Lack Of Stage Tipping
tenisbum1776
One of my pet peeves in any strip club is the cheap ass guys who don't even come up to the stage to give the dancers a buck or two when they're doing their obligatory stage dances. I understand that stage dancing is only pocket money to the girls who make the lion-share of their revenue in the back rooms; but to me it's a lack of common courtesy not to tip dances while on stage.....even the one's you think maybe should be stripping if you know what I mean.
I usually bring about $30 in ones each time I go to the club and tip each of the first 15 girls to dance $2. It's a great way to build a little goodwill and be recognized. Plus it's also polite.
I usually bring about $30 in ones each time I go to the club and tip each of the first 15 girls to dance $2. It's a great way to build a little goodwill and be recognized. Plus it's also polite.
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What name calling?
I don't do it for the kid at McDonald's, I don't do it for the clerk at Target, I don't do it for the guy who delivers my mail, and I don't do it for girls in a strip club just because they're pretty. If she wants to act bored on stage, then let her act bored on stage. I'll ignore her and spend my time getting lapdances.
Why you guys are so concerned about dancers, and their pay, and whether they're being coddled and encouraged to be nice to you and do their best is far beyond my comprehension. Personally, I think it's sad.
At least be consistent, and don't be a fucking hypocrite. And if you're gonna tip everyone who is working at a job that relies on tips, then tip the kid at McDonald's, and the poor single mom with 3 kids at the checkout at Target, and the guy who delivers your mail every day.
But to tip people just to make them get off their asses and do their job is fucking crazy, IMO.
I'm there to watch women dance naked, and I certainly can't expect them to be enthusiastic about it, if all the stage show has come to is a tipless advertisement for the three-dancer Monte, blow job game back in the lap dance room.
It sucks for guys like me, but the best (and sometimes only) way to get these girls' attention is to wait until they're on stage, give them a tip, and after their set they'll come down and make the round to whoever tipped them and say thanks. That's when I grab them for a lapdance.
Yeah, it's lame, but paying a few bucks to get some of these girls in the back for an excellent splooge fest is the price of admission, I suppose.
Oh, so you DO tip the clerk at McDonalds, and the poor mom at the checkout at Target, and your mailman, and all the other minimum wage workers you encounter every day?
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But that's not why I tip. I tip because any Tammy, Snatch, or Hairy will work harder when they get paid more. Bottom line. Now some may not be able to dance. I lost a little money, lesson leathered. But the ones that do are worth the previous loss and then some. I like a good show and tipping is worth it to me.
Now as some have said, fat, old, thieving, fucked up, dance like Carlton Banks, or any dancer you don't fancy shouldn't be getting tipped, just because. I mean I have done it, but I was drunk and felt like tipping everyone that night -- including the bathroom troll, door chick, VIP guy, etc.
No shit? Really? Stripping is different? Holy carp, the insight in this forum is awesome.
Who the fuck cares that the stripper has everyone asking for a BJ? For some reason you think it's up to ME to somehow make it better and pay her because she's got it rough? Are you fucking serious? If she doesnt' like it, get a different job. That's what you would do, that's what I would do, she's no different.
Geezus the ridiculous rationalizations you guys come up with are unbelievable.
And if you think it's reasonable to pay some chick to do her job, rather than sit on stage looking bored, then that's up to you. I just think it's ludicrous to cater to her crap. If she doesn't want to do a good job, nobody tips her, and maybe she'll get it in her thick fucking skull that IF SHE JUST DID SOMETHING WORTH TIPPING NEXT TIME SHE'D GET A TIP. But with all of you guys paying for mediocrity, no wonder the clubs suck.
1) they think that by tipping it would prove they really do respect whores and, hence, women in general. (Yeah big leap from one to other I didn't say these guys were smart, and also once you pay a whore for sex pretty hard to argue you respect them)
2) they think that by showing this respect to whore the whores will respect them back. Yeah, dream on with that shit, once you pay a woman for sex, game over.
Instead of tipping to make them do their job, try a different approach. Kinda like training a dog...you give them a treat when they did good, but don't give them a treat when they screw up. And you let them know what was good and what was bad.
For example, let's say she comes on stage with lots of energy, wearing an especially hot outfit, teases you, makes eye contact, whatever. In that case you wait until she gets off stage, and you tell her to come over. Then you tell her "y'know, I really liked how you danced for me, and I liked your outfit, blah, blah, blah..." and tell her EXACTLY what you liked. And then tell her "Because of that I'm gonna give you a tip", and hand her the tip.
Good dog.
I suspect that if enough guys have the stones to do that, then the whole strip club experience will improve in short order. But most guys don't have the stones to do that.
I respect your opinion and your sentiment w.r.t. tipping.
