An extended break? I realized I'm getting too attached to my ATF, plus I'm spending way too much, and it's affecting me mentally and physically. So I dropped all contact and plan on taking an extended break from it to recollect myself and hopefully come back looking at it differently and not get so into it. Maybe a four month break. Any thoughts or did anyone else ever do this?
I've taken three breaks of about six weeks each in my 23 years of clubbing. If you're spending too much time, money, or emotional energy on strip clubs or strippers, by all means give it a rest. My six-week break last fall did me good, so I may take another this fall. Who am I kidding? My break last year was largely due to erectile issues, and when they were over, so was my break :)
Took an extended break when I got caught by my wife on an OTC date. Someone recognized me and the stripper at dinner and called her. Took a long break from clubbing to keep from losing at least 50% of my assets. Much more careful now
Sure. I discovered this site as I was exiting my last break. It's fine. Strip clubs will be here when you get back. Or, you may find something that you enjoy / prioritize over strip clubs.
@lurker_X "For a guy who mongers daily, a break might only be a week, LOL"
This is probably how I'd slow it down. Instead of going X times a year, I go 25% of that. So if I'm going weekly, I'll go monthly. If I go monthly, I'll go every 3 or 4 months.
I took 4 months off last year. 3 weeks of it in the hospital for surgery and another 3 months at home for physical therapy before I was able to drive again.
There are times around the holidays and winter (Nov - Feb) that my clubbing is extremely limited and sometimes I have not clubbed at all during those 4 months. The holidays are a busy time at work and sometimes the weather is too shitty in Jan and Feb for much travel.
golly... the only time i have taken time off is when i am at my arizona casa. sure las vegas still beckons to me. it's 90 minutes away. butt i do better with vegas than i did in the past. i finally got to the realization of how expensive vegas really is. it basically killed my savings. it is fun. butt much better times are just a few hours more away. primarily tijuana and hong kong club. secondly coi clubs. more bang for the buck. no excuses. and pun intended.
I really have only had 2 extended breaks, one because I was bored with all the clubs in my area, which went for most of a year and ended when I discovered my long-term favorite club, and another 6 month break because my health was acting up. I have taken shorter breaks as well and sometimes I avoid certain clubs for a while.
I've been spacing out my visits to be about once every 4 weeks or so. To many on this board, I am always taking a "break" based on how often I actually do go to a club.
As for when I've taken really long breaks, that would describe the first 6 years I was going to strip clubs. The few years I lived in Wisconsin, I had a limited number of clubs that were within an hour drive and they all had very limited mileage. They were the type of clubs where the dancer can touch you, but you can't touch them. It would be common for me to take a break that was longer than a month.
When I moved to Detroit, I was only going to a club about 3 times a year, and by choice, it was the one that best resembled the type of clubs I was used to visiting. At the time, I was being taken care of outside of the club because I was seeing escorts.
This past year was when I started to go to clubs a lot more often than I have in the past. This was mostly because I eventually found a girl at my (former) regular club that got my motor running, and I really wanted to fuck her. Being the type of club it is, and the type of girls that work there, I knew that would not be a possibility unless I set up OTC. I solved my problem by going to clubs where they will take care of me ITC.
The one downside to taking a break is that if you enjoy "regular" status at a particular club, that can all evaporate during your break (depending on the length of the break and the club). It's not like you can't put in the time to get your perks back, but starting from square one can be annoying.
Actually, sometimes it is good to shake that regular status. Let the girls forget who has laid claim to you (sometimes it happens even if you're not letting it happen), new dancers come in, etc. I even had one dancer "remember" our VIP time as a good time (it was actually pretty awful), so she got really frisky with me on the floor hoping for another.
I took nearly a two decade break.........came back for a handful of reasons..... went to a NY club a few weeks back with a friend and remembered all the reasons I took the extended break the first time.
Technically I have been on a break since then but some of it has to do with my dating life which right now is going great. When I am bored with civi women I tend to hit the p4p options.
I've taken many breaks - of a few months. If I'm not feeling it - then I will let it go for a bit.
I was laid off a few months back - and I devoted my energy towards getting back to work. The lay off hit me hard - as I'd been working for over 30 straight years - so I worked at getting back to work. Luckily I found work quickly. Being a monger - you'd think I would have used the time for otc pursuits - but I didn't.
