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6 years ago
@papi - Fair points. However just because we need to eat it wouldn't be normal or healthy behavior for someone to fantasize about food constantly all day long.
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6 years ago
I am in my mid 30s and would say that I feel more at ease with dancers near or over 30. However at the higher volume clubs I hit up the dancers over 30 generally don't pay any attention to me as they can get more money from older guys. This is really best for everyone as I am WAY more likely to fall in love with a 33 year old dancer versus a 23 year old.
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6 years ago
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founderslip a dollar in her g-string for me
I also agree I like the idea of seeing an ignore number but not names.
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6 years ago
You might be crazy person if... you think that all it takes is one kiss and a hot young stripper will make her magically want to fuck an old dude.
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6 years ago
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founderslip a dollar in her g-string for me
I do think some sort of system where if a person is ignored enough they are auto-ignored for people browsing the site not logged in would be good. That would encourage more positive behavior.
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6 years ago
Anywhere you go you'll probably have trouble getting attention until you establish yourselves as being willing to spend.
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6 years ago
I think if you look at his other post he clubs with his wife. Which explains they have a hard time getting attention.
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6 years ago
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san_jose_guymoney was invented for handing to women, but buying dances is a chump's game
SJG - You are being trolled. It is sort of surprising you aren't seeing it because whoever is behind countryman is being way too obvious.
I thought about making a troll account to do the same thing to you but I figured you wouldn't be so gullible as to believe it this easily.
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6 years ago
@BruGaleen - Trust me if you have the option go to a different club for a week or two do it. If the dancers have written you off as a time waster it can be hard to break that perception in 24 hours. It is much easier to start fresh elsewhere and then come back later.
Also how much time/money are you spending in the club. From your vauge posts it sounds like you might be there every day.
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6 years ago
@BruGaleen - It sounds like you have been spending a ton of time at this club and not spending anything. If that is correct the girls have undoubtedly noticed this and assume you aren't going to be someone worth their time. You might want to go to a different club where you aren't known or go on a different shift.
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6 years ago
Did you tell her you wanted a dance when she was on stage or when she was sitting with you?
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6 years ago
It is good to come to grips with the fact that you can't buy love, friendship, acceptance, or approval. So never ever spend more to try and get those things.
It is good to think through your boundaries and rules. Both in terms of financial and physical boundaries. And additionally I want to make sure that visiting SCs doesn't negatively affect the way I see and act around women. So I have a few rules for myself to make sure I continue to treat women with respect.
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6 years ago
If it were me I would avoid her and if she does try to talk then avoid conversing/arguing. If she tries to threaten you hold up your phone and say that you have been audio recording.
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6 years ago
Unless you live somewhere with very few clubs I have come to believe it is better to just spend money at home. Being a regular spender at home makes your dollar go much further.
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6 years ago
@RandomMember - How are you paying zero for hotels? Meeting at her place?
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6 years ago
@TFP - Totally agree with you. He is the worst of the trolls IMHO as he is the only one doing actual harm. Noobs just browsing the forum don't know who is legit and who is bat shit crazy.
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6 years ago
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flagoonerEverything written by this member is a fact.
For those like myself who have no idea what all of the debate is about... what is the deal with vince michaels? Good? Bad?
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6 years ago
What do you get from posting on the forum SJG? Why?
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6 years ago
Just now figuring this out? Are you surprised by this?
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6 years ago
It is your money to spend however you want but probably not cool to say "No way!!!"
Don't be a dick.
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6 years ago
I have given it some thought overnight and I do think I am going to try and make it back to see this new girl again a few times. It is hard for me to go during night shift but not impossible. Given that this girl already expressed willingness to work a dayshift for me it is totally worth cultivating the relationship.
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6 years ago
@Papi - I thought about that and might have quickly mentioned it. But this girl was seriously dumb. Like really seriously not smart, or a combination of that and really high. I also thought about after I left showing her the text message history of the other dancer I have been seeing so she could see it is strictly business.
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6 years ago
So as always thanks to everyone for the good advice (well except for SJG). A few weeks ago I hit up a bunch of clubs on one day to try and find a new CF with no success and I had a total bust today during dayshift. I decided to go out tonight and try early nightshift and ran into a smoking dancer who gave me the best LDK of my career. I used the tips from this thread and hinted that I was a regular customer without giving anything else away. Afterwards I was super excited and pretty much said explicitly that I was looking for a new weekly regular arrangement. Unfortunately this girl doesn't normally do dayshift. She seemed willing to adjust her schedule to meet me one day a week but she doesn't give out her number easily (I really prefer to make appointments). So definitely potential there!
@SirLapdancealot - My question is more how do you plan on getting dances with those other girls? On a day when your ATF isn't there?
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6 years ago
@sirlapdancealot - So if you show up just to see your ATFDS how do you go about prospecting new talent? On a separate visit?
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6 years ago
So this is definitely not a situation where she is avoiding me. She is just working a lot less. In fact there have been a few times where she has contacted me to see which day I wanted to come and then agreed to work that day. But this is after having a financially bad weekend (I go midweek) so I may be the backup plan.
At this point it is about half the time me saying what day or days I can come in each week and about half the time her saying what day she will be there and I show up then.
Part of the problem for sure is that I want to come in midweek when this particular club has too many dancers vs customers.