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12 years ago
Okay for all you people wondering, I have had an emotional affair before and it sucks. Its unacceptable. It doesnt mean you fantasize about other people or youre just friends with the opposite sex.
A long long time ago I was in a great relationship. I loved the person. Things were great. There was a problem though- I was also in love with someone else. I never had anything physical going on with the "other person". It was a pure emotional attachment that i couldn't get away from. I fantasized about this person, not sex, but long walks on the beach and crap. It was pathetic because I knew it could never work out between us. Eventually my emotional attachment started to get between me and my " real" relationship. I pulled away emotionally from my "real" relationship because I was getting my emotional needs met by this other man who I wanted and was in contact with.
It was stupid. I should have cut off contact with this other guy the minute I knew I was falling im love with him. He could never give me what my SO was giving me, but my mind was always with him.
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12 years ago
An emotional affair is unacceptable if you are married.
If youre spouse knows you are engaging in extras at a club, then fine. At least he or she is kept abreast of the situation and can take it or leave it. If you are engaging in extras and your spouse has no clue, thats just slimey.
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12 years ago
Keeping club life separate from your outside life. There are some that prefer to go to work and thats it. When they leave the club, they leave work behind
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12 years ago
Hehe. Ive had experience with this.
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12 years ago
1) Tim Tebow
2) Gerard Butler
3) Ryan Reynolds
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12 years ago
I don't drink at all. Monster is my drink of choice...or water.
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12 years ago
You are kind of out of luck. Little Darlings has booths that have actual side walls to separate the booths but they turn on some very annoying fluorescent lights that are bright and almost blind you at times because they are in every booth. There are also cameras in every booth. Deja vu is camera city. Im not saying you can't get a good dance but some people are camera shy snd dont want cameras on them.
Deja Vu on 1st is very dark but thats about all. I could go on and on but the Deja Vu owned clubs, which are the majority, are very low on extras. Its not 2007 anymore and the days of high mileage are over.
I have no experience with Sands, Centerfolds, or Dancing Bare. Maybe someone can give you ideas about those clubs. You may have luck.
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12 years ago
Well......I dont get mad at someone for that but I do get irrirated if they dont tell me when theyre doing it. You've got to warn her so she has an option to not get it on her. If shes just lap dancing for you, its not cool that she has to feel wetness on her ass unexpectedly. Youve got to communicate better.
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12 years ago
Ranukam- No, most strippers dont have sex for money. I've never had sex for money. Ive never given a blow job for money. Ive never let someone put their mouth on my vagina for money. Ive never kissed for money.
I have put my hand on a penis for money. But its just a hand right?? :):):) Its been awhile though.
Point is, I've made it a few years without having sex for money. It wasnt hard to do.
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12 years ago
I think in most club environments, it's not going to get you in too much trouble to proposition. Now once inawhile awhile you'll really offend someone and they'll cause such a fuss with the manager, it'll get you thrown out.
If someone propositions me for extras, I usually just politely tell them that I dont do them. I dont care that thry asked though
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12 years ago
Ranukam- what do you consider an extra? I know girls that think flashing a boob is an extra.
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12 years ago
@gmd- Im in total agreement
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12 years ago
Papi, you are correct. However, drinking and driving is still against the law. Im sure if you had a family member killed by a first time drunk driver, you would see the light. But you havent, I'm hoping , by your desire to lighten the law, so I'll brush your last comment off simply a difference in experiences between us.
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12 years ago
I wish I had seen this sooner and youre not going to bother me if you pm me Sammy.
Shes probably just working you. If she knows you really like her, she sees money opportunity. Yes, you may live a ways away but you'd be surprised what customers will do to see dancers.
Now if she did have interest in you as something possibly more than a customer, she would stop dancing for you and just want to talk to you. She may even take time out of her work routine to talk to you for free. Are you around her same age? Are you attractive (be honest)? Maybe if all those things came together, you may be right in having a suspicion that she likes you.
If you really want to find out if she likes you, STOP SPENDING MONEY ON HER!!!!!!!! I cannot emphasize this enough. I really cant.
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12 years ago
Im on the fence. If its a very large club, outing her may not matter. So many girls I work with are wearing wigs and changing their names once a month. Many quit dancing and then a new dancer grabs their old name.
Even in small clubs the turnover and change in looks happen alot. Chances of you hurting her long term by outing her are slim. You may be hurting a new girl who has her name though.
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12 years ago
@papi- As someone who has had someone close to them killed by a drunk driver who didnt have any prior offenses, the law seems fine to me. You think I care if that person lost his job?
Just because a person has no prior offenses doesnt mean they are any less dangerous. All it takes is once.
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12 years ago
I keep customers separate from my real life. A customer would have to actually become a friend and quit going to the club and quit paying me in order for me to include them in any part of my real life.
I do think if she's comfortable with it though, you should go with it. If its not a problem for her then I think that's great.
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12 years ago
Bri, dont quit your day job. Im not saying you cant make it as a dancer but if you are not somewhat toned, you may not make enough to quit your other job. This isnt to say you shouldnt try. Sometimes thicker girls can be really toned and tight looking despite their larger frame. If you fall into the other "thick" category, you may attract a certain type of customer but not the masses. Those few customers may not be enough to pay your house fees, tip out, and pay all your bills.
Look up reviews in your area and choose two or three clubs. Go visit them and talk to the manager. Loving being naked is such a small part of the job. You really need to know what your getting into. Strong people skills, strong business skills, and letting go of your fear of rejection are some of the more important parts of the job.
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12 years ago
Cannys advice is perfect
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12 years ago
Dougie!!! Seriously quit stalling! PM ME! For Gods sake, what does it take? If you're serious, pm me. God knows I'm tired of pming you with no response. Im not discussing anymore of this on a public forum. PM me and I will respect your privacy (like we lying, thieving whores do).
So, again, PM me. I have stuff to do but I will get an email if a PM shows up in my box. I will respond to you if I receive one.
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12 years ago
I haven worked in an extras club (hand jobs) for four years. If we met then, you would know you paid me alot more than $400 an hour.
But, no, thats not enough back up and I'm calling your bluff. I dont think you know anything about me. So, again, please pm me and lets meet
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12 years ago
Dougster- Ive actually pm'd you numerous times since youve reviewed many clubs in Seattle where I live. Youve also reviewed the Spearmint Rhino in Vegas where Ive worked alot. Ive asked you twice if you would consider revealing your identity. You never responded. So lets see once you know who I am if you still believe your own post. We've probably met before.
So, please pm me if you'd like to meet and possibly back up your statement. After all, why make random statements here when you can look me in the eye and make them.