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13 years ago
Anyone happen to hear which gang this was or if it was a combination of gangs working togther? I can't seem to find any details and I am in the Chicago area.
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13 years ago
Same goes for dancers biting the breasts of customers. I have had mine bitten, both on the nipples and just the breast tissue itself, more than once. It is not sexy. It hurts. And will decrease the tip I intended to give. It also ensures that I probably won't get any more dance with you. This works both ways!!!!
Mrs m00tpoint
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13 years ago
I drink a bit - beer only. However, my goal is to buy my wife as many shots of Patron and beers as I can get in her. Patron makes her clothes come off - even in the club - which occasionally results in other guys buying me a round as thank you. LOL It definitely loosens her inhibitions which aren't a lot to start.
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13 years ago
This is why car manufacturers make valet keys. If one locks the glove box and activates the valet button, the valet key only gives access to the ignition and driver's door. It cannot be "undone" unless the key with the chip in it (IE NOT the valet key) is used to reset. One should not be leaving anything in a car that these precautions would not suffice.
Valet parking is a nice feature if you are clubbing with a woman in heels. It also helps the club control how far apart (or close) drivers are parking. Since many clubs have limited parking space, this is important to them. If someone drives up and the lot is full they are not likely to stay and enter the club. In many areas it is also a necessity because of safety. Some of the areas in which there are clubs we would not want to "park down the road and walk."
Good grief! You are going into the club with the intent of dropping at least a couple hundred dollars between drinks and dances and you are going to bitch about $5-10 for parking?
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13 years ago
Agees wholeheartedly with georgemicrodong. If she felt comfortable enough to ask you if you could visit the SC together and even suggested one outside of the normal stomping gounds she is seeking something. It may or may not be with you. I suggest you ask her what she hopes to get out of the trip. You can always tell her you don't want to assume one way or another and get it wrong. Women appreciat HONESTY. Ignore Doc. He is single for reason.
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13 years ago
Try some Aveeno bath. It will help the itching and soothe the irritated skin. That is what the recommend for chicken pox and when kids get poison ivy or oak.
mrs m00tpoint
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13 years ago
We regularly attend clubs together as you can see from our reviews. Sometimes my wife gets lap dances although she is pickier than me on dancers. LOL She ALWAYS gets more mileage than me at the tip rail as well as in the semi-private dance rooms. We both got a lot of mileage out of VIP but the dancer did indicate that the bouncers were more lenient with female customers.
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13 years ago
DOC, just a woman's perspective on the "see her with other women" thing: seeing your woman with another woman is not like seeing your man with another woman. It is like seeing your man with another man. Now, if you wanted to watch her with other men then that is equal but not another woman. mrs m00tpoint
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13 years ago
Just so I am reading correctly - you expect to receive second chances but don't give them? I just want to make sure I am understanding.
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13 years ago
sorry - meant to sign that. In case anyone could not tell, this was mrs m00tpoint
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13 years ago
FYI - my husband and I consider two of the entertainers with whom we have shared some pretty hot times favorites. One an ATF. And we do not have full sex with any of them. No jabs at anyone who does it just is not where we want to go. To be honest we appreciate her sense of humor, openness and love of life.
Marriage is about honesty and trust. When my husband mentioned he wondered what it would be like to go to a SC I was the first in line to sign up. Our fantasies are important to each other so why should we not experiment with this one of his a bit? So, Doc, just so you understand, marriage does not have to include all this hiding and subtrafuge. Nor do I believe marriage means that both parties cannot be friends with a stripper.
I guess it is simply a variation on the old question, Can a man be friends with a woman he finds attractive? I suspect there is no hard and pat answer. It all depends on the people and their view of life and relationships.
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13 years ago
Totally disagree with Dougster. Not all visit SC for sex. In my opinion, ATF can mean a variety of things based on what each customer places in the package as having value.
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13 years ago
Thanks for the info harrydave. In Chicagoland, bouncers will tell both parties to cool it. We believe that is part of why our fav tips the bouncers so well herself. She is smart enough to know that more extras usually equal more tips and more repeat customers. It is not the norm in the Chicagoland clubs. It might be tame or standard fare in some areas but certainly not here.
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13 years ago
Ours was girl-girl action between my wife and our favorite. Entertainer had her hand stroking me over my dress slacks while she and my wife took turns sucking my fingers into their mouthes. My wife's hands were on her breasts playing with her nipples until the entertainer moved one of them to her pussy and started rocking against her hand. My wife slipped her finger inside and the entertainer began to kiss her and rock harder until she had an orgasm.
It was a Sat night, in the Flame Room ($30 lap dance) dances 2 and 3 I think. Left right after for obvious reasons...... *wink*
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13 years ago
I am willing to be that your wife is struggling with the "how many hands, mouths, cocks, etc touched this before it touches me" syndrome that is giving me pause as well. I have to admit, there is one dancer I would go farther with in a NY minute but it has not been an option yet. She has always been swamped with other customers when we have been in or I have chickened out. Your wife is in good company. LOL
mrs m00tpoint
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13 years ago
Newmark, that is because you have not done it. If your primary focus is to explore something new with the person you are already intimate with it is a different ballgame than what I think most guys who frequent strip clubs seek.
So, I go back to the original question: If the concern is about getting "extras" while she is present, do not take her. It will only cause issues in that relatonship. If your goal is to enrich the relationship, invest the time beforehand.
