do you usually roll solo or with buddy or buddies to the club?

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jwhat9
me, i've only gone with a friend and have never gone by myself. i've been wanting to go check out some other places but just feel weird going solo. i know i shouldn't feel that way, but i just do.

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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Solo except for once very long ago. My buddies had only marginal interest with the club, and tipping is expensive.

But they did notice that I and many of the women really seemed to hit it off. I was far more into women in that kind of a mode than they were.

SJG
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Charles Paisley
7 years ago
Always solo. I think most here would agree they don't want friends and business associates to know just how hardcore a pervert most of us are.

If all you go to strip clubs for is to look at the merchandise while sipping a couple of brewskis, then sure, go with friends. If you want to get your lap on, flying solo is the only way to go, unless you're part of a group of hardcore mongers.

CP
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
At for example the Sunnyvale Brass Rail, in the evenings, the place really fills up with groups of guys, powered by alcohol, driven by male bonding, but needing women there so that they don't come across as gay.

Needless to say, I am not one of them.

SJG
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ppwh
7 years ago
I agree with CP's assessment.

I would SC with friends when I was in my teens, but started going on my own after the guy who drove scored same-night OTC and I ended up there by myself.
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GoVikings
7 years ago
almost always solo.

about the only time i go with someone else is if i'm meeting a TUSCL member :-)
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larryfisherman
7 years ago
Solo dolo
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HungryGiraffe
7 years ago
Solo, with exception of one golf buddy who I've clubbed with 4 times in 6 years.
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shadowcat
7 years ago
During my working years, I occasionally stopped off with the boys after work but never went clubbing with a personal friend. Now I go solo about 75% of the time. The other 25% is meeting other TUSCL members there.
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Uprightcitizen
7 years ago
Solo 90% of the time...
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Jascoi
7 years ago
most of the time solo. butt usually i meet an amigo wherever i am. it adds to the experience. they don't hinder my attention to the ladies.
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Mate27
7 years ago
There's something wrong with you if your all solo, so I find friends to tag along many times. It's what guys do, and crapping with the door open, too.

One of my friends was surprised at how well some of the girls treat us(me) when we go to the club. I think some of them like to ride the coat tails I've established as it benefits us all in having a good time. I notice the dancers are in a better mood knowing there's more money to grab with a group, hence sometimes better service in my experience.

When solo I need to flash cash to get good attention.
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IHearVoices
7 years ago
Solo, unless my friends plan a trip and invite me. I go everywhere solo, though.
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wallanon
7 years ago
These days solo.
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ButterMan
7 years ago
solo abt 90% of the time. the last time I took a friend he acted like a complete fool!
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WetWilly
7 years ago
Like our friendly Giraffe, mostly solo, except for my golfing buddies.
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l00ber
7 years ago
Almost always as a group. The one exception was my first time to TJ. I did the research and took the plunge by myself because I did not want anyone to take any of my friend down with me if I died.
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twentyfive
7 years ago
Lately more solo but I have a few buds that I roll with from time to time, and I have most enjoyed clubbing with some of my fellow TUSCLers.
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jackslash
7 years ago
Only psychopaths, sociopaths and homos go to strip clubs in groups.
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Perverts go solo.

SJG
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Us perverts go solo. Always like that for me.

SJG
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Subraman
7 years ago
Buddies, every time I can. 100x better than alone, IF (and that's a big if) your buddies are PLs also. I am guessing all the guys screaming "solo" above have regular guy friends, and going to the SC with regular guys blows, as does the big group boys-night-out type trips. But I'd bet most guys would chose group trips if they had PL friends, which I've been lucky enough to have for many years. We do bring new guys into the group occasionally, and by definition those guys start off as regular guys, but we break them down and build them back up into PLs pretty quickly (starting with my "two rules" :)

As long as your buddies know how to act in the club, and are after the same thing you are, there's just too many benefits to mention
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Those times you brought the bullet vibe, I bet you were solo?

