Comments by Ghosty

OTOH, what do I know? Listen to Rick, I'm sure he'd never steer you wrong...

Utterly bizarre, and I'm quite sure that Maddog (who also clubs in Providence) misread your post. For a guy looking for "extras"... to call Caddy a tourist trap and recommend Satin Doll or Foxy...well, what can I say...unless Rick is just having a bit of fun with no review count...

?? Rick's got it opposite. Mass is fully nude and you can drink, but little to no contact. RI is where it's at. The full package. Know nothing about RI Dolls though.

Been there a handful of times but never bothered with a room ($250 for 15 minutes is the asking price - lappers at 25/35 topless/nude per song I believe). Very high mileage club and the girls will be very straightforward (and aggressive) with what they do. You're probably better off just going and finding out, though perhaps someone who is more of a regular there will chime in or PM you.

It's always great when girls have no jealousy issues, BTW.

Happens all the time if I know them well. They'll even go and talk me up to another dancer if I express an interest. Had a reverse situation Saturday night. Girl A (who I have done private rooms with before) knew I was interested in Girl B. Sure enough, later I did a room with Girl B who told me after that Girl A had told her, "If you're going to do a room with Ghosty, you should know he fucks really good." I'll take that kind of recommendation any day.

I will be changing my socks, shirt, undershirt, and applying deoperant in the parking lot before entering the club today. :)

Golden Banana. My closest strip club. Great looking dancers but absolutely no contact. I never go there.

I have met maddog at our favorite club thanks to PM's here and a mutual dancer friend.

Never have. Sure couldn't bring her to my regular place now or she'd be asking me, "uh...how come everyone knows you here?". Awkward.

Loves it.

Providence, RI. There are extras in Boston?

I would have no problem asking the girl if she farted and making a joke out of it. Why let it just "hang there?" But that's the kind of guy I am I guess. Got a booger on your nose, I'll walk right up and hand you a tissue. Fly down? I'll let you know right away... Once got a lap dance from a girl whose feet I could smell from two feet away. Warned her about it (guys during her stage set MUST have been able to smell it) and it became a bonding moment. Now she asks me to smell her feet whenever I enter the club and we get a laugh out of it.

I just wanted to mention that it sure is reassuring to read this thread with so many old hands admitting that they have or do fail in following the prime directive of the club: Don't fall in love. I tend to fall in serial crush with dancers I feel some connection with. The minor version of this I learned early on to deal with, and actually have learned to enjoy the feeling. That's when there's a dancer you have a good time with (on whatever level) and it gives you something to think about during the in-between time of club visits. It also gives you something to look forward to and a reason to return...to find her again. I learned early on that this one is easy to overcome. Just find another one. There are lots of pretty girls out there. I have had a couple of minor heartbreaks and mini-dramas, but always when things had moved to OTC and there seemed to be potential for something more. I've got something going on OTC right now with no money changing hands, but it scares me a bit because I'm such a PL I spend more time worrying about how it'll end then just enjoying the ride (and a great ride it is). I certainly don't have feelings for every dancer, or even many, but when it happens it happens. I envy those guys who can take em and cast em off like nothing. Usually I can do it, but not always.

Oh, and for a regular lap dance I wouldn't bother, except as a goof for fun.

I did it once when one dancer I was friendly with suggested it and said she'd do it at a discount. She was totally bi and was also into the other girl I was interested in so I went for a 15 minute private to try it. Never had had two girls before. It was a pretty good one-time experience, with both girls servicing each other, me servicing them, them servicing me. Very hot and memorable. I would not rush to repeat it ITC, however, due to time constraints and expense and the fact that the truth is it's just much better and easier to focus all attention on one partner. Glad I did it that one time, though. Also bear in mind that often girls pushing the two-fers I find are lesser girls who have glommed on to a better looking dancer to try to sell doubles with the hotter since they can't seem to sell any VIPs themselves.

Same as GMD.

It's just an expression.

I agree with GoVikings. Why all the hate to the OP? I think it's a pretty fair list of advice overall.

About 8.

Attorneys have rights. The rest of us have to eat what they leave us.

...and that's how I woke up in a bathtub of ice and only one kidney. Count yourself lucky, and yes, stick up for yourself.

I cannot emphasize enough jackslash's advice to be polite and pleasant. Don't be a loudmouth show-off for your friends. Strip clubs are the one place I have gotten extra mileage from being Mr. Nice Guy. People will want to spend more time with you and give you better service if they actually enjoy being around you. Remember, you want to touch those ladies in intimate places. That means they have to be comfortable with you. Brush your teeth. Change your underwear. Bathe. These guys make me sound like a big spender at the stage. It ALL varies place to place and club to club, but I never sit AT the stage with less than $2 showing and more in an easy to reach pocket. They will often stay with you as long as you've got dollars to insert in their g-strings. I can't see having a girl wrap her thighs around my neck and grind a half inch from my face and only giving her $1. As others have said, give more if what you're doing is trying to get her attention. This is also the place to let her know you'd like to see her for a dance when she gets off stage if you've had trouble getting close all night. Don't throw anything unless you're 100% sure that's a "thing" at your club. I never do this unless it's a dancer I know well and I'm goofing on her. I tip $1 for every drink or pack of smokes I get from a bartender or a waitress. If the lap dance is good with contact and the girl seems to be into it and trying to please, I will usually tip $5. I do not tip if there's nothing at all special about the dance and I have decided I do not care if this girl pays attention to me in the future or not. Again, you are using psychology and unspoken signals to let her know she should approach you again. It's OK to hang out and be a "looky-loo," but you should be buying something -- drinking, giving some tips at the stage (even if you're not sitting at the stage, if you see someone putting effort in, or someone you like, walk up to the stage, make sure she sees you and toss at least a couple of dollars down). I do suggest getting at least one inexpensive lap dance per visit, however, just to show you're not a piker. You do not have to be the biggest spender in the place to get attention, but you do want to show that you *are* a spender. Good luck, and don't worry. You WILL fuck up. We all do.

I'm already a member but likewise. I'm sure we'll meet. Lust (the members-only floors of Desire) isn't open on Sunday except for football is it?

Thanks M-Dog. In all cases it boils down to where you find yourself most comfortable. Providence has a nice range of different club types and each is unique in its own way. If I've got some hours to spend relaxing and soaking it all in, Desire is for me, but I can understand that some will enjoy Cadillac where things can sometimes get straight to the point faster (but you will find yourself having to say No, and sometimes NO, a lot more frequently).