Tips for finding a new CF
PaulDrake
Off again on again PL
So my CF has been working a lot less and it is time for me to find a backup CF. I have been getting a lot of single dances from new dancers and stopping by different clubs I haven't been to in a while. I tend to be a total non-variety guy, I prefer to see the same dancer every week or alternate between two.
One thing I have been playing around with is being honest about the fact that I am looking for a new CF. Sometimes this works incredibly well as I can see the dancer perk up to the opportunity to steal a regular. Other times nothing.
What has worked best for me is in response to the "So how often do you come into the club?" to say something to the effect "Actually I have been coming here every week for the past few months, I normally hang out with (insert dancer name) who is a total sweetheart but she hasn't been working much recently, so here I am."
So thoughts or tips on finding a replacement CF?
@Subraman - What are your thought on my level of honesty? Any reason to think this is playing with fire?
One thing I have been playing around with is being honest about the fact that I am looking for a new CF. Sometimes this works incredibly well as I can see the dancer perk up to the opportunity to steal a regular. Other times nothing.
What has worked best for me is in response to the "So how often do you come into the club?" to say something to the effect "Actually I have been coming here every week for the past few months, I normally hang out with (insert dancer name) who is a total sweetheart but she hasn't been working much recently, so here I am."
So thoughts or tips on finding a replacement CF?
@Subraman - What are your thought on my level of honesty? Any reason to think this is playing with fire?
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I’d recommend trying to get an objective overview of the dancers out there (working the clubs you enjoy). Then step back and decide who offers what you want - and who you want most. Then you can make your decision and enjoy.
As long as you don't across as creepy, needy, stalker, letting them know you're looking for a favorite can't hurt. But it doesn't sound like you're looking for a new fave per se, but more so a backup fave. Unless you know why your CF isn't around as much looking for another fave in the same club might not be the best option for you. (Can you handle what happens when they both show up?)
I'd end your response with "she's not here today" or "she hasn't been around recently"
If smart is one of your criteria, she'll be able to put 2 and 2 together, and let's her know you're looking for someone more regular without making a commitment to it.
I never mention to anybody that I audition. I think doing so would be douchebaggish (if that's not a word, so be it). It's manipulative and just playing games.
The girls are pros. They know you spend time and money on a fav, who she is, and her working situation. If they are interested in stepping up to the vacated position they will make their play for it.
If the object of your affection is new to the club you can always approach her and give her a test run.
Also, dangling the carrot out there often leads to a performance that won't last if she is looking to be your girl.
@stripfighter - Regarding what I am looking for in a CF. 1. Looks 2. Style of lapdance: LDK capable grinding 3. I prefer having a normal civilian non-sexual conversation with minimal SS. I don't want a dancer to pretend to want my dick or that she is attracted to me. I almost want more of a friends with benefits-esque relationship.
I find that it works best to treat every visit as a clean slate while between CFs, and if a dancer comes over and is pleasant company on more than one visit, a CF thing could be budding.
Part of the CF thing for me is that she was inclined to come over and sit next to me on a return visit. It's OK to approach her once, and maybe twice if she is new and may not remember a particular customer in a sea of new faces. It's hard to beat the feeling when the dancer I most want to sit next to me on that visit picks up on it and sits down next to me, though.
I went to a strip club, and there she was.
I can't see any downside to saying that I come to the club weekly. What about saying "I normally hang out with (insert CF name) but she isn't working this week."
I do tend to otherwise send signals that I'm a high-value customer though, and worth her time investing in. Why yes, I AM a regular, thankyouforasking, I come in as often as weekly when I find a great stripper
What is it you're trying to communicate with her? That you already have a CF so she shouldn't get her hopes up?
In my view - when you say “I’m looking for a new favorite - because my current favorite (dancer) isn’t around much anymore.” Can be perceived as submissive - or dependent. You want to appear strong and in control.
So I’d keep going regularly. But - I’d allow the determination of your new favorite occur more organically.
You don’t want this to appear to be a job interview. Where the dancer is on her best/hottest behavior - then drops off after she lands the job.
Just go to the club, enjoy the girls, and don’t overthink things. It’s not like you *need* a “favorite” after all. There’s a plethora of girls in the club. Enjoy them.
A stronger approach would be to ask (insert CF name) for a jar of her urine and dab some on your neck and behind your ears before entering the club.
I kind of like that initial "honeymoon" phase where she's surprised to see you come back just for her and when she doesn't know she makes it a point to try to keep you preoccupied with her.
But LOL I also like it even better when she knows you are only there for her and she makes you her #1 priority until you leave. That's how it is with my ATF DS and her backup CF right now. Both of them know to make me a priority and get all other customers out of my way as soon as I arrive since they both know I'm waiting for her only. And I've never had to tell either of them what I'm looking for. The relationship just became understood after a while.
Just browse at various clubs and shifts until you find one that is what you want. Then pounce, lol.
You never know when it'll happen either, don't force it. Just try to enjoy variety even if that really isn't your thing.
I've gone multiple months without a fav, and then other times had multiple girls I wanna see on a regular basis. You just never know, turnover is high.
For me I'm a nitpicky motherfucker in the looks department. I just don't get excited unless she's an all natural 8+. So for me I always just go after these types and I can tell after one dance if she's good LDK material. If she is good, then the relationship continues until she does things I don't like and then I will move on. As long as she's good and I don't get bored she's going to have me for a long time.
Also I am always lining up future prospects that I have never gotten dances with but intend to if things with current faves wears off.
Bottom line: never stop lining up and searching for future CFs. Keep a pipeline going through the ongoing search. For the last seven years I have always had at least one CF that I could go to and a queue of potential CFs. Even now with my ATF DS and backup CF I still have a queue of potential faves lined up.
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As an example, the Saturday before last I was in the club to visit my ATF DS and there happened to be an entirely new dancer there that was sexy and hot as fuck. A definite 8+ all natural brunette in a pink bikini. As I sat with my ATF DS I did scope the new prospect out and saw her flirting and sitting on the lap of another customer and also giving good grinds to PLs at the stage. She's totally earmarked as a future CF but I wouldn't dare pursue her when I'm there to see my ATF DS. At the same club I have two other potential futures but again I don't actively pursue them.
@SirLapdancealot - My question is more how do you plan on getting dances with those other girls? On a day when your ATF isn't there?
maybe it will last a week.
(or two) if yer lucky.
good luck if fantasy land lasts longer.
HER. not him. thank you.
SJG
Schoenberg: Verklärte Nacht, Op.4 - Boulez.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U-pVz2LT…
And she would also see that you would be willing to show her text message history with you to the competition if you thought it would forward your immediate agenda.
> Given that this girl already expressed willingness to work a dayshift for me it is totally worth cultivating the relationship.
Yes, if she follows through, it definitely sounds worth it. It's generally a good idea to not get too excited over what is said during a single visit, though, but rather let her demonstrate some level of follow-through before putting too much stock in anything she says.
https://www.dejavu.com/texas/
They have many more clubs which are unbranded and which no one knows they own. They own or have owned some of the most off the hook and extreme places in the country. But just no one knows this.
If they could get away with it, everywhere in the US would be like in Tijuana.
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