Familiarity breeds....

gawker
Older than dirt
My ATF has been a stripper for about 7 years. I first met her almost 5 years ago and have seen her OTC at least once a week for the last four years. She has a BF who's been with her for 11 years and they have an 8 year old son being raised by his grandmother but they're still a part of his life. I figure I've fucked her at least 250 times and she rocks my boat sexually like no other woman ever has. I've met the BF several times and while the two of them have long involved drug histories, they both have vowed to get clean and stay sober. They both recently left rehab and so far so good. I should mention that she was born on my 40th birthday so obviously I'm much older than she. I've never entertained visions of riding off into the sunset with her and truly think that she and the BF will stay together for the foreseeable future.
With both of them coming out of rehab, they're broke, homeless, and don't have a working car. Earlier in the week I picked her up, drove her 100 miles to a doctors appointment, then 50 miles to a hotel where I enjoyed her favors and then left her there for 3 nights (prepaid with loyalty points) right around the corner from her club. Her plan was to work 4 shifts in 3 days to earn money to get back on her feet. I've fronted her several thousand dollars and now am not paying for OTC until we're square. She had this afternoon free and we had planned to spend time in her room and then go to dinner and then I'd drop her off at work. After seeing her a couple of nights ago I was driving home when the BF called me. He had found a letter she had written to a guy she met in rehab in which she described in great detail the pleasures she could anoint upon his body. He was pissed off at her and after fighting over the phone with her denying any impropriety other than lust, he called me because he knows " I love her like a daughter".
I assured him that even though she was flighty and impulsive, she loved only him. This seemed to mollify him to some extent, but I began to feel guilty about cuckolding this guy. Today I learned she's pregnant ( I joked with her that it was good that she'd been able to narrow the father's identity down to 17 guys) but she's sure that the BF is the father. I'm really stumped about how to address this whole situation. Walk away? Continue to meet her OTC until I'm paid back? Leave the BF in innocent bliss? Thoughts?

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mjx01
10 years ago
pray she/he isn't yours
Thekingof32
10 years ago
Run away. The OTC may not be worth the potential drama.
ujay
10 years ago
if there is the slightest chance that you may have impregnated her, leave immediately, and remove all connections with her. Child support is no joke. Child support with a stripper will be a pathway to hell! She can claim cost of living increase every three months! Trust me, I am paying over $2K posttaxes.
sshrfrsky
10 years ago
With all the f'd up shit you have already gone through with her, why leave now? Although for your safety, if the baby isn't the BFs and he finds out , he may go "postal" and kills everyone involved with her even if you are shooting blanks. Will he stop and ask for a fertility test from you? But seriously, only you know how volatile the situation can get with the cast of characters involved.
Clackport
10 years ago
It's been a good ride, but it's time to run away.
JohnSmith69
10 years ago
If you think the bf could realistically become a threat, then I agree to get the fuck out. No pussy is worth that risk. It's been a fun ride but it always comes to an end at some point.
DoctorPhil
10 years ago
@gawker. in the next chapter of your tale have @zipperhead68 and @ilbbaicnl take her to Canada as an illegal immigrant for her healthcare needs. that should put an end to her and the baby.

then have her boyfriend go on a lecture tour starting with @lapdanceking82’s fourth grade special ed class speaking about how the danger of drug abuse is totally worth it if you are a dumbass cuckold who cums in his pants whenever a woman enters the room. that should put an end to your worries about him too.

then you can come to follies for Caprisun69's b'day party and have cake and ice cream with the rest of us.
alabegonz
10 years ago
@gawker:

What's so new about your problem, bro?

Eventually, you will figure it out and do what is right for you.

But the dark side of the force is strong.

Baby test will come later.

If you bail now, you just placed the target on your forehead.
alabegonz
10 years ago
@gawker:

Also make sure she only knows five things about you:

1) Your first name.

2) Your last name. It took about three months for her to know my last name.

3) Your phone number.

4) The car you drive.

5) Your Benjamins.

Strippers go crazy for and chase mysterious guys, the less they know the more they go.

If she knows you so well....oh well.
gawker
10 years ago
The BF is not a threat and the baby can't be mine just cuz she swallows. It's more about leaving the best BBBJCIM & the best pussy I've ever had. Is it worth all the drama? Even tho I know it's just business for her, there's a connection, a symmetry, a relief valve, or whatever you want to call it, with which I've become very comfortable. I've done OTC with plenty of other strippers and many, many escorts and through the years I've enjoyed many civvies, but this ones been special ( partly the age, partly her ability to accommodate and anticipate some of my sexual preferences, partly the fact that her body is the ideal of my mind's eye, and partly good chemistry). I've not found that with other providers, yet something is telling me that it's time to move on and my mind is fighting it.
I also realize and admit that my feelings for her are hypocritical and even self-destructive in some ways. But I just can't get over that last hurdle. Right now I'm not going to contact her, but I know she'll call me when she needs money. That's when I've got be prepared to say yes or no. What a PL!
gawker
10 years ago
Doctor Phil: when's the BD party? My 69th is coming up in September, too.
Caprisun69
10 years ago
Gawker I am anticipating it is next weekend!! Dr. Phil is the party planner and what else is better than cake ice cream strippers and hotstuff
I love u dr Phil!!! 😘😘😘😘
jester214
10 years ago
No matter what she does and/or what we tell you. I don't believe you'll ever walk away from this chick. She'll eventually cut ties, or one of you will die.

