How often do you lie in a strip club setting?

I'm not brutally honest but I don't lie. What's the point anyway? I've straight up told some girls they just aren't my type. Sometimes it goes well. Sometimes it doesn't.

All the time, but now I just tell them I'm lying if I don't feel like making it sound convincing. They're lying, too, so it's all good.

99% of the time.

Well, there's levels of honesty inside the club to the dancers/staff, and then there's levels of honesty about my strip club habit to those in my non-clubbing life.

In the club ... If I'm asked about my work, I'll describe the kind of work I do but not where I do it. In terms of where I live, I'll say that I'm from Rhode Island; there's really no need to narrow it down from there. I really don't have to lie about anything else because I keep the conversation light and pleasant, and most dancers are on board with that. It's not like they're looking to disclose their life story,either. Dancers will sometimes ask what other dancers I've taken to VIP, what we've done, and/or what I paid. I tell them that I won't talk about that, and that I also won't talk about what we'll do when another dancer asks the same questions.

Outside the club ... There's one buddy who knows everything. There's another buddy who knows a lot. Outside of that, I keep my strip club activities cordoned off from the rest of my life. The bulk of society takes a dim view on both dancers and customers, and keeping my clubbing life separate from my personal life is (in my view) easier than not doing so.

I don't need to lie about anything.

For basics like “have you been here before” it’s the truth. If there’s no value in lying, the truth is easier.

For anything personal, I’m evasive. When asked where I work or what I do, I never name my employer or specific discipline, I just say “IT stuff, it’s boring”.

I don’t want a rogue stripper figuring out who I am or where I live in whatever unlikely event where she’s got an axe to grind with me.

If I tell a dancer she’s hot, it is always because she is.

If I'm asked about anything that is personal I have a made up story.

I'm with @drew. I don't lie about much, but I don't volunteer all my biographical info.

No need to lie. I don't answer questions I don't want to, but I don't lie.

I don't lie. I either sit up or stand.

I lie when giving a truthful answer would be long and complicated or it is a subject that I don't want talk about. I'll give an example. Dancers sometimes ask me if I'm married or have been married and then, when I say I'm divorced, ask me why the marriage ended. The honest answer is that it was a lot of little things added together rather than one big thing. If I give that answer, though, they ask further questions. If I just say something like she was a serious alcoholic, which is not true, they just nod their head and drop the subject. My divorce is a painful subject to talk about, so I want to steer any conversations quickly away from that.

The only lie I ever tell is when a girl asks for a dance that I'm not attracted to and I say "I just got here, maybe later" or "I'm not getting any dances tonight".

There's a 95% chance that within 5 minutes of saying either of those things I'm headed to VIP with some blonde. I feel like those are well know gentle let downs, however. They know it's BS, you know it's BS, but it's better than saying "No, you smell of rotten cottage cheese and look like David Hasslehoff, I'd rather get a dance from a Llama that just ate chili, please go away".

I don’t have a need to lie to anyone, I have no obligation to answer questions about anything I don’t want you to know, and in response to girls asking if I want dances maybe later will work just fine, and it’s the truth.

I lie until I'm too lit up, and then start slipping with the truth. Especially if I'm hanging out with the same dancer for awhile.

I feel like customers lie all the time. To be fair though, I never ask invasive questions about how much they make or if they are married lmao.

One appeal of the SC is an ability to be honest with regards to sexual desire. Stare at her tits and ass, compliment her body. Sexual harassment in the real world is fine in the club.

There's plenty from my personal life I omit unless I know her well.

Never. What's the point? I won't answer questions I don't want to, but what's the point of lying?

I tell the truth all the time but sometimes people think I am lying. If the truth sounds too bizarre, I may stay quiet or change the subject. I have lied in a regular bar to a girl that insisted I was married and kept asking if I was over and over again. After asking me 6 to 10 times, she was annoying me. I lied and then she said I knew it and left me alone. So typically I tell the truth but if someone can’t handle the truth and is annoying me, I might lie to get rid of someone. I never told a girl in a strip club that I was married.

When it comes to someone pestering me, I might tell a white lie.

No lies here. Marriage? My wedding ring hasn't been off for 38 years and I expect I'll be wearing it when I finally die. I don't feel like I have secrets with any of my favs. Anyone else that asks a question that I consider too personal, I will simply refuse to answer.

