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11 years ago
Last sex buddy I had never bought me dinner, a drink or anything. The first time we meet, he came to my place, watched half a movie and then we fucked for hours. Since I worked nights, he's usually swing by for sex about twice a week. Maybe 3 times. It was always after work. He'd only spend the night if he'd been drinking. We did this for a little over 2 years...? One time he did bring me Taco Bell. Does that count as dinner?
So not all ladies need to be wined and dined. Some just want to have a good time with as little drama as possible. Might be good to keep a slightly open mind about the opposite sex.... You might find something fun!
Actually I take that all back. Go to the strip clubs. Buy dances. The only girls worth messing with are strippers.
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11 years ago
I think some civilian ladies hate strippers because they only know about the stereotypes. Chicks who have been to a few clubs usually realize that most clubs aren't filthy brothels with junkie hookers stumbling around begging for $5 blow jobs with crabs crawling out if their dirty g-string. When I started stripping my vanilla friends were seriously sketched out. They thought I was going to get gang banged and assigned to a pimp. After they came in to see me they realized that strip clubs aren't all that bad....
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11 years ago
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Papi_ChuloMiami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
I like the $10 dance, usually. I think I discussed this in another posting and people got mad. But they are easy to sell and are usually shorter songs. For some reason, it's harder to sell 2 $20 dances than 5 $10 dances. I don't know why. But guys always think they are getting a great deal with the $10 dance. And that makes my job easier!!
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11 years ago
Do you ever date women closer to your age, or is that not your thing? I get it, if its not. Do you like the no strings aspect of paying for sex? Or would you prefer a GF or a friends with benefits situation?
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11 years ago
I know. I'm kinda weird. I like cocky freaks, I guess. I think because I have to be so bossy and controlling at work, it's fun to be on the other side of things in my personal life. It's possible that I try to overcompensate because of my job, too. I go to fairly extreme lengths to please the men I date, possibly because I do feel a little bad that I sell my body, for a living (I don't feel guilty about what I do, but I do worry that my work might make others uncomfortable--which is why I don't do serious relationships, as states above.) Maybe my tastes will change when I get out of the industry.
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11 years ago
I see nothing wrong with that!!
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11 years ago
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ilbbaicnlKeep it in my pants when I do OTC. If I were a stripper it would stand for I like big bucks and I can not lie.
I don't know what's up with that either. But I do know a lot of guys want to "save" their dance for the end of the night. Whatever.
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11 years ago
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ilbbaicnlKeep it in my pants when I do OTC. If I were a stripper it would stand for I like big bucks and I can not lie.
Last year at least 30% came from one dude... Love him!! But I think it def varies on the club and the girl.
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11 years ago
I'm sure most guys want sex 5 times a week. Do you buy a girl 5 times a week? I'm guessing no. The last guy I dated worked on Wall Street and was obsessed with his career. He worked crazy hours and traveled constantly. I'm sure he would have liked constant sex, but he was able to cope somehow without it. He had been in a middle eastern country for 2 months when I met him and had not gotten laid that entire time because the girls where he was at would not fuck a foreigner. He was also a pussy snob. I had a hard time getting his attention. The guy was gorgeous, always well dressed, very intelligent... He had a lot of girls poking around. He was also paranoid about fucking because he'd been sperm jacked, in the past.
Not all the guys I've dated had that kind of $, though. You are right. Some of them could not afford to pay for pussy 5 times a week. But they wouldn't pay for pussy period. Their egos wouldn't allow it. But, I tend to date guys who are well off. I don't care about money. I really don't. I do like guys who are crazy ambitious and those types of guys tend to have good careers.
Now, when I was 18-22ish, I dated some real losers. I was still looking for that powerful, alpha male type but I was too young to be able to tell the difference between alpha and asshole. During those years I dated some controlling, angry, idiots. But, I've learned..
Again, I'm not saying anything bad about guys who get lapdances on the regular. I think it's understandable why I might not be attracted to a guy with that particular hobby. I'm also not attracted to guys who are into rodeos or Star Trek or who are Asian or short.... None of those guys are bad. They just aren't the type to get me going.