SJG
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twentyfive
7 years ago
So @ jackslash which of those designations do you fall into. ; )
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ppwh
7 years ago
@Subraman, do you have an organization that one could join? What are the two rules?
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Subraman
7 years ago
sjg: Not only was I not solo, but some of my buddies bring bullet vibes too. We use them in the VIP, so always alone back there anyway.

ppwh: shoot me a few hundred in cash and a dick pic, and you're in! The two rules: https://www.tuscl.net/?page=post&id=4968…
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ppwh
7 years ago
dammit, everyone always asks for a dick pic!
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
My organization is entirely invitation only. And the people we invite we will know extremely well.

SJG
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Subraman!

Subraman!

Subraman!

I'm just a pervert.

SJG
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s275ironman
7 years ago
When in college, I've made the suggestion with some buddies a couple of times to go to a club, but none of them wanted to go. This kept me away from the clubs until after I graduated college. Once I got a real job, I moved and then started going to clubs...alone.

I've always gone solo. Sure, groups make up the majority of the crowd, especially on a Friday or Saturday night, but I never feel out of place being there by myself. Those who go to the club with friends tend to spend a good chuck of their time socializing and not paying as much attention to the girls. By going alone, you don't have that distraction and you can focus your attention on the girls the entire time.

One other thing I've observed about guys who go in groups, they may occasionally tip at the stage, but they are more likely to waste a girl's time when she stops buy to chat with a them for about 15 minutes and none of them end up buying a dance from her.
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flagooner
7 years ago
I think I've been exclusively solo for over 10 yrs.
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
s275ironman, people need serious money for strip clubs. Most college students don't have it, and they are surrounded by women all the time.

I think your observations about the guys in groups are spot on.

SJG
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Papi_Chulo
7 years ago
I either go solo or by myself; and sometimes alone.
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Papi_Chulo
7 years ago
"... i've been wanting to go check out some other places but just feel weird going solo ..."

So if a chick wants you to take her to a hotel to fuck do you feel "weird" being solo?

I *assume* that you are a young guy and young guys:

a) care too much about what other people think (and thus the "weird" feeling of doing shit alone mainly b/c what "others may think") - as youngster your balls have not fully developed yet

b) many newbs treat the strip-club like a singles-bar or a nightclub to "hangout at" - that not what it is - it's a place of commerce where PLs pay to look-at and grope tits (and more) - the girls there exchange their dignity for $$$ and the dudes exchange their $$$ to relieve their hornyness - i.e.WHO THE FUCK CARES what anyone thinks in a strip-club; no one there is in a position to judge (even though some still think they can judge but they are wrong)
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
I always want to be spending time alone with the girl, or at least being out in public with her.

SJG
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ppwh
7 years ago
haha, real shit from Papi_Chulo
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Papi_Chulo
7 years ago
I think whether ones enjoys going mostly w/ others or alone depends on one's style of SCing:

+ those that like to socialize in a SC and like to spend a lot of time in the club and a big part of their visit is talking to others (dancers, staff, other custies, etc), those PLs usually like the group visits

b) those that go exclusively for the physical aspect (to grope the girls and get grinded-on and get serviced) prefer to go solo b/c "their buds" are not gonna meet their needs and what they go to the SC for and "the buds" actually get in the way or distract from the mission/task at hand
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Even in our no touching clubs, I go there for the women.

Real talk, with anyone else, is best other places.

SJG
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ppwh
7 years ago
I wouldn't necessarily limit it to physical interaction for the second type. Otherwise we wouldn't have BHPLs, but I have noticed the same thing.
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GoVikings
7 years ago
i mean, you could MAYBE find a buddy to go to a strip club with once or twice a year. but on a regular basis? highly unlikely

i guess what i'm saying is.......unless you're talking about TUSCL members.......finding people who wanna go to strip clubs regularly is gonna be a tough task

i guess that's why almost everyone said solo :-)
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
^^^^^^^ indeed!

