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6 years ago
So the consensus seems to be to not explicitly tell a dancer I am looking for a new regular fav. Makes sense.
I can't see any downside to saying that I come to the club weekly. What about saying "I normally hang out with (insert CF name) but she isn't working this week."
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6 years ago
@flagooner - One thing that is tricky in my situation is that I am not recognized as being a regular. The club I frequent is super high volume and I go super early when it's dead and I normally rent a cabana (think of a booth with no curtains) and spend all of my time with my CF in there. So most dancers I run into have never seen me before. A few of the dancers who do recognize me they are circling like sharks, unfortunately none of those are girls I am interested in.
@stripfighter - Regarding what I am looking for in a CF. 1. Looks 2. Style of lapdance: LDK capable grinding 3. I prefer having a normal civilian non-sexual conversation with minimal SS. I don't want a dancer to pretend to want my dick or that she is attracted to me. I almost want more of a friends with benefits-esque relationship.
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6 years ago
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Papi_ChuloMiami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
My regular club is mid tier but high volume and has showers. My CF has said there are a few girls that live out of their cars and use them on a regular basis.
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6 years ago
+1 to what General said. Pink forum strippers hate couples and female customers.
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6 years ago
Two questions if you ever answer more:
1. In a given week how many customers are you texting back and forth with?
2. How do you act differently around customers that you enjoy versus those you don't? I am not talking about in any sexual sense, more in terms of having fun with. Are you more genuine in those situations?
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6 years ago
I think doing a full week is a bad idea. Spend 2-3 days at most and save the rest of the money for another trip or something else.
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6 years ago
Something similar to shadowbanning on reddit would work well here. If a normal member gets ignored 10 times then their posts start stop showing up for everyone but themselves. For new members under 30 days make the limit lower (get ignored 5 times or prorated).
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6 years ago
@mamisan - Truth!
@SJG - Why do you continually visit a website where everyone makes fun of you? Nothing here can make you feel good about yourself. Seriously toxic.
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6 years ago
@lolruned - I totally agree. To each their own I guess but to me this is weirder than enjoying making it rain.
To be fair lots of us lock down a dancer due to regular spending. It's weird to me to get off on the fantasy that other guys are jealous of that.
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6 years ago
@dandydan what did the PM say?
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6 years ago
The dancers would talk to each other. The ensuing drama would be nuclear.
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6 years ago
I have never felt like that was a beta statement. I generally feel like when a dancer says that to me she likes me as a customer and it is a hint that she is fine with me going a little further. It is also interesting Bj's comment that it is an opportunity to discuss mileage, that is an awesome tip I'll have to remember.
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6 years ago
I would say that racial preference in regards to raw attraction in the strip club is likely identical to that of the vanilla dating world:
https://theblog.okcupid.com/race-and-attraction-2009-2014-107dcbb4f060
However outside of raw attraction it does seem that there are some tropes as far as dancer personality and attitudes. Cuban and black girls seem to both have a particular reputations.
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6 years ago
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Papi_ChuloMiami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
There does seem to be a lot of angst over the current SA landscape over at the pink forum. A lot of girls there seem to only want the classic "worship and buy me a house" style of sugaring which doesn't seem to be where the sugar market is heading.
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6 years ago
I would also agree that mixed race women are almost always super gorgeous. I would also agree with Cashman1234 that ethnicity is not something I would ask about until I got to know them pretty well.
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6 years ago
Seeking arrangement
Classically it was for sugar baby/sugar daddy relationships but it is more like tinder with payment these days. Possible types of arrangements there run the gamut.
Search this on google to find threads here about it: "seeking arrangement site:tuscl.net"
You might want to sign up just for fun to see what kind of messages you get!
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6 years ago
@Nicole1994 - In another thread you asked why guys hang around here. The questions you are asking are sort of what drew me in initially. This is a weird secret world and it is interesting to learn the quirks. I am guessing you will discover SA next and then start asking about that.
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6 years ago
Thanks for all the good feedback guys. I am going to up the amount I am offering and then make that a guaranteed minimum instead of a flat rate. That way I get more of the experience I want and it is always beneficial to her. I am genuinely not trying to be a cheapskate here.
Regarding the comments about $100 being really cheap for an hour of time. The club I frequent has dirt cheap fees for dancers and the club takes zero percentage of what the girls make. So it's pretty easy to get an hour of conversation and a 2-3 dances for around $50 (during early dayshift).
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6 years ago
@Dolfan - I am already buying a room. At my club a cabana or VIP is $25/50 to the club for an hour and everything else negotiable with the dancer.
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6 years ago
One other part of this is that she has been super generous in the past. Skip songs and usually whatever half a song I stop after the LDK is usually free. That generosity decreased a bit over time so setting a flat rate sort of solidifies my deal.
@theOSU - I would say having to keep a count of the number of songs in my head does decrease the fantasy. Also waiting to the start of a song has always felt unnatural/robotic to me I would rather just start when it feels natural.
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6 years ago
@nicole1994 - Regarding your question about what attracts men to this site: For me the "secret world" is fascinating to me, strip clubs are bizzaro world and have unwritten rules. That part initially attracted me here as I wanted to figure out what the deal is. As time went on I find a lot of the weird anarchy of the site entertaining. Since you are new to the site keep in that there are a lot of fake troll accounts and one or two people with serious mental issues (san_jose_guy). The site is pretty much unmoderated.
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6 years ago
I think a lot of you guys are looking at this like it is negotiating in business or buying a car. One fundamental difference to keep in mind is that you are dealing with the dancer's own sense of self worth.
@EzilyConfuzd - I would definitely disagree with you that there are not differences in quality of service.
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6 years ago
Super hot girl but I don't mind tats. Not a bad dance but changing positions too much for an LDK. Probably good potential though!
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6 years ago
I would also agree with Titus's statement!
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6 years ago
Many strippers have hectic personal lives and some aren't good at returning texts. The point however is for you to schedule your visits with her.
When you texted her did you make it sound like business or more like you wanted a relationship?
I can say that my CF is amazing at being responsive and replying to texts quickly.