But everyone should spend (or not spend) their money as they see fit. Just b/c one does not tip, or tip often, does not necessarily mean they are cheap. I, as well as many other TUSCLers I presume, spend a good amount of $$$ on each SC visit - it’s just that we choose to spend it our way and on the particular dancers we want to spend it on.
I will often spend 4 hours in a SC. If I tip every single girl, then that is a descent sum taking all the other expenses (cover; drinks; parking; LDs; etc) that go along with this expensive hobby.
When I do feel like tipping, I will sit stage side and tip every girl that performs – but this is a “personal†choice.
About tipping in general. I've noticed this is different in every place. Some clubs are big about tipping dancers on stage, others aren't.
Yes, of that I am aware. You are independent contractors, and you probably pay the club to work there, no?
But i don't care how you get paid, or what you get paid, or what you get in tips, or if you get tips. Just like you don't care how I get paid, nor does any dancer give a rip about her customers paycheck.
We were talking about tips. Nothing to do with compensation.
I tip those I am interested in usually. But I usually don't sit at the stage.
I only tip dancers I'm interested in getting lap dances from. It's a mistake, IMO, to tip fuglies because then they will come to my table and bother me. I don't mind if the fuglies think I'm cheap. That will keep them away.
There are clubs where the dancers will make the round of the audience after their stage set is finished at ask every single customer in the club for a dollar: "Did you see my show?" is the line they use. Categorically, I hate that practice. I believe San Diego clubs conduct themselves in that manner.
MY pet peeve is when some guy spends MORE than me on the girl I want dances from, not less.
I will sometimes give a pity tip when a decent dancer is not getting any tips in an empty club and I use tipping at the rail to leave my table when a girl I am not interested in will not leave.
I probably wouldn't have tipped her if she hadn't asked. This club is just not a stage tipping club. It is all about private dances. The rare time that I do tip on stage is when I really want to get a dancers attention. That works about 50% of the time.
There's a local club I used to go to a lot, where the dancers did three song sets. On more than one occasion, I have been the first customer to tip at the stage, even if I wait for the second song for some reason. After I'm done, it seems like they all get up at that point. It's like they don't want to be the first pervert up there.
I did that one time for a dancer, and even though I'd only given her a buck, and she came down afterwards, sat in my lap and said thank you. When I asked for what, she said, for getting these lame fucks off their asses and tipping.
Then she let me play with her boobs for a few minutes, which was the *real* thank you.
"chum" is exactly what it is. Well done.
I generally make it a point to not tip dancers I'm not interested in. Half (or more) of the time it results in them coming over and trying to chat me up. I'll tip dancers I would like to come over, as its a good excuse to come up and say "hey, come over when you're done" or dancers I enjoy watching on stage. Other than that, if I'm not in the front row I'm not tipping. How much I tip is a function of attractiveness, drunkenness, & availability of alternatives.
In my experience the only clubs where the dancers are even polite about getting tips are the black clubs, where they come by and thank each guy who tips them, individually. Now that is how they should do things. But in most other clubs, they don't even glance your way, they just grab the bills and stuff them in their whatever.
Fuck that. You get a tip from us for just doing your freakin' job, at LEAST be a little polite and appreciative, instead of a greedy bitch who thinks we owe her for some reason.
Man, I don't know what to say about your strip club experiences vs mine. I can't say they're aren't ROBs or rude dancers at The Clubhouse, Jag's, or Rhino. But I can say I haven't had a bad night at those clubs in a long time. I come in looking to have a good time, blow $20 tipping random dancers, spot one I like - attractive, friendly, good dancer, tip her, ask her to cone over, chat, drink, get some dances, her number for next time, go home, everyone's a winner! That method has worked over a dozen times in the past couple years and it started with tipping. All the bad shit happened when I tried to fuck some of those strippers and did dumb shit in the process - like letting one live with me.
Of course, the level of tipping depends on the club. At one of the places I go to, they have so many people there at times that the only way to get attention is to tip, and even then, it's still a challenge to get a girl's attention if you want a lapdance (too many girls who prefer to hide out in the dressing room, mostly). OTOH, at one of the other clubs I visit, tipping is secondary there.
They would have more tipping if they did what my favorite club does, which is stage side lapdances.
Customs vary dramatically from region to region and I just try to go with the flow in whatever place I am at. I generally won't sit at a tip rail or approach standalone stages, but when I am targeting something or in a place with different norms, I may deviate from this stance.
One of the regional differences I have noted is how uncommon stage tipping seems to be in certain areas down south vs. the NE and parts of the midwest. Shit, in some areas in the colder climates, the girls will do tip walks after their stage routines.
Anyway, to each his own.