Comments by Titus23 (page 3)

...wut? Ok, this could be fun. Are you saying that it's my fault that she's flaking because I haven't decided if I want to date her or if i just want to scramble her insides?

If you asked for a doubles dance, yes you owe them both. If you enjoyed it and want to pay the girl that joined in, then yes, you should tip her too. But, if you only wanted one, and never asked the second to join, but she did, then I'd say you only owe the first girl. Careful though, because that could easily lead to them,saying you asked and didn't pay. Next time, if you're not after a double, tell her and let her tell you not to worry about paying.

She drew blood on my shoulder. I have bite marks, massive welts, and it looks disgusting.

Cushman, I agree with your thoughts on bareback. It was a heat of the moment thing in,the club. One second she's jerking me off, the next I'm inside her. Well, fuck. Can't uncross that bridge now, might as well stick with bareback. It's one of the few times I'm glad that it takes a Herculean effort to get me off. Very low chance that I'll bust before pulling out! On a related note, I've never felt like a monger until these posts.. I'm kind of disgusted with myself. But, I'll wave it off because I'm legit into this girl and would date her in a heartbeat. Maybe that'll make up for my depravity. Lastly, to circle back to the topic, this girl is fun to kiss. She's a biter though. Holy fuck, i thought she was going to take off my lower lip..

I dunno.. She says she'll call me when she gets back from a funeral her sister told her about this morning. Didn't mention it until I called to say i was on the way to pick her up. Like, wtf man. If something comes up, let me know. Don't let me drive half an hour only to find out you're not there anymore.

Depends on the girl. To follow off of your SJG comment, I too accidentally followed his mantra, albeit with a twist. Our make out session happened in the VIP during dances. Turned into some DATY and FIV. No charge. Came back a few times and had more of the same, and just a few days ago, things evolved a bit and ended up with BBFS. Again, no charge. I gave her a ride home and crashed on her couch for a couple hours before she woke me up for round two. Ended up getting dinner with her the next night, which she paid in full. She's flaking on me today though, so I must say I'm very confused. I can't tell if her excuses are SS or just legit shitty timing. I mean, did I seriously just get used for sex? I've been used for money before, but this would be a new experience..

I dunno, my tongue slipped a little yesterday and things turned out pretty damn good.

She didn't respond because she has no idea who you are. Always text immediately after leaving the club with whatever name she knows you by. Include some detail about your interaction so she can pick you out of all the guys she gave her number to. She will be putting something next to your name in her contacts, like davindude - buys VIPs. That lets her know if you are worth her time when you text her. If you wait, she won't have any idea who you are, and will have plenty of other guys texting her with big spender next to their name. Why answer the unknown if you know what's available?

A while back I posted a discussion about the best way to carry cash in the club. As a result, I carry $5s in my left front along with a single car key fob, $1s in my right front with a single pack of trident cinnamon, $20s in my back left, and my wallet holding $50s and $100s, an ATM card, ID, and condom in my back right. Everything I need, and I never grab the wrong bills.

Offer to reimburse her flight, but don't buy her tickets up front. You'd need all her info anyways (I'm sure she doesn't want you knowing her personal info), and there's no guarantee she will actually show. At least if you offer to reimburse her, she has to show up to collect.

Will your reaction be adorable?

I often tip like this too. I met a woman at a small-town club that was obviously not used to making more than $200 a night. Looking at the place, I wasn't surprised. But, she was awesome. In appreciation, I handed her a $50, and she about freaked out about it. It was really genuine and awesome, so I handed her another, and another, and another, and another. $250 total. I think her heart stopped for 5 minutes or so. Her reaction was 100% worth it for me. Sometimes its fun to just give.

I can only speak on what I've experienced and what she's told me, but at each of the clubs I visit, the "most in-demand girl" spends pretty much the entire night with me. The only time she's not with me is when she's on stage. Typically that's when a host of other guys go up and start whispering to her, then she shakes her head no and after her set comes back and sits with me some more. She's very much in-demand, but also understands that the most consistent money is already there. When I'm not there, she's told me about how she has a bunch of one or two and done regulars that come in. She moves from one to the other through the night, taking the little money that they have, dancing almost non-stop. Every now and then a new guy will jump in for a few dances, but never a long string. We're in an area not known for high earnings, so she has to put in a lot more work. I think that's why she prefers when I visit. We don't dance until the last hour, and when we do get to the last hour, she doesn't charge me anything for the dances. I pay my VIP fee, and we have some fun. Everything she's earned prior to that covers the dances. It's a good system. I get great company, and she doesn't get tired so she has more energy for the next night.

