Why doesn't SC'ing feel like cheating?
For the past couple of years I feel as if I have somewhat been deprived. My Wife and I have sex 1-2 a week, but at my age (24) it's just not working for me. I had a ex GF where 7 times out the week was done with ease. Not that I'm expecting that much now, but I'm HIGHLY attracted to my Wife so once a week is no good for me. There's nothing worse than laying there, wanting to make love, but not even try because I know I'll get shot down. Sex HAS to be on her time... I've sat her down and I've tried explaining to her my needs but it seems to go in one ear and out the other... This obviously started creating problems within our relationship. I've had thoughts of the whole side h*es thing but it's just not for me. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt JUST from texting so that's just something I can't do. However, when I go to the club I'm sucking titties, talking dirty, rubbing p*ssy, making out, etc. and I feel NO guilt when going back home. In fact, the SC has helped me to be even more patient with my Wife. If she tells me "no" I know that I'll be seeing my CF within a few days. I kiss my Wife goodnight and rollover and fall asleep with a smile on my face :)Got something to say?
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It’s easy - you go - you get it in - and you leave. It’s like one stop shopping - it’s convenient - it’s not messy - and it’s over. You can then go home and kiss your wife good night...
SJG
But no guilt, apparently, when offering an immigrant stripper $200 for an hour of sex via text, and then texting "what's your price?" when she (amazingly...) didn't accept right away.
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And though texting to a woman makes you feel horrible, the only thing stopping you from getting a bareback blowie from a porn star isn't your marriage, but rather your fear of catching the herp.
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Hey! You know, I think I just figured out why going to a strip club doesn't feel like cheating to you...
You're a dick.
You don't find too many of these dancing at strip clubs.
But I do feel for you bro, trying to survive a horrid marriage. Eventually though you do have to act.
SJG
I wouldn't say always "over" but yes for sure some dissatisfaction. And then SCing becomes so fun, addicting or emotionally entangled that for a PL with and SO, the PL's thought life is more connected to CF than to SO.
I know that sounds weird, but it's true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce …
That would be sad.
If two people were married and they were really happy and they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad.
But that has happened zero times."
~ CK
But it's cheating.
I haven't abandoned my original premise that you're a dick. But I'll add that perhaps the time you spend seeking counsel from anonymous perverts on a strip club message board would be better spent in marriage counseling.
But if you come to a message board with a long tradition of blunt answers, then you shouldn't be surprised when you get blunt answers.
The key is what does your partner think: if you keep it a secret from her regardless of the actual act she most likely will consider it cheating.
Knowing all this makes it hard for me to be in a strip club. I don't feel like I'm cheating on her but I feel like a dickhead husband that doesn't really care what my wife thinks. It's made me stop going.
It's not an 'arrangement' if it's between you and yourself, you muppet.
Time for a change of tuscl handle to Sirlapdancealmostnever?
Will whoever writes this shit please leave the house once in a while? If you're going to pretend to be a young guy or a stripper then at least have a clue, lol.
It's too soon!
Savor that flavor willydipshit
Could be a troll but isn't op describing most marriages? Unless you found a unicorn and you're an exception, plenty of married men have said(first hand to me and on the internet) once you get married is when the sex stops. Or a minimum amount of pity/duty sex. They let themselves go and get fat. They have a million and 1 reasons for why they dont wanna have sex. Once you marry her she has what she wants. If op(or any married man that frequents sex workers) was satisfied with the wife, they wouldn't bother paying hookers and strippers.
That is a rather naive viewpoint. Sometimes the unfamiliar is more exciting than the familiar, no matter how good it is. I've seen others make this same comment and it almost always seems to originate from men who haven't been in a decade plus long relationship or from females who don't fully understand certain male impulses.
Hahahaha - well played, sir
Sorry to hear but it sounds like it might be for the best
Also we even openly talked about how I seem to be more horny than her as we have aged as an excuse to club, but she made the point that me going doesn't really put her in the mood to have sex with me. It's a valid point.
Fun is fun, but a good marriage is rare.
Chessmaster, guess I found a unicorn then, 40 years together, faithful and fun. Fun less often than when we were young, but plenty for us each.
If I were you, I'd start doing spontaneous things, do things that get her aroused because you being handsome clearly isnt enough. Set the mood and if you do it right, she'll jump your bones like in the old days.
At 24, divorce is not a deal breaker. It gives you time to figure out what you truly want. I was engaged in my early 20's and thank goodness it didn't work out. If she's threatening divorce, it's going to happen eventually in my opinion because it's on her mind. You don't threaten that with someone you love.
You may want to get ahead of it. Get back on your own and then there's nothing to keep you from getting laid as much as you want.
But a lifestyle based on cheating and deception, that I do not go along with.
SJG
We need to invent better options.
SJG
^ @san_jose_creep But you admittedly went along with that lifestyle because you did cheat on your wife with strippers and AMP whores. That's why you're divorced and homeless, knucklehead.