:) :) :)

SJG
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mjx01
7 years ago
90% solo
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Jascoi
7 years ago
i think i can easily say that going to a club starts out as 90% solo. if i see anybody else at the clubs it simply adds to the experience. i don't think it has ever detracted from my time with a lady. if anything of the overall experience possibly it has made me spend less. butt at my regular rate that may easily be a good thing.
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Estafador
7 years ago
I don't like people who aren't really with the strip club nanigens and just do it for the gram coming with me. Because we're there for two different purposes. My grubby paws will seem pathetic to the rest...and my image as a pervert is complete and I'm forever branded as the loser who only can get ass by paying strippers... even if it ain't true. Not something I'm willing to live with
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Estafador
7 years ago
Besides, I'm naturally a private person.
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Dominic77
7 years ago
From 18-25: ~ 25% solo; 75% with another guy or girl.
From 37-on: 100% solo.

My first visit was a week after my 18th birthday while still a senior in HS. My second visit a week later was solo. I never gave it much thought of going alone versus a group versus what other people think.

I go which ever way -- solo or with someone else or even a small group -- depending on which way I will enjoy it more. Normally I go along with @Subraman, the resident Tuscl philosopher, but this time I think @Chili Palmer knocked it out of the park and claimed the Honus Wagner baseball card.

The deal I have between me and my better half about clubbing is that most other people we know (my age:39 and older) is that most would not understand a PL or why a PL clubs, so it is best to avoid the conversation altogether. It would create drama (and judgement) among strangers where none needs exist and and for no benefit.
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DrunkPraetorian
7 years ago
Solo always
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Dominic77
7 years ago
Outside of my very *First* visit, I would tend to roll with seasoned PLs, or at least seasoned PLs (natural, open pervs) for our ages. About 90%+ of the others were *Seasoned.*

Had a few HS friends, college friends, GFs, and of course my who could forget my half-brother's half-brother's (twice removed) bi-sexual baby daddy. I'd sometimes club with her and sometimes with "squirrel-hunter" (no relation to Tuscl's sharkhunter). She was the one I wrote about where the door man at Ambers Caberet in Cleveland (Brook Park) accused her of being a hooker and of me being her pimp. Good times.

tl;dr avoid the drama and trailer-park stories and club solo.
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rane1234
7 years ago
I used to be like you fizman still am somewhat. Is kind of weird on a weekend since its mostly groups. Dayshift obv is easier but impossible if you have a job. Anyway dives solo isnt bad. Make it rain clubs meh. And like people have mentioned many are trying to be lowkey about this so inviting friends wouldnt happen
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Dominic77
7 years ago
does anyone else still get that weird "pervy-feeling" when rolling up to a Strip Club in your car alone? I never thought it would ever go away. It finally did for me about a year ago (38). For the longest time, that initially pervy-feeling was there, and I thought it always would be. @fizman, you will get over it in time. Maybe that helps you overcome your objections.
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ppwh
7 years ago
To clarify, I'm just a party guy there for the party vibe! I might make it rain a little, but what's pervy about that?
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Dominic77
7 years ago
LMFAO
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Dominic77
7 years ago
idk, clubing with family is pretty pervy, no? Maybe not. I'm in Ohio. Pretty normal here.
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wallanon
7 years ago
"does anyone else still get that weird "pervy-feeling" when rolling up to a Strip Club in your car alone?"

Does anyone? Probably. Me? No.
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ppwh
7 years ago
wallanon is an OPL muthafuckas so you best step the fuck off!
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TheeOSU
7 years ago
I usually fly solo but occasionally i go with a friend or make arrangements to meet a friend at the club.
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rh48hr
7 years ago
I mostly go solo, but I really enjoy going when I can meet up with my tuscl brethren. It's fun to share stories and mongering tips and Intel.
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Subraman
7 years ago
--> " i've been wanting to go check out some other places but just feel weird going solo"

Probably natural, but just do it a bit and that'll go completely away, and you'll feel silly for depriving yourself of so much fun over such misplaced guilt or self-consciousness. Once I walk into the club, single or with my buddies, I'm energized and happy.

