Let's Discuss: Midlife crisis=go on a BG banging bender in TJ

38 comments

• abqspencer

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  6 years ago

  Sounds fun...drink plenty of fluids so you aren't shooting dust by the 10th or 11th
• PutaTester

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  6 years ago

  Anyone else ever taken a man vacation like this? Yes. I try to do so every couple of months. I have also taken HK girls to Ensenada and Rosarito for overnight trips. I save money by not going to US clubs and spend it in TJ. I am mid-life plus a few decades.
• Warrior15

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  6 years ago

  TJ is fun. I've been there twice now and can't wait to go back. But not sure I would want to stay there for a full week. It's not exactly luxury surroundings so I was ready to get out after a couple of days each time. I might want to go sight seeing for a day or so I guess. For two days, Hong Kong is The Bomb. I've taken little trips like that to other areas. Las Vegas, Miami, New York. Tijuana gives you the best value by far.
• Uprightcitizen

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  6 years ago

  The fact that you mention SJG in your post invalidates it. Go ahead and unignore him and read useless posts about stuff he read online all in the context of his twisted view of the world. I have never been to TJ but common sense tells me to talk to veterans and not wanna bees
• mjx01

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  6 years ago

  excellent idea, but would take Frankfurt over TJ
• cubbieguy

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  6 years ago

  Depending on your financial situation i would do the fkk over tj if you really wanted to treat yourself. I have done the fkk and tj twice each. The fkk is more relaxing and enjoyable in my opinion. Also, if you are talking about going for a week there will be much more to do in germany between visits. However, if your budget is tight or latinas is really your thing tj is still an excellent choice.
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  The destination wasn't based on money as much as the time I have available. I travel for work so the wife doesn't suspect anything out of the ordinary when I leave on a Monday and come back late on Friday. If I was going to an exotic monger destination it would require more time to enjoy. With this trip I get to sleep in Monday morning, catch a plan for a quick hour flight and be at Cascadas just in time for check in.
• Bavarian

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  6 years ago

  Cubbieguy, since you have done both can you write more about the attractiveness of the women? I like Latinas and Eastern European women so the tie breaker would be which one has more natural women. From what I have read about Hong Kong TJ is that there are a lot of fake boobs, asses, lips, hair, etc.
• shailynn

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  6 years ago

  I could relate to the midlife crisis thing, although I may be still to young for that.... I would be interested in reading your article if you took the time to post it... It sounds like you've done your homework and have everything figured out for this trip, but I'm sure a couple of guys can add to your preparations...I'm (probably like you) dying to go to a FKK but haven't figured out how to sneak away that long with no issues.
• Bavarian

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  6 years ago

  Couldn’t the married folks just tell their wives they are going to a trade conference in Germany for a week? I’m not married so I don’t know if the wives want proof.
• PaulDrake

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  6 years ago

  I think doing a full week is a bad idea. Spend 2-3 days at most and save the rest of the money for another trip or something else.
• Warrior15

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  6 years ago

  Thing about telling my wife where I am going is that she would want to tag along. A few days in San Diego, she doesn't care about. But if I took a trip to Europe, she would want to go.
• Cashman1234

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  6 years ago

  I’ve never done it - and I seriously doubt that I ever will. It’s an interesting idea - but it’s not on my list of things to do. I hope you have a great time - and I hope your wife doesn’t find out.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  6 years ago

  If I did something like this it would be Germany, but TJ sounds like fun, too. Don't let anyone tell you that you're having fun wrong.
• shailynn

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  6 years ago

  I have the same exact issue as Warrior. When I get to go somewhere cool for work, my wife usually wants to go and anywhere outside the country is considered cool in her book. I’ve always wanted to get a group of friends (like 2-4 guys) and use the excuse of going to Oktoberfest. Well, actually going to Germany for Oktoberfest but also hitting up some FKK clubs as well. That would be one trip my wife wouldn’t care about. Take note PLs - use my plan to help you reach your PL dreams.
• Countryman5434