I would call it toxic and I suspect it will get worse if she's gonna have a baby. Cut your losses and find a new girl, it doesn't sound like it will be a problem.
shadowcat
10 years ago
Obviously you have never listened to anyone's advice in the past. So why start now?
shailynn
10 years ago
@gawker, are you a little bored need some excitement in your life? I'm not trying to be a smart ass, I'm trying to make the point of maybe you're drawn into this because of the excitement and desire to nurture being why you have continued to do this for so long. I think there's more to this relationship than just great sex and a connection, but only you can pinpoint what that is.

With her being pregnant, just getting out of rehab and her boyfriend getting out as well, I'm guessing when she can no longer dance she's going to be leaning on you pretty hard for support. Who else can she turn to? If you're prepared to do that, then continue. But be advised she could look totally different once she has this baby and would you still want her? Some girls bounce back quick where others, well they never do.

Also do you think she really is pregnant? Considering all the drugs she's done it's possible a miscarriage could happen and wash all of this away quickly.



gawker
10 years ago
Shailynn - yes she's pregnant . I saw the test stick with the blue plus sign. She's had 4 or 5 abortions in the past and one successful pregnancy. Part of her convoluted logic has been, " I want to get pregnant cuz I know I won't use". She's got the type of body which will rebound quickly, I expect (5'4" - 115 lbs) - see my avatar.
You're right in that the drama of it all intrigues me, but this just may be too much.
Shadowcat - I've listened to others' thoughts and suggestions but have let the little head over rule the big head. That may not be the case anymore. I'm not prepared or in a position to support her and a baby and the BF just learned that all plea bargains were taken off the table by the prosecutor on two class "A" felonies for which the BF is going to trial in August, so it's looking like he'll be going to prison as a 3 time offender and she'll be stuck. I've got to adopt a mentality of "this is only business" and do what's right for me.
Given the nonsensical drivel posted here recently, I just wanted to inject a little "real life" into a thread and let the wolves attack some fresh meat. I just thought it might be more fun than the 34th thread on LDKing.
SlickSpic
10 years ago
You're gonna have to ride this one out until the bitter end. Then, you write your memoir.
chessmaster
10 years ago
its over. split.
jackslash
10 years ago
It's hard to walk away from good sex with a young woman. I know.

This girl is messed up, and she depends on you for money and support. You're in a fucked up relationship. At the same time you obviously are getting something you need from the relationship.

I would like to tell you to walk away--or run--but I don't know that your life would be better without her.
jerikson40
10 years ago
Unfortunately, when it comes to relationships with strippers, the best answer is generally "run away as fast as you can" when you're wanting it to become more than just a fuck buddy.

Generally, strippers are not relationship material, especially when you're a PL who visits strip clubs. They have zero respect for you. And as we all know, they often are carrying so many substance abuse, relationship abuse, and emotional abuse issues that there just isn't a healthy relationship in there anywhere.
steve229
10 years ago
"Then, you write your memoir."

Then sell the screen rights. Make a hell of a movie
gatorfan
10 years ago
Why was the BF calling you?
gawker
10 years ago
Gator: he called me to find out where she was. I told him the hotel but said I didn't know the room number as it dawned on me that he might want to go there and beat her up ( which he's done before). I had been "driving Miss Daisy" all afternoon and they'd been screaming at each other about her unsent letter regarding her "rehab romance". She had been using my phone because she'd run out of minutes on hers.
rockstar666
10 years ago
She has NO IDEA who the father is so take that at face value. As for the letter, she likely is just trying to make some cash. That's what strippers do.
bang69
10 years ago
Run like hell
Papi_Chulo
10 years ago
Stay with her – she sounds like a nice girl
ime
10 years ago
Gawker based on your stories and level of commitment to this girl. I don't see how you could walk away, you seem to be in this one as long as it lasts. I think you just try to make sure you aren't on the hook in any legal way for anything and just go with it.
alabegonz
10 years ago
Lesson learned.

Next time just fuck anal, bro.
ilbbaicnl
10 years ago
If you two fucked bareback, could be your kid. Pre-cum can be a bitch. Buy anyway, you can run but you can't hide from Maury Povich.

The zipless fuck (as Erica Jong called it) is like the 12-inch dick. Bragged about much more than it really exists. Look how much Elliot Spitzer was paying for a guaranteed zipless fuck, and how that turned out.

You certainly should have your eye out for an alternate fuck-buddy-for-hire. But the only sure way to keep your balls from getting you in trouble is to have them cut off.
Clubber
10 years ago
gawk,

Stories like yours REQUIRE updates or the TUSCL security force will visit you! :)
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