Comments by oscarlomax (page 5)

Before you do anything, observe what's going on and who's going to the back and how long they stay there. By watching you can narrow down the field of possibilities. It isn't foolproof because that hot girl that just emerged from the dressing room is an unknown quantity. But observation is the place to start. Then have a friendly chat. Most ladies who are there for "business" get to it pretty quickly in my experience. Then, as others have said, be clar about what you want. The woman will let you know if she's agreeable and if she's open to negotiation by laying out an offer. If she's vague or you get bad vibes, move on to the next. A lot of women may initiate physical contact and that usually let's you know that it's time to deal. I've had women to just come and grab "The General" before uttering any words. I've also had ladies say things like, "What are you trying to do tonight?" or "What are you looking for?" The most explicit was when a women asked if I wanted a dance and I politely declined. She came back a few moments later and said, "You know I'm FS." Depending on where you go, it can be this stark. There are particular clubs here in California that when you walk in, everybody knows what's up. In those places, it's the rare girl that just "dances." The stage is nothing but a commercial for the VIP.

"Chameleon Street" was a fascinating film based on a true story, "Kansass (sp) City" by Robert Altman. Harry Belafonte was brilliant, and Ang Lee's "THE ICE STORM."

Cre8ive!

It seems the framers constructed the Constitution with the idea that the spirit of vigorous debate would lead to solutions that those on opposing sides of an issues could agree to. When our political system descended into power politics rather than governing politics we seem to have lost sight of the initial goal. I know power has always been in play but it's difficult to tell who's really in it for the good of the people. The overt power mongers are obvious to all. What kind of revolution will have to occur to bring us back to a place of vigorous debate but even stronger humanity? Is this even possible?

Someone alluded to the ABC laws which have to do with alcohol liscensing (sp) in California strip clubs. In nude clubs alcohol cannot be served and the dancers can be 18. In a topless club, alcohol can be served and the dancers have to be 21. It's interesting the way state laws differ and what kind of pressure can be put on the legal system to adjust these laws for the sake of profit.

Some frame it as baby killing, other's frame it as a woman's right to choose. The reality is that it takes two to create a child. Sometimes the circumstance is brutal---like rape. Even if it isn't, it's not a man's place or anyone other than the woman who is pregnant's right to tell her what to do. The other thing that always has me baffled is that these folk who yell about pro-life aren't stepping up to take these children and raise them if the pregnant woman doesn't or can't care for the child. This hypocrisy has always bothered me.

I used to be into athletic, gymnastic type women. From Misty Copeland to Flo-Jo. I played ice hockey, studied dance (jazz, tap, ballet), wrote plays, wrote music and played and sang in bands. Loved standing behind those incredible, shapely women in dance class. Guess I was always into big butts sculpted and maintained through hard work. It was also wonderful being one of the few "straight" guys in the mix. I was and still am attracted to the way certain women move through the world. Chest up, gently swaying from side to side, leading with her pelvis. Sexy.

I always thought the model Rashumba Williams and Monica Belucci were physically extraordinary looking women. I also thought Lisa Nicole Carson, back in the day, was sexy. She had the face, lips, eyes, tits and ass. There's also a reason they call Meagan a Stallion.

I think the woman is attractive. I like curvy (not fat)women. Her ass is not as round as I would like but I think her face is cute. I live in LA and she looks like a lot of Latinas I encounter. Would never hate on her. I'm not really into super thin "spinner" types which is different from petite, curvy girls with round asses. There's beauty in variety and who knows, maybe one day I'll encounter a spinner who I think is sexy but so far...no. But they need love & cash too! But this Latina is not fat to me or sloppy. The video doesn't show off her body.

Cheers, Winex. Be careful not to bump your head on the ceiling of that box you live in.

Papi---enter key/exit key. You know what I'm saying. Don't sweat the small stuff. I'd first need to be quite wealthy to be a racist since racism is actually a tool of those in possession of great resources. Now an argument could be made that I have a bias against certain situations and individuals that have no concept of what's like live my situation. Not looking for pity because I have no problems fighting when necessary. It's just the absurdity that folk want to dismiss someone when they are telling their truth. You don't have to like it. But you probably should check it out if you consider yourself to have any kind of humanity or intelligence. (Conclusion here) So bias, no doubt. Everyone has a bias of some sort. Racist? Maybe in a few years when I have the resources to influence a power structure, and I do so with "extreme prejudice," then we can revisit that notion.

Everything has an agenda and we've been living under a fucked-up one for too long. So I have no sympathy for those crying about silly shit like "reverse racism." A made up construct because the nature of the term deals with a tool used to gain and maintain power through economics via using the dismissal of melinated folks. So now there appears to be extremists who tilt things the other way. That in no way redresses the vile shit that's been done but...it's kind of interesting to watch.

I was in Vegas in 2003 at a Family Reunion. I took a late night excursion to a club across the parking lot from my hotel. Went inside, had a couple of drinks this voluptuous Latina with a round soft ass and pretty face enticed me into the VIP. She was wearing form fitting black mesh one-piece that I didn't realize was crotchless until we were in back. She asked if she could ride me. I laughed and said sure. Then before I knew it she pulled me out, slapped on the raincoat and rode me like a rollercoaster. I left totally surprised but satisfied. Been to Vegas many times but never had someone just let loose with wild abandon without discussing terms first. Over the years this club changed hands many times. In one of it's incarnations there used to be a giant champagne glass with a girl dancing inside of it out front. After 3:00 am it became a regular dance club. This spot is out of business now.

