Have you ever fallen in love with a stripper?
Clackport
Washington
I know I have. It was early in my strip clubbing career. Usually if I liked a stripper, I would just fuck her. There was no love involved (except for her body). This stripper was different. She had a great personality and was one of the nicest girls I had ever met. She was funny. We had long deep conversations. She was a beautiful girl. Of course her body was nice, but I saw myself taking walks with her on the beach, going to movies with her, much more than just sex.
Of course the relationship ended up in a bad, stressful way. Every now and then I'll think about her and reminisce on the times we had. I'll miss her, but then I'll see a stripper on stage with an amazing body, and my focus turns to trying to take this girl on stage home for the night. Speaking from the words of a true strip club junkie.
P.S. (of course money is involved, I'm not inquitous lol).
Of course the relationship ended up in a bad, stressful way. Every now and then I'll think about her and reminisce on the times we had. I'll miss her, but then I'll see a stripper on stage with an amazing body, and my focus turns to trying to take this girl on stage home for the night. Speaking from the words of a true strip club junkie.
P.S. (of course money is involved, I'm not inquitous lol).
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I'm down for hearing everyone else's stories, though. :)
When I first started in this hobby, I had an older buddy who fell in love with an old school stripper who was amazingly charming, classy and, of course, beautiful. Her approach was heavy in the seduction hustle and he fell hard. After he started spending enough on her ITC, she eventually met him for dates, slept with him a few times and even had him over to her house on one Thanksgiving. The whole time, she continued to coax him into the club and he continued spending large sums of money on her, until he eventually went broke. It was like watching a train wreck in very slow motion. The lessons learned from his experience have never left me.
Now I have made my share of other mistakes over the years, but none that ended up being too costly. I will always be grateful to my buddy for inviting me along on some of his adventures and keeping me in the loop on what was happening as it may very well have spared me from eventually dealing with my own version of this.
Not very happy to have met her in a strip club. One of God's practical jokes on me.
Of course, if I had met her outside a strip club, we may have looked at each other for a moment and kept on walking through our lives. I know I have done that to many times.
So perhaps I should be glad I had that amount of time with her.
;)
I only go to see one dancer right now and I miss her deeply if more than 4 or 5 days go by without a call or a text. So....?
I only go to see one dancer right now and I miss her deeply if more than 4 or 5 days go by without a call or a text. So....?"
EXACTLY motorhead, exactly!!
It is exactly the same way with my current ATF. I'm exclusive with her, and she is in my thoughts every day. love, lust, & strong feelings...it is hard to sort it out.
It is SO very interesting how we Guys & Gals interact with each other. How much is REALLY within our control to some degree. And how much is instinct & biologically driven. I CAN't give you a clear answer at this exact point in time.
That dancer set her cigarette down, put her hands on my knees and told me, "Honey, I don't mean to offend you with what I'm about to say, so don't take it the wrong way, but you don't have enough money for me to hustle you."
That statement has stuck with me ever since. So I've come to let myself care about these dancers and their well-being.
On a related note: The girl who imparted that wisdom on me, lived in one of the worst neighborhoods in Atlanta. I got drunk one night and met her at her place. Saw her in her yard crying with a bloody nose. Liquid courage made me puff my chest and try and be chivalrous. Saw her huge, buff, power lesbian roommate come down and confront me and she begged me to leave, so I totally did.
Met her the next day at her place again, horrified at myself that I had the balls to roll up to that part of town at night by myself. PRETTY SURE that power lesbian was her pimp.
Yet dancers have a heart too. So I know they are capable of loving someone......
I understand & know just how you feel. :)
Jackattack, serpentx, Ohio, igloo, deogol- great stories
Rick Dugan- great story man, that should let all of us know about the danger of falling in love with a stripper.
GoVikings- that link was very appropriate for me lol
Love isn't instant. It happens over time once we've learned the in's and out's of people. Very few people have enough true interaction with a dancer to actually know what's real and what isn't AND to accept it.
