To club or not to club
curiositycat
Ohio
So now that most of my free time is with her I haven't clubbed as much either. She says she is okay with me going but I wonder at the same time if we are too early in the game for her to tell me the truth.. what do you guys think? If you were dancers would you be okay with someone you are seeing going to a club? If she gets paid to dance, is it okay for me to pay to see dancers? I mean its not like im going to ask for extras, but I feel a bit like it might cause issues. Anyone have experience they can share?
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But dancers of course are more aware about what goes on or doesn’t go on in SCs – i.e. they are aware that SCing does not necessarily mean screwing around and if the guy wants to screw around he can do it w/o going to the SC.
I can see a dancer being ok with their S.O. SCing; but in the end is up to the 2 specific individuals involved.
She (dancer) is not able to be exclusive to you per se b/c of the nature of her job – so it may be more of an even playing field if both parties partake.
Let me get this straight, you met your GF at a strip club where she dances, and now you're jealous because she still dances there. You knew what she did before you started seeing her, and you were OK with it, but now you're not? Hypocrite.
I've seen several dancers say they were gonna quit because their BF who they met at the club is not happy with them dancing.
sooner:hmmm..no I am not saying that at all.. I love that she is a good dancer and I am never possesive of her at work. I am wondering if it is okay for me to still go to strip clubs if I am seeing her/have a gf. She says its ok that I do, but I worry it will cause issues if I do..
However if club A is an extras club I have fucked dancers B,C,D in VIP or CR when dancer A was not working. Gave into the temptation for variety. Also dancer A was engaged (now is married ano longer dances but I am still fucking her).
When a woman says this, she means "if you loved me you wouldn't go and if you do go you'll be in big trouble."
Besides you get free snatch compared to paid snatch. Do you really need clubs currently?
As far as clubbing goes,yeah I do it.I go to the sister club of the one she dances at,which is not to far away.I never hide the fact that I go,which makes for some interesting dinner conversation.Whenever she gets in my face for it I'm like ,"Really,go take a look in that mirror over there".
@slick:your analogy is great, but perhaps I wont 'eat' the other pizza, just look at it to stay out of trouble heh.
@jackslash: that is kind of what I am afraid of. I think she is more comfortsble me going to her club so she can keep an eye on me. I don't want to go to her club because then they label me as hers and its not the same experience. I was going to go to a different one and told her about my plans and she asked to go. Which was fun, but couldn't tell if there was an ulterior motive.
@estafador:free snatch is good. Good point, it does make me decide whether looking is worth possibly losing it.
@tumbling:when she does get in your face for it, what is her reasoning?
okay all in all it sounds like I should go if I want to go and if it causes a problem then I have to decide whether to keep clubbing or keep the girlfriend. I think for now while things are good I'll lay low until I absolutely get the urge to go and just be honest and see what happens.
If he were going into a club, on his own, seeing the same girls and spending a lot if time there, I would not be down. Again, I wouldn't tell him what to do. If just walk away. And I wouldn't think he's a bad guy for hitting the club solo or anything. After so many years in clubs, I'm just turned off by guys who invest more than a very casual interest in strippers.
Why? The only people who never have long periods between relationships are the ones who A) start fucking the next "SO" while they're still fucking the current "SO". B) have an easy time finding someone compatible because there is little to nothing unique about them. It's a pretty small minority of guys who can reliably find someone to hook up with whenever they're horny, unless they're the anything on two legs type. What is wrong with an uncommitted guy making his balls a little less blue and a stripper's wallet a little more full? Do you prefer the kind of guy who pretends to be serious so he can fuck a girl until she figures out he'll never really commit to her? I always try to be polite and considerate to everyone, stripper or not. I get lap dances for the natural high of sexual arousal, period. If you feel like all custies are the mac daddy wannabe type, trying to lord over the dancers, you really need to find a way to get out of dancing. You're putting yourself at risk of depression or some other mental illness.