DB999, that's how I club. I have a few dancers that I hang out with, and I'll usually let them know I'm coming in ahead of time. I'm an all-nighter, there from 7-close (2-3AM). Usually runs me about $500-$1000 depending on the girl and how generous I am. I only go maybe twice a month, so its pretty easy to budget out. I will say though, if you have the cash, go for the 2 for 1 special. For 1, it's a good time having two beautiful women clinging to you all night long. And 2, there's a bit of a power trip knowing that every other PL in there is pissed because you've got the hottest girls locked down all night long.

@lolruned - I'm friends with a few dancers I've met. We hang out outside the club, go to bars, dinner, movies, etc. Anything outside the club is free of charge. Just two people hanging out and having fun. When I go to the club, I don't necessarily go to see them, but if they come hang out with me, I'll tip them for their time. They're working, and I understand that. That said, once I'm a dancer's friend, getting dances pretty much ceases. At least in the normal sense. One of them is a trained masseuse, so every now and then I'll pay for "dances" that are really just a kick ass massage. Now, if you pay for their time in the club, and pay them to hang out with you outside the club, then yah, I completely agree with your point. That's a paid friendship, not the real deal.

I have one of those right now with the very first dancer I ever met. We meet up for fun a few times a month, go on dates, etc. I don't know exactly what to call us. Like 25 I've helped out in a pinch, but she's always reimbursed me to some extent. Maybe not the full amount, but something. I'm working on something with another dancer as well. Not sure what that will grow into, as it's still pretty early. We'll see.

It could also be that I'm very selective with who I spend my money on. I don't get dances unless I'm able to make a connection on some level. That probably lends itself to me finding the dancers that are willing/interested in putting in the same investment in time and emotion.

@Salty - I feel like you're taking the piss, as my British friends say. I spend plenty of money, I'm not a celeb, and while I work out and have abs and muscles, I'm not exactly a stunner. I take care of myself first and foremost, and when I go to the club, I dress sharp and make an effort to be my best self. I treat dancers with respect. I treat them like women first, and I compensate them for their time. I don't generally agree with SJG, but he's right when he says that dancers appreciate being treated like regular women. If you go in wearing gym shorts and looking for a cheap fuck, dancers aren't going to like you very much. If you don't care if they like you, great. Personally, I do care. I find it's more fun if they want to be around me as opposed to just doing it because I'm paying. @lolruned - as I mentioned before, nowhere did I say it's a prestigious law school. Simply implying that it's a well known school.

@Larry - that's pretty standard for me. I'm a 7-close kinda guy. I don't do dances often, and there's more than a few nights that I'll just sit on the couch and shoot the shit. One of the dancers I hang out with knows to bring a sweatshirt and slippers when I come in. She gets comfy and we chill.

@cash - we both just thought it was funny. Literally no problem with me choking the shit outta the girl, but oops, my lips brushed her neck. We talked a lot via text yesterday and things are looking good for another get together in a few weeks.

@25 - I just thought it was fun to have a two hour conversation about some of the recent laws that were passed. She's writing a paper on SESTA/FOSTA for one of her classes and shared some of it with me. She's very sharp. A lot different from some of the other dancers I talk to about how certain drugs don't mix well. @salty - she asked for it and I handed it to her. Nothing bad there.

I wasn't implying its a prestigious law school. Just that the school itself is well known. I certainly didn't expect that part of my post to cause the most consternation. There must be a significant contingent of lawyers on TUSCL.

@random - I don't pay for sex. I've never paid for extras or for an escort. I am married though. She's fine with what I do and knows everything. I also have anxiety in social situations, so the club provides an environment devoid of that pressure. As for Kansas universities, there are a few big ones, particularly in the basketball world. For those saying slow con. Maybe. We'll see.

29. Old enough to know better. Young enough not to care.

My CF disagrees wholeheartedly with the booty slap thing. She loves them, the harder the better. She also likes being choked, though, so the spanking thing fits. She'll work the room sometimes trying to get guys to give her a slap, and so many are weak and tentative. She gets to me and I give her all I've got. Usually turns a few heads. Had the management talk to me once about it before she told them it was cool. It's fun knowing that when she's dancing for some other PL, he has to stare at my hand print on her ass.