Has anyone ever taken a break from the club?

39 comments

• MrDeuce

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  7 years ago

  I've taken three breaks of about six weeks each in my 23 years of clubbing. If you're spending too much time, money, or emotional energy on strip clubs or strippers, by all means give it a rest. My six-week break last fall did me good, so I may take another this fall. Who am I kidding? My break last year was largely due to erectile issues, and when they were over, so was my break :)
• Doces300

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  7 years ago

  Took an extended break when I got caught by my wife on an OTC date. Someone recognized me and the stripper at dinner and called her. Took a long break from clubbing to keep from losing at least 50% of my assets. Much more careful now
• mark94

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  7 years ago

  I went 3 years once. Shorter breaks other times. It was more for lifestyle reasons than financial. After a while, it gets to be too much.
• WetWilly

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  7 years ago

  Yes, and I end up at an AMP....or 2, or 3....
• Lurker_X

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  7 years ago

  For a guy who mongers daily, a break might only be a week, LOL
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  7 years ago

  Sure. I discovered this site as I was exiting my last break. It's fine. Strip clubs will be here when you get back. Or, you may find something that you enjoy / prioritize over strip clubs. Hobbies are fun. Ruts are not.
• DisRuptive1

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  7 years ago

  @lurker_X "For a guy who mongers daily, a break might only be a week, LOL" This is probably how I'd slow it down. Instead of going X times a year, I go 25% of that. So if I'm going weekly, I'll go monthly. If I go monthly, I'll go every 3 or 4 months.
• JuiceBox69

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  7 years ago

  I've taken plenty six month time away from the club Hell right now I'm actually designing a on and off season for myself I feel that is is a must to take time away to replenish funds and to miss the clubs...you will enjoy and appropriate it more
• rh48hr

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  7 years ago

  Since I truly stated mongering I've taken a few extended breaks. Twice for relationships and my last one bc I was burnt out. Don't put a time frame on it. Let it occur normally. When you're ready to come back you'll know.
• sharkhunter

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  7 years ago

  Sometimes I take a long break. I call that Monday, Tues,Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.
• DrunkPraetorian

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  7 years ago

  Thank you all! I don't feel alone now :) It all makes sense to follow the wisdom here
• JuiceBox69

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  7 years ago

  Shark LMFAO I also agree with rh48 just like many things in life it's better to do it instinctively..usually advanced players do this
• shadowcat

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  7 years ago

  I took 4 months off last year. 3 weeks of it in the hospital for surgery and another 3 months at home for physical therapy before I was able to drive again.
• shailynn

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  7 years ago

  There are times around the holidays and winter (Nov - Feb) that my clubbing is extremely limited and sometimes I have not clubbed at all during those 4 months. The holidays are a busy time at work and sometimes the weather is too shitty in Jan and Feb for much travel.
• wallanon

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  7 years ago

  About 5 years.
• Jascoi

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  7 years ago

  golly... the only time i have taken time off is when i am at my arizona casa. sure las vegas still beckons to me. it's 90 minutes away. butt i do better with vegas than i did in the past. i finally got to the realization of how expensive vegas really is. it basically killed my savings. it is fun. butt much better times are just a few hours more away. primarily tijuana and hong kong club. secondly coi clubs. more bang for the buck. no excuses. and pun intended.
• DandyDan

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  7 years ago

  I really have only had 2 extended breaks, one because I was bored with all the clubs in my area, which went for most of a year and ended when I discovered my long-term favorite club, and another 6 month break because my health was acting up. I have taken shorter breaks as well and sometimes I avoid certain clubs for a while.
• JuiceBox69

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  7 years ago

  I'm strongly considering making Dec, Jan, Feb, Mar, Apr and May my off season
• jackslash

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  7 years ago

  Last year I didn't go to the club for 4 weeks. I was in China at the time.
• s275ironman

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  7 years ago

  I've been spacing out my visits to be about once every 4 weeks or so. To many on this board, I am always taking a "break" based on how often I actually do go to a club. As for when I've taken really long breaks, that would describe the first 6 years I was going to strip clubs. The few years I lived in Wisconsin, I had a limited number of clubs that were within an hour drive and they all had very limited mileage. They were the type of clubs where the dancer can touch you, but you can't touch them. It would be common for me to take a break that was longer than a month. When I moved to Detroit, I was only going to a club about 3 times a year, and by choice, it was the one that best resembled the type of clubs I was used to visiting. At the time, I was being taken care of outside of the club because I was seeing escorts. This past year was when I started to go to clubs a lot more often than I have in the past. This was mostly because I eventually found a girl at my (former) regular club that got my motor running, and I really wanted to fuck her. Being the type of club it is, and the type of girls that work there, I knew that would not be a possibility unless I set up OTC. I solved my problem by going to clubs where they will take care of me ITC.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  7 years ago

  The one downside to taking a break is that if you enjoy "regular" status at a particular club, that can all evaporate during your break (depending on the length of the break and the club). It's not like you can't put in the time to get your perks back, but starting from square one can be annoying.
• joc13