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  6 years ago

  Going august 5 thru 9 can't wait !
• Countryman5434

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  6 years ago

  I wouldn't do fkk over tj because imo latinas are the most beautiful women in the world no comparison!
• 4got2wipe

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  6 years ago

  I'm not sure what "BG banging bender" is except by context in you're post, where it seems to be banging multiple girls. Perhaps the "BG" is throwing me. But no. However, I've only been visiting strip clubs when I travel for other reasons and am much less interested in anything other than watching and getting good (but not over the top) lap dances. Unlike when I started, I've been dating someone for a while now. Though I do like the crazy stories! Brilliant stuff! I do think san_jose_guy is worth reading. He's always been nice to me and I think those who criticize him are either finding it fun or just can't disengage (I'm not sure which but I will the latter is kind of sad). If anybody here is not to your taste just ignore them but if you ignore them you should really ignore them. There are a few people on here that accuse me of trolling, say they've ignored me, and then respond to me on occasion. I don't get that. I don't care if you don't like my posts to the point of wanting to ignore me, but if you don't like my posts to the point of wanting to ignore me just do so. Otherwise it is kind of sad! If san_jose_guy (or anybody) posts something that seems to be interesting to me I read it. Otherwise I don't. That's the brilliant way!
• PutaTester

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  6 years ago

  BG=Bar Girl I am guessing.
• cubbieguy

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  6 years ago

  @bavarian the fkk has much more of the natural women. I don’t care for fake tits so TJ is a challenge. Though for $1 you can inspect so that works. I can only recall a couple girls in the fkk with fake tits and I don’t remember any with fake asses. Hope this helps.
• TFP

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  6 years ago

  Off topic, but I wanted to respond to 4go2wipe regarding SJG guy. Since you seem like a reasonable guy to have a discussion with, I'll try you. So the advice you gave to people who disagree with his logic is to ignore them. In that case, why can't he do the same? Usually folks troll him because HE continues to engage people who don't do things the way he would. Case in point, any thread about LDK or buying dances. We already know how he feels about it. However he feels the need to go into every thread and leave some lengthy post about chumps, Mexican hat clubs, and front room make out sessions. No one is talking to him, yet he starts to throw insults every time. When someone continues to try to insult you over and over after while you get tired of it and respond. At least I do. If he were a reasonable person he could also follow your advice and ignore any posts he doesn't agree with. Or are we supposed to give him a pass and let him continue to insults folks and not respond because we're reasonable and he's not?
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  You go on a sex tour, then you come back, and nothing has changed except that you have less money. Having a mid-life crisis tends to mean that you and sick and tired of your life, and so you need to do that hard work of making real changes. Shifting to a life of fucking strippers is possible, but easier to do closer to home. SJG
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  @ PaulDrake Technically it's more like 3 days, I think a full week would kill me. I'm getting there on Monday later in the day and Thursday is the last day of mongering. More like 3 days and then a little bit more.
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  Tossing this out there also, I'll be checking in on July 16th-would love to meet other board members.
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  I refreshed my thread without logging in and saw the SJG comment, damn didn't even occur to me it would bypass the ignore if I wasn't logged in. This is why I should have prefaced this with an article, I'll do my best to explain. One thing that came out of my midlife crisis is that I need to stop being a bitch to the world and enjoy life on my terms. When I do die I will either go to heaven, hell or worm food. There will be no tits and ass in any of those places if you follow the biblical definitions. Even if I were to be down for some jihad and get 72 virgins what am I supposed to do when they get fat? No mention of replacement virgins leaves me doubtful on that prospect. My paradise involves non stop tits, ass and pussy for my enjoyment. If you want something done right you have to do it yourself, that is why I am going to paradise and giving no fucks about the money I spend. I have plenty of money, as long as my dick is hard and the ATM is in service it would be impossible for money not to come out. If I die before my wife she will just spend this money on her new boyfriend so fuck him if my secret bank account has a few less zeros.
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  If you want to change your life, which is usually what a mid life crisis means, then you need to do much more than go on a sex tour. SJG
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  To add, it is close to home. I guess to be specific an hour flight and a quick walk across the border. Thanks for caring, Mom.
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  Close to home does make more sense. SJG
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  "If you want to change your life, which is usually what a mid life crisis means, then you need to do much more than go on a sex tour." It does, this is just the first step in many to start enjoying life in the ways I haven't been able to. I need to start doing the things I put off decades ago before I no longer have the chance. There are many others, this probably the most extreme on the list.
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  For anyone that's shopped at the OXXO across the street, do they sell liquor other than beer there?
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  Enjoying Life, well changing things takes hard work, the road is hard and slow going. SJG
• Lone_Wolf