I lie to myself every time I go into a strip club, saying to myself “this is a very normal activity for horny males to partake”, just so I don’t feel like I am as much of a pl.

I do tell dancers I have a busy life and why. That’s no lie.

Icees post is ridiculous

Not sharing your employer extends to much beyond the strip club.

I don’t lie much. Just about (1) my name; (2) my occupation; (3) whether I’m from [insert club city]; (4) my age; (5) whether I really want them come back in “30 minutes”; and (6) whether I’ve done OTC with anyone else in the club. Beyond that, I am entirely above board.

In my local clubs I don't lie often. I'm not sensitive about things like my first name, what I do for work, the general areas I live in, my marital status or many other basic personal details. I'm also happy to use my real cell #, which I've had forever, goes to a work phone that only I can access and comes up clean on online searches (including paid ones) since I've never used it in any public forum or filing. Good luck using any of that info for bad acts. I have no personal online presence whatsoever, which is by design.

When I'm asked a question I don't want to answer, I simply tell her that I don't talk about that stuff. Most of the time questions like that involve what I do/did with other girls, which is a no fly zone for me.

The next most common type of bad question usually involves some baby stripper trying to dig out marital details, no doubt looking for me to whine about my marriage to justify why I'm fucking around with strippers. I often respond with something like "Look honey, I have no excuses for what I do, I do it because I want to and I can" right before I send the silly child away. She'll learn soon enough, but not on my dime or time.

In road clubs it's mostly the same, though I'm prone to exaggerating how often I'll be back in the area. Two decades of road clubbing has taught me that his has two potential benefits: (1) making them believe that I won't be a one and done if they join me OTC; and (2) limiting certain bad behaviors that sometimes occur with tourists who the girls never expect to see again.

I avoid specifics regarding certain questions, in order to not lie in a strip club. I don’t give my home address out, but I will be honest about the town I live in. I think that is a safe approach.

Although, I avoid blunt honesty. If I’m not attracted to a dancer, and she asks me if I want to buy dances, I will just say that I’m still settling in, and I’m not ready to get dances yet.

Instead of lying I'll just not answer or deflect to something else.

When dancers approach me about dances, and I know they aren't what I'm looking for, I'll quickly say something like "So you know, I'm not really in the mood to buy dances yet. I'm telling you now so you can go find a guy who wants dances. I know that this is your job." Is it a gentle white lie? Sometimes, yes; sometimes, no. But, they react well to that about 99% of the time.

On rare occasions, I'll have a hard sell dancer who tries to sit with me until I'm "In the mood". If that happens, I'll say something like "I'm sorry, but you're not for me. Good luck with the rest of your shift." I'm firm but polite about it. And I never let them sit with me long enough to where I'm wasting their time (or feel entitled to a tip). While they may not love hearing that, it's never resulted in ugliness.

I would never comment very specifically about why I'm turning down a dancer. It's just mean spirited, not honest.

I lie as little as possible but just enough to protect my anonymity, including my stripper name. Telling a dancer who isn’t my type that ‘I just got here’ or ‘I don’t want dances now’ is not a lie. It’s accepted club code.

Much as I respect my brother from a hairless ape mother, this rick says that honesty is always the best policy. Why would I lie? Everything about me is cool. After all, I’m a lion 🦁 and that’s the king of the beasts. Cool. I’m also at rick, and ricks are the most badass creatures on the planet. Cool. So I’m like cool squared.

I totally get the dugan’s point about not kissing and telling. But I’ve also found that the truth can entice the sexy female hairless apes. Check out this scenario:

Sexy female hairless ape named Lexus: “So, have you done anything with Jade” This rick: “Of course…last night I took her to a classy hotel room and rickbanged her with two of my buds, a vulture and a shark” Lexus: “Ooo…that sounds sexy. Can we do that?” This rick: “Alas, my buds have left town. The vulture is migrating and the shark swam off to Miami. Plus I’m kind of busy rickin’ around so I have limited time before I go do some important drunk drivin’” Lexus: “That’s okay…you’re the sexiest rick of all so let’s go fuck in the bathroom stall” This rick: “Enticing…but I have a counter-offer. You join me in my Tesla. I’ll engage the autopilot and we get drunk and fuck while random hairless apes bounce off the hood.” Lexus: “I’m in!!!” This rick: “ROAR!!!”