There is one situation where I feel weird walking to the club. There's a club that's right next door to a theater that, at night, often features concerts that appeal to young people. Judging by the look of the youthful crowds waiting in line down the sidewalk that's sometimes a hundred yards long crowd waiting to get in, the bands featured are very hip. Probably the Jonas Brothers or One Direction or whoever is popular with hip with-it millennials these days.

Anyway, I do feel selfconscious with hundreds of young eyeballs on me as I'm walking down the sidewalk parallel to their line, obviously at least 5-10 years to old to be seen at this concert. I've developed a technique to hide my intentions: I walk down the sidewalk looking very relaxed, eyes straight ahead but NEVER a glance towards the strip club I'm approaching. As I reach the club, I actually look like I'm going to pass the club. Then, I make a military-precision left turn, take 3 steps to the door, and then I'm inside, safe from prying eyes and in the bosoms of those busty beauties.
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PrimetimeSchein
7 years ago
90% solo for me. I go with a couple friends from time to time but none of them enjoys clubbing as much as I do
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joc13
7 years ago
When I started going to SCs in the 80s and 90s, going to SCs was still a financially and socially acceptable way to entertain clients, customers, and business associates. The company I worked for had an office in Atlanta and any meeting that pulled people in from all locations was held here because of the airport. So, group outings to the SCs at the end of the day was common. Back then, most ATL clubs did not have VIP as we know it now (private rooms where we know or hope we're going to have sex), so the action at the clubs was watching smoking hot girls dance naked and maybe get some lap sitting and hugs.

In the early 2000s, I had a business partner that I would go clubbing with. We'd write off the food and drinks as meeting expenses. By this time, some ATL clubs were allowing floor mileage and had VIP rooms. It was nice clubbing with an experienced PL, but he was a cheapskate and had a bad habit of falling in love with the strippers.

Once he moved away, it's been pretty much solo. The other "hobbyists" I knew from the escort scene didn't like going to strip clubs, although we would occasionally hold our gatherings in one, since we didn't draw quite as much unwanted attention.
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Call.Me.Ishmael
7 years ago
Almost always solo.

How hobbyists (aka PLs) behave in a club is pretty different from a group of guys looking for a "boys night out". That disconnect can be awkward.
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Longball300
7 years ago
I like em both and have great times solo or with buds. Pros and Cons to each but, it does have to be the right group of guys.... and not TOO many like 2-4 dudes at most.
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gunrack
7 years ago
I go solo. When I started out I went with buddies, but now, being older with friends having lives/family of their own, we can't find the time to hang like when we're younger.

It's not weird going alone. I thought the same as you a year ago, going to SC alone would be weird but it's not. If you analyze the SC patrons, most are older and go alone. If you become a serious SC guy, you eventually go solo.

It becomes a drag having a buddy of buddies there if your trying for extras or just want to hang with your favorite stripper alone.
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chessmaster
7 years ago
Solo for me.

I can attest among young men there probably is a certain stigma attached to pl's who go alone. The thought process with young people about strip clubs is either:

I'm not spending money on strippers if I get laid so why bother going? OR, go(as a group) but don't spend any money.
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gunrack
7 years ago
I would say the serious strip club patron who go for the girls and go to clubs on a consistent basis, go solo or alone. These are guys 30+.

Then you have the college crowd of 20s yr-old who are there to party and don't have any money or won't spend money on the strippers.

Then you have the older bachelor party crowd who have money but are not spending.

But you have your 2,3 guys at a table hanging together but they are there more to socialize/catch up and maybe get 1 or 2 lap dances,.

My point is its the guy going alone who is spending money and the type of client strippers want!!!
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houjack
7 years ago
Solo.

I was self-conscious the first few months I started going solo, but after enough experience and once your balls mature you stop giving a fuck what other people think.

If I had a friends that were PL like me I'd totally go with them though.
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Subraman
7 years ago
-->"If I had a friends that were PL like me I'd totally go with them though."

