.
No. I was perfectly happy with partying, drinking, convo, and getting dances with an ex-fave. SHE was the one the tried to move it to sex. Sorry, babe. No.
If you don't want to change things and enjoy them as they are, then nothing is wrong with that. If you do want to bring up the subject to her and she doesn't change her stance, chances are your current experience isn't going to change. I had one, granted I never considered her a CF or fav, just a cool chit-chat with stripper, when I asked her about OTC she gave me SS without saying no. Well, subsequent visits afterwards and all is still status quo.
After almost puking in my own mouth after reading a few of these comments, I'll echo jacklash by saying to each his own, but not my gig. But it's your dime and your time, so do what works for you.
Steeldog - I’m in a similar situation with my atf, we have a great time in the club but have not had sex ITC or OTC. We have talked about OTC but it has not happened so far.
If you want something but never ask for it you are being a pussy. If you ask and she says no it's fine to decide to keep seeing because what you are getting is worth it. But but you should at least ask.
wow you really are turning into Juice... even sounds like him with a name like Pooshe. But just like him, how many accounts do you have?? I know of THREE; Pooshe, Nicole, and the original... Nina ;)
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You agree with RD in that you also agree with JackSlash? Or do you mean you also nearly regurgitated a bit? I think he stated that his CF said right away that she didn't do ITC/OTC (i'm guessing ITC mean FS). And he's not the type to push it, and for the most part it seems she's still that way. Now the RD types might actually try working this girl for months to persuade her, but i'm guessing the OP is fine with the way things are for the most part and seemed to be searching for some validation from this site of all places.
I think others have said it, and CMI probably said it the best. Just do you. If FS is not a deal breaker than you don't need to stress yourself with OTC. As you probably know, OTC with your preferred stripper is more work and not as easy or as seamless as the TUSCL crowd would have you believe. Maybe other areas might be easier (and/or cheaper), but i'm guessing probably not in your parts.
Some people might say that OTC is actually cheaper in the long run and a better experience than ITC. But there are no guarantees and you could just as easily turn off your CF. Everyone has different goals. And for some it might even be more about the journey rather than the destination. Or as i like to say, the moments that life is made of.
If you want more than what she's doing, find someone who does that. There's no reason you cant see her for what you like with her and someone else for something different.
However, if she's been hinting at OTC a while and never delivered, I'd see that as a warning sign that she's trying to play with your hopes and emotions. A good strategy for her, but not for you.
Playboy is right this isn’t rocket science you can’t socially engineer a girl to fuck for money who won’t or doesn’t want to when she’s already making lots of money.
Interesting question, what’s the value in paying a sex worker and not having sex? I think the answer is obvious that there is value in that. If you’re a guy who’s lacking in physical affection and you just want to feel the contact with another person, a non-extras stripper seems like a pretty good option. Just don’t talk to her. OP’s situation seems perfectly normal.
In many a club it's not automatic one can have sex with the dancers especially the better looking ones - in many clubs ITC extras are just not too prevalent so putting out is not the club's M.O. and is kinda out of sight out of mind w.r.t. the dancers considering having sex especially if.they're making good dance $$$ - and in other clubs one is offered sex w/o even asking.
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My CF doesn't do everything, but she does a lot nonetheless. I love hanging out with her and I'm completely content the way things are. I've found that the prettier and sweeter the girl, the less she does, so it's a trade off. I prefer pretty and sweet over dirty and whorish. But that's just me.
After almost puking in my own mouth after reading a few of these comments, I'll echo jacklash by saying to each his own, but not my gig. But it's your dime and your time, so do what works for you.
Queen troll out
And do u really want a dance from an inexperienced virgin girl who cant dance and hates it lolol
If you want something but never ask for it you are being a pussy. If you ask and she says no it's fine to decide to keep seeing because what you are getting is worth it. But but you should at least ask.
wow you really are turning into Juice... even sounds like him with a name like Pooshe. But just like him, how many accounts do you have?? I know of THREE; Pooshe, Nicole, and the original... Nina ;)
You agree with RD in that you also agree with JackSlash? Or do you mean you also nearly regurgitated a bit? I think he stated that his CF said right away that she didn't do ITC/OTC (i'm guessing ITC mean FS). And he's not the type to push it, and for the most part it seems she's still that way. Now the RD types might actually try working this girl for months to persuade her, but i'm guessing the OP is fine with the way things are for the most part and seemed to be searching for some validation from this site of all places.
Some people might say that OTC is actually cheaper in the long run and a better experience than ITC. But there are no guarantees and you could just as easily turn off your CF. Everyone has different goals. And for some it might even be more about the journey rather than the destination. Or as i like to say, the moments that life is made of.
However, if she's been hinting at OTC a while and never delivered, I'd see that as a warning sign that she's trying to play with your hopes and emotions. A good strategy for her, but not for you.
Move on to a girl who is your speed.
But if you feel like you're notgetting true satisfaction then you may need to change course.