I'm just not attracted to men who feel like they need to pay for female attention. Not all guys pay for sexual services, whether that be a lapdance or a blow job or whatever. I want a guy who knows that he can get women based on his personality, not his checking account. I don't want to be with a guy who lies to get into someone's pants. But I don't think liar and strip club junkie are my only 2 choices.
Some guys are smooth, cool and hot enough to get women to fuck them without lies or $. I have no ambitions of being in a serious relationship until I'm done stripping. I just don't think it works, don't think it's fair and don't want to deal with it. So, for now I just date or develop "friends with benefits" situations. The point is, lying and pretending to be in live with me or something would not work on me. Not what I'm looking for. Just looking for someone cool to spend time with and have fun with.
I feel like a lot of guys in the club just lack confidence. I see SO many SC guys who could totally go to a regular club and find someone to play with without cash being exchanged. But they are scared of rejection and want to go to the SC because they know its a sure bet. Again, these are big generalizations. But, I'm attracted to extremely masculine, ambitions, dominant men who aren't afraid to go after what they want. At the club, I'm always around guys who are begging and pleading for me to do x, y or z. I feel like the dude. I feel like I'm surrounded by neediness. In my personal life, I want to be the girl. I want to get to be submissive and feminine. With customers I can't do that because I am always saying no to something.
But I don't think there's anything wrong with getting a lapdance, obviously. I just like a very specific type of man. And he doesn't chase tail. Tail chases him.
Not all the guys I've dated had that kind of $, though. You are right. Some of them could not afford to pay for pussy 5 times a week. But they wouldn't pay for pussy period. Their egos wouldn't allow it. But, I tend to date guys who are well off. I don't care about money. I really don't. I do like guys who are crazy ambitious and those types of guys tend to have good careers.
Now, when I was 18-22ish, I dated some real losers. I was still looking for that powerful, alpha male type but I was too young to be able to tell the difference between alpha and asshole. During those years I dated some controlling, angry, idiots. But, I've learned..
Again, I'm not saying anything bad about guys who get lapdances on the regular. I think it's understandable why I might not be attracted to a guy with that particular hobby. I'm also not attracted to guys who are into rodeos or Star Trek or who are Asian or short.... None of those guys are bad. They just aren't the type to get me going.
That seems very silly to me that someone would be too proud to go out and get a lapdance if they were feeling horny and did not have "free" sex available. But whatever, even though it's silly for Alexis Texas to have an ass big enough to damn a small river, I still think she's sexy.
A woman such as KK stating she does not understand why a guy that can score outside of a SC would choose to still go to a SC – well such a woman cannot understand b/c she is not a man.
As I heard a comedian say once:
“A woman looks for the ONE guy to satisfy ALL her needs – a man looks for ALL women to satisfy his ONE needâ€
As was stated in a previous post; very few men, if any, can get sex when they want from whomever he wants – and most men would like to get sex from whom they want when they want – thus a SC will often satisfy this natural urge/desire.
Plus – for most guys – even the semi good looking ones – you are still paying for sex if you are looking to date/get-laid – one often needs to wine; dine; and impress a female before you have the hopes that she will give you anything – and along with cuchie often comes drama or you having to give other things other than your $$$ (time; doing shit w/ her you don’t want/like to do; etc.) – SCs offer what you want/need often w/o strings attached – and that by itself is often preferable to “dating†especially as one gets older and does’ not want to deal w/ drama/shit.
1 AM DJ made it a rub
2 AM now I'm gettin with her
3 AM now I'm splittin with her
4 AM at the waffle house
5 AM now we at my house
6 AM I be diggin her out
6:15 I be kickin her out
So not all ladies need to be wined and dined. Some just want to have a good time with as little drama as possible. Might be good to keep a slightly open mind about the opposite sex.... You might find something fun!
Actually I take that all back. Go to the strip clubs. Buy dances. The only girls worth messing with are strippers.
; )
Just because no actual money is changing hands doesn't mean there isn't a trade going on.
And for the record, there is absolutely nothing wrong or immoral about that trade, whatever is traded. It's when there is no equitable trade going on that the trouble occurs.