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11 years ago
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11 years ago
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ilbbaicnlKeep it in my pants when I do OTC. If I were a stripper it would stand for I like big bucks and I can not lie.
I never thought about OTC being safer for customers because they would kinda know what they were getting into. I always wondered why ya'll bothered with strippers in the first place, when there are so many escorts running loose. But this makes sense!
Mystery solved.
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11 years ago
Hmmm. Maybe I didn't explain that well. First of all, I love my job!! I'm a very happy stripper. Have been for a long time. Love dancing. Love my co-workers. Love nightlife in general.... And I don't judge or dislike my customers, aside from the occasional a-hole.. I appreciate my customers. I need them. They make my life possible!
I'm just not attracted to men who feel like they need to pay for female attention. Not all guys pay for sexual services, whether that be a lapdance or a blow job or whatever. I want a guy who knows that he can get women based on his personality, not his checking account. I don't want to be with a guy who lies to get into someone's pants. But I don't think liar and strip club junkie are my only 2 choices.
Some guys are smooth, cool and hot enough to get women to fuck them without lies or $. I have no ambitions of being in a serious relationship until I'm done stripping. I just don't think it works, don't think it's fair and don't want to deal with it. So, for now I just date or develop "friends with benefits" situations. The point is, lying and pretending to be in live with me or something would not work on me. Not what I'm looking for. Just looking for someone cool to spend time with and have fun with.
I feel like a lot of guys in the club just lack confidence. I see SO many SC guys who could totally go to a regular club and find someone to play with without cash being exchanged. But they are scared of rejection and want to go to the SC because they know its a sure bet. Again, these are big generalizations. But, I'm attracted to extremely masculine, ambitions, dominant men who aren't afraid to go after what they want. At the club, I'm always around guys who are begging and pleading for me to do x, y or z. I feel like the dude. I feel like I'm surrounded by neediness. In my personal life, I want to be the girl. I want to get to be submissive and feminine. With customers I can't do that because I am always saying no to something.
But I don't think there's anything wrong with getting a lapdance, obviously. I just like a very specific type of man. And he doesn't chase tail. Tail chases him.
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11 years ago
I've only ever dated one guy I met in the club. But, I've seen strippers start legit relationships with customers. It's pretty easy to tell if a stripper is actually into you. This is how:
She doesn't take your money. Yes, she will allow you to buy her dinner, pay for drinks, etc. But, she will not hustle you. When strippers find a customer they are genuinely interested in, we get stressed out about making sure the guy knows we are for real. This can be tough because they've already met us as our fake, money grubbing, evil selves. So, we generally make a BIG effort to show that we are normal girls that can be trusted, when we like someone for real.
When I met the guy from the club that I dated, he came in a few times b4 we actually went out. When he came in, he did ask for dances. I was happy to do them, but refused to let him pay. And I sat with him for most of those nights, just chatting and refusing to be tipped. He'd always offer and I'd take his money and stick it right back in his pocket. Sounds crazy, I know. I made no money on those nights, at all. But I was able to send him the message that I was honest about wanting to get to know him.
Yes, there are crazy girls who don't know if they are coming or going that will give mixed signals. And there are girls who may hold some level of respect/attraction for you in the context of a business relationship (like the mechanic example above). But, if a girl really likes you, she will do whatever she can to prove to that she is interested in you as a human, not an ATM. She will not ask you for money. After you've started hooking up, she will continue to never ask you for $. The last thing she wants is for the guy she adores to think she's a whore.
Also, as states by everyone else, this almost never happens. 99.9999% of the time girls are just trying to catch a new customer with whatever silly tactics we can imagine.
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11 years ago
Sometimes I wish I were a man... Better opportunities and more $ in the work place, cheaper healthcare, more physical strength, can still be considered sexy at 50, no periods.... But then I see stuff like this and realize that I'm all good being a girl.
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11 years ago
Slick--At least my fake orgasms are more more convincing than your fake listening skills!!