Additionally these relationship grow based on money. If they somehow get to the point that they are beyond money entirely and become normal relationships they are rare. Love is rare normally, so this would be doubly rare...
With the exception of Courtney, Sunny, Red, Nyla, Gina, Giselle, Penny, Nikita (twice) and Sharon, the answer is no.
Opps, forgot Isabella, my first true stripper crush. Sorry, babe.
If it weren't for tuscl's discussions I think I might have been like the guy in rickdugan's story. I entered this hobby at an old age with potloads of cash at my disposal and, initially, I was like a greedy kid in a candy store. Reading a few of the pathetic stories on the discussion board quickly set my head straight.
As for the cases of lust - very expensive for me since the objects of my lascivious desire have both been from the opposite side of the country. I have spent much more on travel expenses for the girls and me than the relative pittances the girls charge me for their services.
Loved your post, I could name a few myself.
Love? - maybe!
I met this Hispanic beauty, she laughed easily, had a "fuck me" look that could raise the dead, soft natural C-cups, an ass that looked great covered or bare and - - - - issues. When I, toward the end of our run, was spending more time fixing her latest screw up than enjoying her company, I backed off a little. She didn't take that well! That's when I met "Psycho-Stripper."
I find it interesting that so many of our "callous and experienced" Strip Club regulars have responded to the thread. It appears that once we fall for a hot bod and a pretty face we can become "victims" of the girl who carries them.
Also, as long as money is involved, you can't assume that she "loves" you - you/I are just a good customer; i.e. someone who is reliable (especially financially) in there otherwise unreliable world/reality. We may be the only stable/reliable thing in their lives?
Of course, nothing is 100% true 100% of the time; but the above is ever so prevalent when it comes to dating dancers.
That said when I was younger and used escorts to get laid I developed fairly stron relationships with a couple of them that was only diffused by the fact we were all open with the fact that we saw other people. For some reason the escorts seemed to have it together and/or came from better backgrounds than the dancers do. However, I was stationed overseas for a long time and all my references went away and getting screened is a huge pain in the ass if your foots not in the door, so I switched strategies and found a MUCH better value with less emotional risk.
I had no clue what to do. I thought about her every waking hour. So, I started surfing the Internet, seeing if this was common, and I found TUSCL.
I know some of you experienced guys get a good laugh at newbies like me, but I want to say thanks for all your articles and posts on this subject. Thanks to you, I've figured out what's really going on. You have saved me thousands of dollars, lots of heartache, and probably saved my marriage.
Yes, it's happened to me several times....Lessons learned, but the way I'd always flush it out was to remove money from the equation when things seemingly teetered on that "Love" stage. You throw up that wall not so much to create a barrier, but knowing the person who truly gives a fuck will break that wall down....For me, this tactic I used caused me to end several really promising club relationships - because it's hard for me to "feel" for someone when it's just about the money....
Still, being open minded and a true romantic, I'm not jaded enough to think that "Love" can't be found in a hopeless place like a strip club. It's just that a lot of people there (men & women) are somehwat broken to begin with - so "Love" IMHO is harder to find there than it otherwise might be....
Anyway, if/when it does happen for any of us - here's how it might go....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J0YvWQNWE…
I can see from all of these comments that the green rules the day. It's just inevitable that you will end up meeting a babe who has you thinking you're in love, but it seems that 95 percent of us wll see otherwise.
Gotta do like juice and just hit it and keep it moving!
Let's face it, we're in the game together. The question is who can game who first, and then win the ass before they try to reel you in.
have done the full cycle from first going to clubs, to then being a serious clubber, getting a true ATF (and there can be only one ATF as in all time) and pretty much being willing to give it all up for her and spending all my time ITC & OTC with just the one girl.
i think the cycle will continue with me sadly letting go the ATF and just enjoying my clubbing properly again. but i reckon we all gotta through the experience at least once!