That's what I claim most of us would do. Totally understand why guys choose NOT to club with non-PL friends, though.

Not trying to convince anyone of anything, but the reasons I like SCing with fellow PLs:

- Someone to talk to on the way up, swap SC stories, etc.
- When we get there (and on the way home), someone to walk with to the club. Shocking, but it turns out, not all SCs are in great areas :)
- I do enjoy some socializing and catching up with my buddies. Especially those first 15 minutes when I'm not in full blown perv mode
- Party atmosphere at the table. Each of us has a girl. On slow shifts -- which is when we try to go in any case -- sometimes there's two girls for every guy, the girls just flock to the one table where multiple guys are spending, even if most of the girls will only be getting drinks and not dances. I LOVE the party atmosphere. We all talk together as a table to tell sex stories, talk shit, do shots...
- ... but then, since we're all pervs, we'll basically ignore each other and each just talk to our girls
- ... then it's shot time and we're all talking shit together again. Did I say I love this?
- If we want a girl at the club, we'll send one of "our" girls to go fetch her. We are rarely faced with the "I want to get Bambi's attention but she's ignoring me or with other guys, what do I do?" issue that so often comes up on this forum. Whatever Bambi is doing, we send one of our girls to get her, no having to ask a bouncer to get her, no having to catch her at the stage, no having to leave our seats.
- Interested in whether Porsche gives good dances? Well, my buddy is sitting with Porsche and he just took her for a dance -- get the g2 before I blow $100 on her
- Someone to talk to on the ride home, talk shit, compare stories, see who got what from whom. And, contrary to some guys here who "know" every stripper gives up the exact same thing to every customer for the same amount, but who also club solo, and so have no actual factual basis for this belief other than faith, I'll tell you it's a fact (after clubbing with a small group of good friends for decades) that sometimes, different guys get different things. Always fun to see who got what from whom for how much

All in all, for me:
1. I love the party atmosphere and hanging with my buddies
2. But those buddies have to be PLs, or willing to play along at the club
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Uprightcitizen
7 years ago
Some of us like myself want relative anonymity and going solo just makes sense. Yea I have run into others at the club I knew in the working world but its been pretty rare.
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lopaw
7 years ago
Solo 99% of the time.
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sharkhunter
7 years ago
Solo for me over 99% of time unless someone talks me into taking them. I started off getting talked into my first couple visits with someone from work then wanted to go visit again without waiting months to do so. Buddies were ok but I discovered lots of benefits to going solo where I used to live. I didn't even feel solo after certain dancers seemed to be my buddies with benefits, Even now when I visit, I get certain dancers wanting to spend time with me. A work buddy was a bit awkward the last time that happened. He seemed more interested in looking at his phone and eventually hitting on a waitress. She was good looking though. One nice thing is not worrying about someone taking over your table when you only left for a minute. One bad thing is that some dancers may not approach as often as when you are alone. I have been swarmed by dancers in clubs where I'm not a regular and go alone. That's not always bad. :)
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sharkhunter
7 years ago
Other advantages for solo involve easier hook up with dancers if you want to meet up or go someplace with them after work. Local clubs stay open until 4 so I stopped doing that. I only used to do that when I lived somewhere that clubs were required to close at 2 am. Greenville is thinking about this. I guess everyone will have to party at other random locations if they decide to restrict us more. I wish someone would vote the taliban off the city council. I guess if they restricted things more I could rent a place in town and invite strippers or friends over assuming they didn't drink too much. I wouldn't want them getting drunk at my place and killing someone late at night. Maybe not a great idea. I might have people crashing at my place.
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sharkhunter
7 years ago
I believe I read one factor with social economic trends is for things to be more restrictive at the height of social mood. When we approach a bottom with a prolonged bear market corresponding to it, drugs might get legalized and taxed, less restrictions on strip clubs. Except for people losing jobs, I'm sorta looking forward to it as long as I keep or get a steady income. You know it's bad when the strip club is deserted on the weekend because everyone else lost their job. I fully expect the fed to take us back there.
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