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  6 years ago

  My dream bender would be in Bangkok. Probably end up being one of those homeless expats sleeping in the street. Wouldn't come back.
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  Most of my changes have been easy, the problem being that I was too uptight and letting everyone push me away from the things that make me happy. My therapy is just doing the things that make me happy now. I started smoking pot and got a huge tattoo, this has been liberating.
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  Thailand should be at the top of everyone's list! I was there many years ago for business and was only able to spend 24 hours enjoying myself. Asian chicks just don't do it for me anymore though. I went through a long asian stage and banged many an asian escort but I think it was just a stage. The only ones that really appeal to me anymore have huge fake tits but those would probably appeal to me on any type of chick.
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  Lots of people say stuff just like that. You don't need therapy. You need to decide what you want in life. Most people want to accomplish things. Fucking lots of women may be part of what you intend to accomplish. It is going to be for me. But beyond that I am not going to even comment on what you have posted. Guy I knew who was afraid he was not "having enough fun", is dead now of a heart attack, younger than I. Another guy, always looking for stupid thrills and getting drunk and starting fights, also younger than I also dead of a heart attack. Escapism accomplished nothing. Aleister Crowley said, "Do what thou wil't", but this has always been understood to mean that you have to find out what you really want. To do this you really need to work on yourself. For Crowley it was drugs and alcohol. For his successors it is not that at all, it means internal discipline and dedication. SJG [view link]
• tjmonger39

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  6 years ago

  Part of the burn out is I accomplished everything I wanted to accomplish a long time ago when I should have been out being young and doing stupid shit like going to TJ and banging hookers. I think I posted before that the rest of the things aren't this serious. The next one I am in the process of booking is to Norway to see the Northern Lights. This is a trip that I will take with the love of my life though so no banging hookers. I'm not sure what the sly reference suggests with respect to my other comments. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's banged asian hookers. Is this a problem because I didn't leave a review? If it's in reference to pot, that medical marijuana takes away all the nasty side effects of the big pharma horse pills I take for my anxiety I got because I was worried about working my life away instead of enjoying it.
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  Perceptions are highly distorted after a divorce. I knew someone who had sex with an u*der a*ed willing girl and ended up getting sentenced to 10 years and having spent most of it in San Quentin. It is a strange time! One has to reinvent oneself, like it or not. One has no choice but to face intense pain. Escapism is never any answer. Eventually one finds out about strip clubs and P4P that they are not a long term solution to anything. Rather, at them one can imbibe a sexual aesthetic. One can see that if women want to be, they can be extremely pleasing. And for me the take away from that is that one should accept nothing less. But this does not mean always going to such places are always considering women as disposable. Rather, you find some other way to recreate that in your ordinary life. I say it has to be counter cultural. The real enemy is marriage. To Re-Invent [view link] SJG Just made my last login to xoticspot [view link]
• Jascoi

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  6 years ago

  the oxxo has a tiny selection of booze. three days and two nights of zona norte tijuana has been a comfortable time for me.