We text occasionally but mostly it's catching up followed by her saying I should visit her in the club. I have no mistaken beliefs she wants me to visit to catch up nor do I have an issue with that or spending $ on her, but I rarely think of her and actually go because I like some variety (probably why I don't have an ATF). Next time I'll go will likely be a night I know she doesn't work.
Regardless, could never see me dating her b/c I can't seem to lie to my parents (still young) about how we met, ha
My CF/ATF has made much the same comment. "You show up when you say you will, give me the money you promised, and you don't give me any shit or drama." It's nice to hear, even if it's not completely sincere.
I tend to fall in serial crush with dancers I feel some connection with. The minor version of this I learned early on to deal with, and actually have learned to enjoy the feeling. That's when there's a dancer you have a good time with (on whatever level) and it gives you something to think about during the in-between time of club visits. It also gives you something to look forward to and a reason to return...to find her again. I learned early on that this one is easy to overcome. Just find another one. There are lots of pretty girls out there.
I have had a couple of minor heartbreaks and mini-dramas, but always when things had moved to OTC and there seemed to be potential for something more. I've got something going on OTC right now with no money changing hands, but it scares me a bit because I'm such a PL I spend more time worrying about how it'll end then just enjoying the ride (and a great ride it is).
I certainly don't have feelings for every dancer, or even many, but when it happens it happens. I envy those guys who can take em and cast em off like nothing. Usually I can do it, but not always.
Some people feel the need to be absolutely COLD BLOODED about it. How they deal with the situation is their business. I deal with it in my own way.
I like that VM, I'm gonna start doing that. Thanks to everyone who discussed and shared their stories on this thread. I had a good time reading them all.
Anyways this is a thread where suprisingly a lot of people opened up.
Fortunately, it ended much better than some of the other stories in this thread.
Me - 40+, married, kids etc in the UK. Have had the occasional massage etc, couple of escorts a long time ago, certainly not a regular punter. Never been to a topless club, only to a couple of 'strip pubs' in the UK, again a long time ago.
So...
I've been in the states for the last couple of weeks, and ended up in a topless club on the West Coast. Was there at opening, so the club was totally empty, but after about 5 minutes, the girls started arriving downstairs. First one in took my eye straight away. Older than the others (early 30s), just my look and type, and all american. She sat with me, we chatted and had some drinks, took her for a private room dance. She stuck by the club rules totally, apart from one thing that blew me away. By the end of the 15 mins, we were kissing passionately. She seemed surprised too, and said they weren't supposed to, but she was attracted to me, so what the hell.
We spent more time together, and eventually went to the more private area upstairs. She relaxed some of the rules, and we spent 30mins+ in what can only be described as passion. We came down, she noticed a regular who wanted some dances, so I said my goodbyes and left.
Evening over, got her 'professional' number and Facebook. We'd spent going on 6 hours together, and of this, I'd say 4 hours was sat chatting and talking. Messaged her when I got back to my hotel, as I was my last night, and said thanks, and that if she fancied a coffee next day before I left for the airport that would be cool, else we would keep in touch. Thought no more of it.
Next day, message reply saying coffee would be great. Had coffee, kissed just as passionately, and some groping (how we didn't get thrown out I will never know....). Says she is attracted to me. We discussed me coming back and seeing her - going to the beach for a few days etc, or her coming to the UK to see me. I left for the airport.
I'm now home, and wondering what the hell I've experienced. I can't get her out of my head, although there's no way I'd change anything at home to be with her. I want to see her again, but I'm suspicious. I only know her 'stage name'.
SO, regulars, help me.
o Does the above suggest that she actually has feelings for me, and will meet up again ? Was her behaviour normal in your experiences?
o Am I just being suckered in to go back, and spend a fortune on her (in and out of the club) ?
o Any suggestions on how I play next ? I'm happy at keeping in touch, and perhaps going back and seeing her - goes without saying, I like her (infatuation ? lust ?) on so many levels. The driving force isn't btw that I may get to fck her.
Thanks - from a too honest, too nice guy.