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11 years ago
Girls get territorial about their regs. After 7 years, she'll be pissed and probably freely express this. It might be worse depending on who you move on to... If you move into a girl she doesn't like or a younger, hotter version of herself then she will really be mad. Basically she's gonna freak out. But, it is your money. Just realize that she probably isn't going to come running to you anymore. If you don't want to give her up yet, isn't there another club you can go to for some variety, out if her field of vision? You could see her on Fridays, then go elsewhere on Saturdays to try out some different flavors. I don't know....
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11 years ago
I've only dated one guy who went to strip clubs... I would never have told him not to go. I'm not his mama. If it had bothered me, I would have just dumped him. But it didn't. He went to the same club with a group of his co-workers. He got dances now and then. I never asked him about this, but I knew some of the dancers who worked at the club he went to and they would inform me of his every moment, unsolicited. Some of them were horrified that he was getting dances and I didn't care.
If he were going into a club, on his own, seeing the same girls and spending a lot if time there, I would not be down. Again, I wouldn't tell him what to do. If just walk away. And I wouldn't think he's a bad guy for hitting the club solo or anything. After so many years in clubs, I'm just turned off by guys who invest more than a very casual interest in strippers.
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11 years ago
Oh my... So, FYI squirting is very rare. Most women can't do it and the ones who usually don't experience it frequently. I know that camming has changed people perspectives on this, but squirting on cam is easy to fake. Women do get wet when they are aroused, but they also get wet when they are wearing uncomfortable pants. Our bodies lubricant themselves as a response to friction. Wet pussy does not equal an orgasm.
And yeah, stripper fake orgasms. All women do. The ones who don't are lying. In the club it's usually to make a guy feel special and keep him in the hook. In the real world it might be to protect someone's ego, manipulate him into thinking your more into him or more sexual than you are, or to just make someone stop fucking you b/c you are not having fun. Lots of reasons.
Loved the post about getting an orgasm from the pole due to a piercing. That is batshit. Or maybe not. But I have certainly never seen a girl go that crazy, grinding her junk on a pole. How would that even work? I'm trying to imagine a position that would even be possible in. I think I could run one out using the stage faster than the pole... Generally, we use the pole for balance, spins and tricks. None of those things involve much clit to pole contact for more than a second or 2...
I do a very theatrical fake O. It's all about speeding up the breath, making a little noise and throwing in a few ugly faces. (Ugly faces are far more realistic than just tossing your head back and moaning.) Then I tense up, grap on to whoever and twitch a few times. The twitch comes from my pelvic region, but I exaggerate it by letting it radiate into my thighs and stomach. (During sex I can "butterfly" twitch my internal muscles on command.). After the twitch phase comes the completely limp/breathless phase. Then the "embarrassed" giggle.
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11 years ago
Yes. Most girls would rather kick your balls than grind on them.
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11 years ago
I think the economy has pushed a lot if desperate women into doing extras. I think it has also pushed some women to stop doing extras because the price tag of extras has dropped. My old roommate was a serious extras girl. No OTC, just in the club. She used to be able to charge insane prices for a handjob or letting someone finger her. Now she'd have to screw someone to get the $ that she used to get for getting fingered. So she said, "screw this." No more extras from her. But, I think there are probably more girls in the other category. As new girls start up in the industry with so many extras and whatnot, they seem a little more comfortable with breaking the rules than the new girls were when I started.
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11 years ago
Oh God!!!! Not again!!!! At least it wasn't me, this time.
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11 years ago
I've worked on all 4 corners of the country. (Skipped the middle, for the most part.). There are A LOT of clubs that do this. It's getting more and more common as strip club profits have declined, it many places. Although, I know some of my regular clubs have been doing it since the dawn of time.
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11 years ago
Gotta save some pineapple for your fellow men. There is some funky tasting jizz out there.
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11 years ago
Didn't check out the link, but I'm a big fan of swallowing. (No, not at work--don't do that. But I really like sucking off guys that, you know, I like.) Anyway, I think spitting is gross because it is messy. Plus, cum doesn't always taste that great. So, I always deep throat at the end of a blowjob. Then it goes straight down my throat. I don't have to taste it and there's no mess. Plus spitting seems rude. If I came on some guys face and his immediately concern was to rid himself of my fluids, I'd find that weird.