Now you we why this rick always tells the truth. ROAR!!!

never talk about what kind of work I do, real name. But one of the dancers after around 10 visits, she pulled my linkedin page and showed me for my shock. She traced me using my phone number. She is a good friend. Lot things they can find out if they have your phone number. Still don't give any personal info.

"...but what's the point of lying?"

I kind of see it the other way. What's the point in telling the truth to someone who doesn't care unless they think it'll get them more money? Strippers aren't asking these questions because they're being friendly and making conversation. They're trying to get a quick and dirty take on how much money you're worth to them.

This has unexpectedly turned into a really interesting thread. I wrote more thoughts on this with a couple of examples from the past couple of months, but I'll get to that later. A lot of the links I found on this topic were from self-improvement sites or recovery/abuse sites. Some of you dudes are sensitive lol, so these are more generic sites.

10 Types of Lies: medium.com

8 Types of Liars: mindremakeproject.org

About anything I'd even remotely care about keeping straight? No. Have a told a few strippers I have a ridiculous job, like Rocket Surgeon? Yes. I've also lied about frequency of visits and things, mostly in the scenarios and for the reasons Rick outlined. The things I don't want to talk about I usually either say I don't talk about that or I cannot recall, if they don't get the hint I'll start with ridiculous lies.

I'm pretty open with strippers I see regularly.

I tell them I am BagBoyJames. I tell them about all of my homeless adventures and travels. They are so captivated I can't beat them all off with a stick.

God Bless Juice

In the initial round of chatting, both sides are interviewing each other to some extent. Each side has certain objectives. Most of the time I'm straight up, but as needed if/when certain questions come up, on occasion I'll understate or overstate my answer to optimize my negotiating position.

Rick, since you use your real cell number, are you careful not to discuss any specifics regarding otc details or exchange of money for meetups? Isn’t discussing something over text on your real number risky compared to discussing it on a fake number or in person only? And isn’t there a way they can get your real full name from your real cell number. It may not show on google but theres other websites. Additionally if they work at or know someone who works at one of the major phone stores they can likely pull a lot of information on someone just from their phone number. Any info you provided to the phone company when getting your cell phone can potentially be obtained by someone working for that company. And it isn’t difficult to get a job on the retail side of these phone companies, its only the corporate side that requires a college degree or experience, tech skills etc.

I never lie. Lying would dishonor my grandfather, the recently deceased Pope Benedict XVI, and my son, the recently elected Representative George Santos.

I don't see tge point of it. I'm there to have fun not to question or make calculated moves

They lie to us all the time. I once told a stripper that I was a triplet just because lol

The point is never allowing a strip club to scan your ID. if they are scanning your ids step back to your car. So, you can avoid them calling your home phone or employer when things don't go well.

Can they find employer info just from photo id? Would they really contact employers?

It's not such a big dark secret that I frequent strip clubs, so I don't have a fake name or any such. The two lies I frequently tell is "I just came to watch the stage show" or "I'm tired, I'm going to leave soon". But it's odd/silly how some dancers don't get use to just a polite "no, thanks".

When traveling, I've considered claiming that I just moved there, the idea being I'll get the make me their regular dance. But, feels greasy to give them false hopes they might be getting a new regular.

I am fairly affectionate and considerate with my favs. Sometimes that causes them to have feelings of dissatisfaction with their SOs. So I'm honest with them about all the reasons I'm single (with I won't be on TUSCL). Helps them to make a fairer comparison.

Strip club that scan IDs are trying to kick people out that create problem. Unless you have a record, it is not an issue

I don't talk about my job other than general stuff. But I'm not in the club to talk about my job but even they found out what are they going to do? I'm an adult and a responsible one. It's not like I'm driving drunk or being irresponsible. I don't hand out my business card at clubs or telling everyone at work how much I partied during the weekend. I'm not using my corporate credit card. If my job did fire me for hitting up clubs - that is their loss. Believe it or not I run into quite a few co-workers from time to time. Even customers too.

And I totally get that strippers or hell nearly everyone will lie about anything to get something out of you. That's a sad part of reality it's not like you have to participate in that reality. If people lie, that's on them. Not me.