We got a little chatty, she said I was her type, but I didn't buy it, she tried to talk me into a private room, but I declined, so she asked me to treat her dinner instead, which I did. Paid for the dinner, but chatted a good 2 hours with her, BTW dinner was only $80. She mentioned that she could have made hundreds during the 2 hours, but instead wanted to chat with me. So I ended up tipping $80.
Am I a complete noob getting suckered or what? It looks like others in here have way more experience than me.
Anyone care to update their answer? (No, not you Rankukam)
Yes.
But I walked into a club one night, and a woman sat on my lap and lay against me like 100 had before, and something clicked between us. I paid her for some dances, met her outside the club a few days later, and I have never been in a club with her since. It is 3 years later now, and I have lived with her for most of those three years. When I moved in with her I thought I was going to have a stripper roommate, but she stopped dancing immediately. It took 18 months for me to believe I was not being played. I will marry her soon.
You will not believe me. I would not believe me if it was not happening to me. She stripped to survive, since she was 13. But inside, she wanted nothing more than to be unconditionally loved by a decent person. To have a "regular" life. She has mental disabilities that make it very hard for her to do other work, and interact with other people, but I took the time to learn who she really was, and we found our way. She found a regular job she could succeed at outside the club, with my help.
So now I live with and am in love with a younger woman (30) who is definitely beautiful, and to me the sexiest woman I have seen or can imagine. And for reasons that it took me a while to understand, she loves me as much as I love her.
She's black, I am white, another thing that made it "impossible". But there could be no other woman for me now.
I guess it should bother me that she was a "working girl", but after a previous marriage where sex did not work well, I just count my blessings that I sleep with a beautiful, sexy young woman that really, seriously knows how to fuck.
Like I said, I would never have believed this story. And I don't think it could ever happen again to me, the odds are hugely hugely against it.
But if it happened to me, maybe it has happened or could happen to someone else.
K
She just turned me into an ATM machine.
Lesson learned.
It doesn't even matter if she's being a player. The only thing that matters in this case is if she's being honest. I like her, and her life experiences.
She is being cautiously and self-consciously possessive of me in very very subtle ways and it's making me afraid. This is how all of my "normal" relationships have started.
I don't want to save her. I just admire her.
@whereareyounow- in my personal opinion you are too young to be paying strippers for sex. Go out and try to find civilians in the real world. Thanks for sharing though.
I'd say, it's nearly impossible to be such a PL that you read and contribute on a strip club board, and NOT to have made the mistake of fallen in love, or at least deep crush.
"Hi, my name is George, and I'm in love with a stripper."
You're right, it's gonna blow up in your face.
AMP girls have always tried to set themselves up as my mistress. But that is very dangerous because usually it means that the girl's feelings will get hurt. That is where it really gets dangerous.
SJG
Dynamite can be managed or handled safely. Just treat explosives with respect and not like toys. Remember tits are 'big boys toys' so act like a 'big boy.'
Except for cases where the married man takes on another woman as a mistress (sugar baby for the long haul) it is best to not fall in love in a stripper or any sex worker for that matter. Why the mistress is acceptable is because the mistress is essentially a second wife so it makes sense for her to have near-wife status. Most men do not have sufficient means (income or wealth) to support two women (some don't even have means to support a single woman, lol!).
I do think for many men, infidelity within a marriage will blow up in many men's faces, yes. But for some, it can be managed or so it seems with many successful high-earners I have talked to from 1998-2016. And well managed in cases where the wife "seemingly" does not find out (in quotes) or cases where the wife "does" find out. The fallout can be successfully managed by some. It is possible for humans to effectively manage very dangerous or deadly things. One needs to be aware of all of the things that can go wrong and consider the scenario where everything fails simultaneously or within a short time. Such men are stoic.
The analogy to dynamite is an apt one. Thanks, San Jose Guy.
-Dominic
and i like my freedom. it will take a very special girl to get me back into a monogamous relationship.