I don't call it a break if you are too busy with other things or life happens and it keeps you away, Taking a break sounds like something voluntary like I think I will take a vacation to the beach for a break. I've gone months without visiting strip clubs. Earlier this year in fact. Several years ago I had a bone fracture and the doctors said I had to avoid alcohol and smoke. That sucked. It was for 5 weeks. I made it 6 or 7 to be on the safe side. I think. I'm not always safe. I usually go to church every week as well but had to leave service early during that time walking right out early in the service. They were using incense and when a whiff hit me, it gave me a splitting headache. I had to get out of there. I knew the doctors were right. I had to avoid all smoke even if that meant getting out of church. I'm just thankful I was wearing a helmet because it was dented. I might have been killed or suffered brain injuries if I hadn't had a helmet on.
I took a little over a year off from clubbing while I was saving up to buy my first house and a couple year hiatus while I was working on a car restoration.
"What would you say to the girls there? Just say 'I'm taking a break?' Or would they bombard you with texts/calls?"
We don't know the dancers you're dealing with; no idea if they'll bombard you.
Just stop going. If any of them reaches out to you, just tell them that you'll be out of the loop for a while because of personal stuff. They'll move on. Probably faster than you think.
I have to take this break because I'm getting way too into my ATF. Obsessing about her constantly, it's affecting my life. It's gotten to the point that I can't even go in there if she's working because I'll be a basket case. So I told her it's affecting me, that I have to take a long break and fix myself, that I don't even know if I'll come back. I just have to get her out of my system and this is the only way I think I can do it. She pretty much just said ok, take care.
No that was all she said..I know I'm not the only one she's doing stuff with but I found my mistake was doing constant stuff with her outside the club and it messed me up to where I was just nonstop thinking about her in a lovestruck relationship kind of way and I knew that was wrong. But I couldn't stop my feelings and if I would keep seeing her OTC I know it would just keep screwing me up mentally and financially until one day it would be even worse down the road to stop. Now I just need time to pass and hopefully I can get it through me
Yeah I definitely need a break. To just step away from it. Get the feelings out of my system and I need to set new rules for myself. Doing OTC is what got me messed up. Only ITC from now on, I even need to probably delete all my social media so I won't keep logging on to look at her page/photos. ?
After reading your posts - I agree that you need a break. Take some time away from the club and clear your head. Your constant thoughts of that dancer aren't healthy. I wish you the best.
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This is probably how I'd slow it down. Instead of going X times a year, I go 25% of that. So if I'm going weekly, I'll go monthly. If I go monthly, I'll go every 3 or 4 months.
Hell right now I'm actually designing a on and off season for myself
I feel that is is a must to take time away to replenish funds and to miss the clubs...you will enjoy and appropriate it more
Don't put a time frame on it. Let it occur normally. When you're ready to come back you'll know.
I also agree with rh48 just like many things in life it's better to do it instinctively..usually advanced players do this
As for when I've taken really long breaks, that would describe the first 6 years I was going to strip clubs. The few years I lived in Wisconsin, I had a limited number of clubs that were within an hour drive and they all had very limited mileage. They were the type of clubs where the dancer can touch you, but you can't touch them. It would be common for me to take a break that was longer than a month.
When I moved to Detroit, I was only going to a club about 3 times a year, and by choice, it was the one that best resembled the type of clubs I was used to visiting. At the time, I was being taken care of outside of the club because I was seeing escorts.
This past year was when I started to go to clubs a lot more often than I have in the past. This was mostly because I eventually found a girl at my (former) regular club that got my motor running, and I really wanted to fuck her. Being the type of club it is, and the type of girls that work there, I knew that would not be a possibility unless I set up OTC. I solved my problem by going to clubs where they will take care of me ITC.
Technically I have been on a break since then but some of it has to do with my dating life which right now is going great. When I am bored with civi women I tend to hit the p4p options.
I was laid off a few months back - and I devoted my energy towards getting back to work. The lay off hit me hard - as I'd been working for over 30 straight years - so I worked at getting back to work. Luckily I found work quickly. Being a monger - you'd think I would have used the time for otc pursuits - but I didn't.
We don't know the dancers you're dealing with; no idea if they'll bombard you.
Just stop going. If any of them reaches out to you, just tell them that you'll be out of the loop for a while because of personal stuff. They'll move on. Probably faster than you think.
Don't make it complex.
That's not surprising. I think that you're making a good decision. Enjoy your break.
Did she say see you in a couple weeks or whenever?