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  7 years ago

  Actually, sometimes it is good to shake that regular status. Let the girls forget who has laid claim to you (sometimes it happens even if you're not letting it happen), new dancers come in, etc. I even had one dancer "remember" our VIP time as a good time (it was actually pretty awful), so she got really frisky with me on the floor hoping for another.
• shadowcat

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  7 years ago

  Ish - That depends on how well you were known. After my 4 month absence I was greeted like an old friend.
• Warrenboy75

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  7 years ago

  I took nearly a two decade break.........came back for a handful of reasons..... went to a NY club a few weeks back with a friend and remembered all the reasons I took the extended break the first time. Technically I have been on a break since then but some of it has to do with my dating life which right now is going great. When I am bored with civi women I tend to hit the p4p options.
• Imamutt

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  7 years ago

  Yes! Several months with a civvie who is obsessed with swallowing my cum. She's game any time anywhere! I don't even think about the club any more.
• Cashman1234

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  7 years ago

  I've taken many breaks - of a few months. If I'm not feeling it - then I will let it go for a bit. I was laid off a few months back - and I devoted my energy towards getting back to work. The lay off hit me hard - as I'd been working for over 30 straight years - so I worked at getting back to work. Luckily I found work quickly. Being a monger - you'd think I would have used the time for otc pursuits - but I didn't.
• sharkhunter

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  7 years ago

  I don't call it a break if you are too busy with other things or life happens and it keeps you away, Taking a break sounds like something voluntary like I think I will take a vacation to the beach for a break. I've gone months without visiting strip clubs. Earlier this year in fact. Several years ago I had a bone fracture and the doctors said I had to avoid alcohol and smoke. That sucked. It was for 5 weeks. I made it 6 or 7 to be on the safe side. I think. I'm not always safe. I usually go to church every week as well but had to leave service early during that time walking right out early in the service. They were using incense and when a whiff hit me, it gave me a splitting headache. I had to get out of there. I knew the doctors were right. I had to avoid all smoke even if that meant getting out of church. I'm just thankful I was wearing a helmet because it was dented. I might have been killed or suffered brain injuries if I hadn't had a helmet on.
• LecherousMonk

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  7 years ago

  I've taken breaks of six months to a year when I told myself I would be a good boy and stop spending mommy's money on women of ill repute.
• DrunkPraetorian

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  7 years ago

  What would you say to the girls there? Just say "I'm taking a break"? Or would they bombard you with texts/calls?
• whodey

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  7 years ago

  I took a little over a year off from clubbing while I was saving up to buy my first house and a couple year hiatus while I was working on a car restoration.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  7 years ago

  "What would you say to the girls there? Just say 'I'm taking a break?' Or would they bombard you with texts/calls?" We don't know the dancers you're dealing with; no idea if they'll bombard you. Just stop going. If any of them reaches out to you, just tell them that you'll be out of the loop for a while because of personal stuff. They'll move on. Probably faster than you think. Don't make it complex.
• DrunkPraetorian

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  7 years ago

  I have to take this break because I'm getting way too into my ATF. Obsessing about her constantly, it's affecting my life. It's gotten to the point that I can't even go in there if she's working because I'll be a basket case. So I told her it's affecting me, that I have to take a long break and fix myself, that I don't even know if I'll come back. I just have to get her out of my system and this is the only way I think I can do it. She pretty much just said ok, take care.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  7 years ago

  "She pretty much just said ok, take care." That's not surprising. I think that you're making a good decision. Enjoy your break.
• sharkhunter

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  7 years ago

  She's not attached to you. If you are spending too much, it's good to take a break. Did she say see you in a couple weeks or whenever?
• DrunkPraetorian

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  7 years ago

  No that was all she said..I know I'm not the only one she's doing stuff with but I found my mistake was doing constant stuff with her outside the club and it messed me up to where I was just nonstop thinking about her in a lovestruck relationship kind of way and I knew that was wrong. But I couldn't stop my feelings and if I would keep seeing her OTC I know it would just keep screwing me up mentally and financially until one day it would be even worse down the road to stop. Now I just need time to pass and hopefully I can get it through me
• Cashman1234

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  7 years ago

  @DrunkPraetorian it sounds like you need a break. Hopefully a break will clear your head.
• s275ironman

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  7 years ago

  ^^^ I agree. Use the time you usually set aside for the club to enjoy other hobbies and interests that you have.
• DrunkPraetorian

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  7 years ago

  Yeah I definitely need a break. To just step away from it. Get the feelings out of my system and I need to set new rules for myself. Doing OTC is what got me messed up. Only ITC from now on, I even need to probably delete all my social media so I won't keep logging on to look at her page/photos. ?
• Cashman1234

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  7 years ago

  After reading your posts - I agree that you need a break. Take some time away from the club and clear your head. Your constant thoughts of that dancer aren't healthy. I wish you the best.