To your point, Winex, the Black Panther Party actually originated the Head Start Program that fed as well as commenced early education for children in pre-K in the community. They also did arm themselves as a means of protection against those who would open get violent or hostile with them. There's a famous story about a white police officer who was mistreating a black motorist and a party member with a rifle stepped on the scene. The Officer was a little concerned but the party member said, "I'm just here to make sure this is conducted smoothly." There's been a long history of that not happening. Of course Hoover and the FBI and others labelled them as a subversive group. And the laws of openly being able to carry firearms were changed once it was known that black folk were carrying the weapons. It's interesting that white militia groups, just this year, made their pressence known in a government building without those laws of openly carrying weapons being challenged. I know people who were in the party and their account of how certain events went down differs significantly than what the FBI was pushing at the time. That's not to say mistakes weren't made on all sides of the issue but the whole truth has not received the same amount of coverage as the "official" story and propaganda. There comes a point where a lot of black folk are tired of taking the bullshit. Reactions vary. I always search for "why" a certain thing occurs rather than just get distracted by all the noise.

It's important to distinguish between painting with a broad brush and nuance. I never thought Marxism was a bad word. I never knew that BLM was in anyway connected to that concept. I know there are folk who want desperately to say the movement is about something other than it is. They said that in the '60's too.

My Top TV shows 1)Homicide: Life On The Street 2)All In The Family 3)Kung Fu 4)Frank's Place 5) Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel

B, I'm not offended by the "kill the cops" statement because I understand the sentiment. On one hand, it's interesting that a major underground organization has not taken out cops. Could you imagine that outcry even though many in LE are doing it to us? On the other hand, I'm not sure that would get us to the place where we need to be to forge a path to equity. But again, the sentiment is understood and the radical in me (I'm an HU grad from back in the day and many of my mentors were in the movement--globally)feels a certain type of way--like the next time the dog comes to bite me, it gets shot!

Standing up for what is correct doesn't mean putting others down. Some misunderstand this and take offense. But the struggle continues and more are down as enlightenment grows.

So---how have those clubs that remain opened, been fairing? There are a couple I know of that brought the strippers and stages out onto covered patios under an awning type of deal. Technically, it's like eating establishments serving customers outside. Does this work for you?

D.L. Hughley wrote a book about this. Very funny and very informative.

There's so much we don't know. An interesting, reasonable speculation is that whatever vaccine is generated will become an annual/seasonal thing. The other thing that was interesting was the minor mutations that have occurred which weren't huge but that means even after the initial vaccine/vaccines are put in play, on-going work will be done to "update" it. I wonder if the same sense of urgency will be put in play to continue this work after one vaccine reaches the point of mass distribution.

If the woman doesn't fundamentally turn me on then I walk away. If I stay where I am, then I'm open to adventure. I'm very familiar with the stripper handshake. It's usually very easy to discourage anyone who doesn't interest you without it being a big deal. Of course there are outliers. It's more about how you, as a patron, come off that determines, in most cases, how a dancer will approach you.

This reminds me of a time when a woman with a crooked smile and a phat azz sat next to me as I was drinking. She said nothing but looked me in the eyes and slid her hands into my pants. When she knew she had my full attention, she just angled her head toward the booths. I nodded and asked her name and she said, "Naughty." Surreal but real. I willing followed her into the booth for more explicit fun. Always admired her technique and boldness. Only word she spoke to me, pre-booth, was "Naughty." Inside the booth it was just moaning and a little yelping...oh wait, that was me!

I'm one of the few that like them both. One of my friends is a die-hard Pepsi addict. He starts off every morning with a cigarette and a Pepsi. My other friend and his brother are Coke-heads and even went through a Cherry Coke phase. We were in a bar once and a waiter set down a pitcher of brown carbonated liquid. My friend's brother called the waiter over and reminded him he ordered Coke, not Pepsi. The Waiter apologized and switched out the pitcher. I was amazed that this guy could tell just from seeing it from a distance in a pitcher. He assured me the distinction was that pronounced and couldn't understand why I couldn't see the difference. Yes, the taste different but do they really look that different? Guess so.

BLM is an amorphous group that you try to fit into some preconceived notion. And know I'm not pretending anything. I'm actually being real and moving without fear and not drinking anybody's Kool-Aid. My thought are my own based on my experiences and what I see everyday from all different perspectives. You will not define my reality when you deal from a limited box and refuse to acknowledge what's really happening. All of this Marxist socialist nonsense has nothing to do with folk being sick and tired of being mistreated by the major system of law enforcement as a collective in this country. And all black issues are not part of BLM. It's really more about humanity and lack there of than it is about political parties. I don't really have party loyalties in that respect. I do have loyalty to interests that involve my very existence. You will absolutely not diminish this black man and what he knows to be true. I will listen to other points of view and I do. Can you say the same?