Nothing to hide. Some girls will take any dollar but I know other girls only want the top dollar type of guy. I'm not one to waste anybody's time but I'm up you better believe only a select few will know and they will only know about what's in my pocket not what's in my bank account.

Nixur68 but is it legal for them to scan ids and store the information from them? In order to keep track of who is banned or whatever else, they would need to be storing the data from the IDs. Can they legally scan and save IDs if they don’t inform attendees that their ID info will be stored? At some of these clubs the bouncers will even lie (or they dont know) and claim the ID machine is just verifying if the ID is real.

Back when I was POTUS I found that title pretty distracting, so I always just told them I owned a refuse service in north Jersey.

@Muddy

I will play along and comment on your discussion.

Q: How often do you lie in a strip club setting? Are you always full of shit? Nothing to hide? We talk about stripper honesty a lot but what about us?

A: I just use a Burner Phone and a Burner Identity when participating in Adult Industry activities/hobby.

Everything that happens related to the Strip Club activities should be considered a work of fiction/fantasy…

:D

===> "Rick, since you use your real cell number, are you careful not to discuss any specifics regarding otc details or exchange of money for meetups? Isn’t discussing something over text on your real number risky compared to discussing it on a fake number or in person only?"

I never discuss specific acts by text, but as far as the rest, no. The girls I see don't advertise on escort sites. So the odds that cops are going to ever bust me or her for prostitution are almost nonexistent to begin with. But even if they did, let's say, bust a girl and find my texts on her phone, the notion that they are going to subpoena the cell company over a misdemeanor solicitation charge is ridiculous, especially one that would be tough to prove anyway when they don't have any evidence of specific sex acts.

And to the rest, no, there is no great online source for cell data. Cell companies don't publish their subscriber lists, so the only way to link a number to a person is if that person has used it on something that made it online. Unfortunately a lot of people have done that at some point in their travels, whether they realized it or not.

Unfortunately a lot of people have done that at some point in their travels, whether they realized it or not.

Yep. Just google your cell number.

One of the other reasons I don't lie is because the truth is easier to remember.

I don’t lie about anything that matters but I’ve been asked a few times what vehicle I drive. I tell them I drive a pickup, which is true. A few times I’ve been asked make and model and I’ll lie about that to a gal I just met. It’s just easier than having a convo about which questions are too personal with a new-to-me gal who I’m becoming uninterested in because she’s asking too many questions.

===> "One of the other reasons I don't lie is because the truth is easier to remember."

I wish I had said this. Exactly.

And to Mr. Lion's interesting parable about the value of sharing what he did with another dancer, in a real life version of that story it is just as likely - and perhaps more so - that "Lexus" was asking you what you did with "Jade" so that she could use it to cut Jade's throat. Not every place is Detroit or Miami. Digging for dirt like this is how some girls self-police in low/no extras clubs.

I never thought it was rude to say no thanks to a dancer I’m not interested in. Sure it might be a little blunt, but at least I’m not wasting their/my time an there are certainly less appropriate ways to respond.

I have no problem giving a dancer my first name along with other basic info such as what kind of work I do. Usually within five minutes of meeting a dancer they are asking me or I’m asking them if they are interested in dances.

@rickdugan: "that 'Lexus' was asking you what you did with 'Jade' so that she could use it to cut Jade's throat. Not every place is Detroit or Miami. Digging for dirt like this is how some girls self-police in low/no extras clubs."

Ugh, the one and only question to which I will outright lie is some form of "what did you do with X" or "did you and X do Y" from a dancer who is not X.

Unless I know them more than through the slippery friction of membranes, the answer to that sort of question will be "she danced for me" or "nothing exciting".

I'm probably honest to a fault. I don't like and am not comfortable lying but there are times that I won't be totally honest when it comes to turning a dancer down because I'm not interested in or not attracted to her unless she pushes and provokes me. If I get asked personal questions beyond generic stuff I will counter with I don't see why that should concern them. Now if I become friends with a certain dancer I am willing to share more of my life away from the club.

I don't care enough to lie about basic stuff like my name or what I do. If I don't want to disclose or talk about something, then I just decline to talk about it rather than make something up. And I totally agree with others that have stated that they will not talk about what they've done with other dancers. That I am definitely not talking about either.

Rick if someone knows yoir phone number and works at one of the phone carrier stores cant they look up a bunch of details on you using the phone number? Like your full name address etc