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7 years ago
I go 4x a week to my favorite club but on 3 of those nights I’m pretty much a rock at the bar, then on one night I’ll get dances, that’s how I do it and still be a regular
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7 years ago
^^^
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7 years ago
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CJKent (Banned)“The more a person needs to be right, the less certain he is...”
We all have our moments OP, but take it easy man
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7 years ago
Yeah I definitely need a break. To just step away from it. Get the feelings out of my system and I need to set new rules for myself. Doing OTC is what got me messed up. Only ITC from now on, I even need to probably delete all my social media so I won't keep logging on to look at her page/photos. ?
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7 years ago
No that was all she said..I know I'm not the only one she's doing stuff with but I found my mistake was doing constant stuff with her outside the club and it messed me up to where I was just nonstop thinking about her in a lovestruck relationship kind of way and I knew that was wrong. But I couldn't stop my feelings and if I would keep seeing her OTC I know it would just keep screwing me up mentally and financially until one day it would be even worse down the road to stop. Now I just need time to pass and hopefully I can get it through me
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7 years ago
I have to take this break because I'm getting way too into my ATF. Obsessing about her constantly, it's affecting my life. It's gotten to the point that I can't even go in there if she's working because I'll be a basket case. So I told her it's affecting me, that I have to take a long break and fix myself, that I don't even know if I'll come back. I just have to get her out of my system and this is the only way I think I can do it. She pretty much just said ok, take care.
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7 years ago
What would you say to the girls there? Just say "I'm taking a break"? Or would they bombard you with texts/calls?
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7 years ago
Thank you all! I don't feel alone now :) It all makes sense to follow the wisdom here
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7 years ago
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san_jose_guymoney was invented for handing to women, but buying dances is a chump's game
Damn that was alot of scrolling to do
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7 years ago
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Papi_ChuloMiami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
Get well soon Papi, your advice is gold.
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7 years ago
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shailynnThey never tell you what you need to know.
I have a fern plant and a sock puppet.
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7 years ago
I always get a seat at the bar. That way I won't get rushed at by several. I like to sit there until the ones I like approach me..
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7 years ago
Always stick to your budget. Or just don't go in. That's what I've learned. And it's all just a fantasy in there.
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7 years ago
Yeah no way in hell could I get a chick like that to give me the time of day unless it's in a SC
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7 years ago
I don't want to do OTC anymore. I caught feelings for my last one, she sent me an angry text out of the blue one night saying she could sense it and it was making her uncomfortable. My fault. I'm trying to get her out of my system before going back to the club.
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7 years ago
Okay...I just don't know if I've wrecked this enough or not. Or if I should just wait for her to text me again hopefully, or if I should take a week or two off and then go in the club to see her
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7 years ago
Update - help. She texted me after our last date saying she felt I was getting too romantic with her and forgetting it's just entertainment..she didn't seem happy but I asked to give me a second chance and she gave me like a "maybe". I think I've got it kind of under control but now I'm thinking what's the point? I'll just do OTC again and might screw myself up. It's so hard to just cut it out and go cold turkey, I don't know if I'll hear from her again. Should I send another text or no? She still has kept me on her social media so I'm not sure if she's cut me off yet
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7 years ago
Choice I is the worst. I caught that crap when doing A, now I'm never doing A again. B through H is good.
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7 years ago
SJG I've tried your stuff man a few times it doesn't work, no girl will make out on the floor there out in the open idk man
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7 years ago
Yeah I found out real fast and she even told me that I wasn't the only customer she had. About the nonverbal cues, the thing ive learned is that when she's not working and I text her she's a completely different person, short quick answers, doesn't show interest..it's like she gets into a different zone when she's going to work. That's how I also figured out I was just another customer, I just have to not let it affect me and block it out
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7 years ago
Thanks all. I feel that even if I tell her I need a break, or even if I cut all ties, it still won't help me and I'll still be stuck thinking about her. I just feel like I'm too deep in already with the OTC stuff, dates, rides, dances...I just have to keep telling myself the main points that it's not real and she's just after the money and it's just an act she's putting on
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7 years ago
Great post, this is EXACTLY what I was thinking and what I always try and tell myself when I find myself developing feelings for a girl there. I realized that what can make it worse is hanging out OTC. The mind can trick you into thinking "oh maybe she likes me. She does this with only me. This is what people in relationships do." This happened to me. I think I'm a bit better because I told myself what you said. She only wants the money, not me. But it still bites me every now and then.
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7 years ago
Solo always
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7 years ago
What is making these boys talk ?!?
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7 years ago
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Papi_ChuloMiami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
Eyes, smile, nice tight ass