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6 years ago
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IceyI put your ATF on a winning team
It probably seems dead to you Icey because people have you on ignore so you can't see their thread.
Putting you back on ignore in, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1...
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6 years ago
I am not at all a cam site person but I get the appeal. You don't have to pay at all if you want. You can pretty much watch for free. Guys watch the same girl over and over and develop feelings and before you know it they are willing to start tipping a few bucks. Imagine if you're jerkin it to a camgirl and you're near orgasm, tip a few bucks to set off her vibrator doesn't seem like a bad investment.
Past that I think a lot of people who go to cam sites live in areas where strip clubs are no contact, or unaware that full contact exists, or are wary of the moral issues of going to a SC.
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6 years ago
That site is an offshoot of seeking arrangement.
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6 years ago
I wouldn't be surprised if Icey SJG and countryman are all the same person.
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6 years ago
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flagoonerEverything written by this member is a fact.
I predict I will not watch it.
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6 years ago
I have never flat out asked. I do tend to ask if a dancer is bothered by me touching her neck/cheek/hair. It is not so much to actually get permission but asking that communicates to her that that is the kind of touch I particularly enjoy.
I think some of whether a dancer is into it can just depend on her mood. I do think it takes 3-4 visits to get the most out of someone.
I did have a long term fav tell me she liked being scratched and particularly in a few specific ways. This was after getting dances with her for a long while and she was clearly a little shy/embarrassed about it. I will NEVER EVER forget the look on her face when I started scratching her! You know a lot of the time here on TUSCL people talk about how dancers fake things and there is good reason to help RILs. But the look on that girls face when I stared scratching her was absolutely genuine. She was young, still exploring her sexuality and was comfortable asking me to do something with her that she loved (but was scared to ask for). It was a really rad and memorable experience!
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6 years ago
I am from DFW.
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6 years ago
@Phxer - We aren't talking about gallons of liquid here. It's a tiny wet spot. Usually after sitting/cuddling for a few minutes after it has dissipated and I don't notice much on my walk to the car. I live in Texas so shorts are not against dress code, so I wear moisture wicking material shorts.
Also as a LDK connoisseur I pre-apply baby powder to my dick and the inside of my pants which absorbs moisture and prevents chaffing.
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6 years ago
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flagoonerEverything written by this member is a fact.
This would be a good subject for Papi as I would imagine this is way more common at black clubs.
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6 years ago
@jackslash - Things are definitely a little different in a ultra high volume club.
@Subraman - So how many weeks in a row would you continue to text a potential fav before you give up?
@rickdugan - Thanks for responding. I think you are right but there are some exceptions. I remember you had a comment a long time ago (maybe to me maybe to someone else) that was something like "obviously you aren't spending enough". I had a previous fav who was terrible at texting and I read your comment and tried paying her more and there was no change in her behavior. So I changed our deal and said if she informed me of her schedule, and I never had to wait I would pay her more, if not less. And that fixed everything.
Since then I have a term for it: Puppy Dog Rules
Do what I like, you get a treat!
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6 years ago
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rickduganVerified and Certifiable Super-Reviewer
I have never gone until about a year ago. I went and got a lap dance not knowing that full contact lap dances existed. I thought I was getting an air dance and got a high mileage dance with LDK. As I was walking back to my car I thought to myself... "I should do this every week" and I have done exactly that.
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6 years ago
@Muddy9 - I am sure that throwing down 10x the money would probably work but that isn't an option I am interested in. I like to stick to favs so I don't want to start paying an amount of money I can't sustain long term. Also as time goes on I tend to want to spend more and more time talking so I want to start off under budget so in the future I can go up. I will say however (which is in line with your suggestion) that I have been trying to be more generous on first visits to make a good impression.
@nicespice - I think your comment that "it was never going to happen" is a good one. I am not going to be able to change these girls.
@subraman - As always thanks for the voice of reason.
So two scenarios I would love input on from Subraman and Nicespice:
1. Gotten dances with this girl off and on for a few months. Got her number and would love to make her my new main fav. Texted her a few weeks in a row asking when she was working and maybe only got one response back that was a no (sick). The line between texting a dancer too much or too long with no response is hard to gauge. I have pretty much decided that if there is no to little response that I should only text once a week. But after 2 or 3 weeks with no response that is probably the point I should stop? Or just say something like "Hey I don't want to bother you endlessly so just HMU if you decide to work again sometime!"
As a side note to this... If you guys remember a while back I made my fake seeking arrangement account... Some guy still emails my fake girl every week wanting to meet up even though it's been two months!!!
2. Got dances with a girl once. Tipped her really well. Got her number but she was super cautious about giving it. Texted her asking when she was working and got no response then saw her at the club soon after. Obviously it is a terrible idea to be confrontational at all about the fact that she forgot to respond. But I am the kind of person that am not capable of saying at least something even if it's in a joking way.
Subraman I feel like you would know the perfect thing to say in that scenario...
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6 years ago
@papi - I know at my club it's $20 to skip stage. I have never done it as I enjoy seeing a fav on stage. But I have definitely considered it. I generally tip a fav $5-10 on stage anyway so it isn't dramatically more to pay for the stage skip. If I am in a situation with limited time to be in the club it might be worth it.
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6 years ago
@TheeOSU - Hopefully a decent number of us will start to use the ignore list. If enough of us do it makes it really hard for trolls to do any trolling as not only do people not see their posts they can't post on a fair number of threads that they don't create. The problem is that not enough people use the ignore list so sometimes conversations don't make sense because you can only see part of it. A temporary "see through ignore" would work well to solve those problems. I personally have around 25 people on ignore.
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6 years ago
If he just went once it was probably pretty harmless.
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6 years ago
There is a weird internet subculture that has developed around what is called "gang stalking". Where a (crazy) person believes that all sort of random strangers around them are stalking and surveilling them. Gang stalking "victims" are constantly going up to strangers and accusing them and filming it and then uploading it to youtube. I find it interesting because you can get a glimpse into some serious delusional madness.
I wonder if the OP has some sort of similar delusion except strip club related.
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6 years ago
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flagoonerEverything written by this member is a fact.
I have no problem with Dugan.
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6 years ago
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rickduganVerified and Certifiable Super-Reviewer
I also have a fake air gapped account just for following strippers on instagram. Initially I made the account with a pic of someone else (the pic is in partial shadow so semi-unidentifiable but clearly not me) and had the identity be an amateur photographer. Then I just uploaded some pretty free stock photos to the account. Weirdly enough the fake account has attracted a bunch of 20 something wannabe models hoping I am a photographer they can collaborate with.
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6 years ago
@nicespice - It's interesting you mentioned your second example. I have to admit I have totally used that method before. With a few of the dancers I have gotten to know it was easy to pickup on what their insecurity was or as you put it how they "like to be perceived".
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6 years ago
Also I thought the article was pretty good for what it was.
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6 years ago
This is a good example to show how out of touch SJG is...
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6 years ago
Totally agree with you NJB. That is totally the nice gesture that I really appreciate. My last ATF did some of that sort of stuff.
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6 years ago
So just checked and at least on my phone I can use the notification toggle from the lockscreen and do not even have to unlock the phone.