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13 years ago
Hey, I thought we already had that....Oh, wait! It is only for members of Congress~!
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13 years ago
We saw Alexis Texas in Chicago at an after party for Exxxtacy. From Samsung's comments it sounds like there might be some inconsistency in her performances. In Chicago she was high energy, interacted constantly with those at the stage during her performance and even gave away several items while on stage. Yes, she did charge $20 for a private pic after the stage performance and, as I mentioned in the above post, she did charge $100 for a private dance. However, that is the same amount most were charging for private pics at the convention earlier in the day so I assume that is a going rate.
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13 years ago
LOL I always laugh when I see men discussing a woman's sexuality and talking about menapause. Doc, I hope that is not your real profession as your info is certainly incorrect in the case of my wife. She had a mandatory emergency hysterectomy five years ago. It took a year for her to get back into feeling sexual at all. God knows she tried! Her body just was not ready. She is now 48 and WAAAAAY more sexual than ever (and it was always enough to blow my mind before!). She was immediately thrown into menapause by the hysterectomy but once the initial year was over her sex drive returned with vengance. So menapausal or post-menapausal does not seem to make a difference to her.
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13 years ago
Oh, and fbuddy, if your primary concern when taking your g/f is about "extras" you should not take her because most certainly she will feel threatened.
mrs m00tpoint
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13 years ago
Jackslash,
Sorry for the delay in responding.
In a couple the woman will usually see most of the action until the WOMAN tells her she wants the attention to focus on the man. The reason is simple. She gets bigger tips if the woman has a good time. Women who enjoy the dance are more likely to agree to purchase additional dances. They are more likely to buy the more private rooms (champage/VIP) because it is much easier (in my experience) to relax when you don't have to worry about the people the next booth over. A couple in which the man enjoys the dance but the woman does not are not buying more dances or going VIP to have more personal interacion, I can promise. A woman enjoying the attention plays into the very popular male lesbian fantasy which also increases tips. But the biggest reason the stripper will usually focus on the female in the couple because it is safer.
A stripper who dances for a couple opens herself up to the risk of a significantly increased risk of "drama" if the woman does not PERCEIVE the dance in a positive way. Strippers hate drama. It puts their activities front and center with the bouncers and management which has the potential to cost them customers. Who wants a private dance with a dancer that management is now watching closely to see if there is any funny stuff going on? It costs them $$ because they are off the floor explaining what happened to management at the least and at the most the cops (the club we go to any drama on the floor gets everyone thrown out or arrested depending on the level of disruption). It potentially costs them the business of any other couples in the club because every other non-dancing female in the place is now wondering "what the hell did she do to cause that?" and is not going to trust her to dance for them in most cases. Not to mention it takes a lot of energy to deal with all that drama.
It takes a VERY special and secure dancer to entertain a couple. She has to be very good at non-verbal communication and reading body language - especially of the female in the couple. Women go to strip clubs with their man for a variety of reasons. In fact, the first time we talked about going to the SC together I backed out because I realized that part of why I wanted to go was a TEST to see if he would get aroused. What a dumb ass reason to go and would have totally blown up in our face if I had kept quiet and gone! So we talked it through and then went a month or so later after I had dealt with my issues. Many women don't or won't admit that is why they want to go. That is just ONE pitfall an entertainer may run into when dancing for couples, it is not the only one.
Does that about sum it up Stiletto?
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13 years ago
Fetish_dancer, we never assume that the dancer is interested in giving us a private dance just because she is sitting with us. In fact, at our home club, we have multiple dancers sit with us just to say HI, give us news of someone who is no longer at the club or just to have a drink and chat. Just as not all dancers are the client's preference, not all like to dance for couples. Honestly, since we sit in a corner of VIP mostly, I think they sometimes just come to hang out and take a break since the house mom does not bug them as we are regulars. We also like it when a dancer is honest with us and tells us she has another customer waiting or has just done two back to back VIP and needs a break. We will often then order a drink and shrimp cocktail for her (or other offering of her choosing) and get a dance after she has had them to help give her a break.
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13 years ago
We have seen two. One was worth it and one was not. Both cases, different clubs, were fuller than normal. One thing that was clear in both clubs, the local entertainers step up their game to be able to draw the attention because there are more dancers to compete with for the even more limited amount of $$. Both the clubs we were to had higher than average number of couples as well.
If the feature entertainer does offer private dances they will be high. The one that we saw that did was $100 a song. The other one said they offered them but she was over 2 hrs late to take the stage and gave a lackluster performance once there so we did not hang around to see if she did on the later show or not.
If you do get the chance to see Alexis Texas we recommend her shows. Take a pass on Gina Lynn.
We also found that the private dances for the local entertainers were few and far between that night so they were extra attentive to those who did get them. However, be aware that management will probably have set some sort of rules about when they can accept private dances and how long they can sit with someone during the special event.
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13 years ago
Totally disagree with bobvz. There is a lot of potential for things to go wrong if you just show up and expect it to be great. It takes a lof of communication between the two of you to make sure she feels comfortable back there. I can tell you, from a woman's perspetive, what you think you will feel and are ok with can be very different in person when it is happening. Do yourselves a favor and check out our articles on strip clubs for women. They include many pointers.
The experience greatly depends on the woman but also more on how YOU react and treat her while in the club and certainly in the private dance area. The two of you need to talk before hand about what the limits are and what is ok. If you can't talk about it you have no business doing a private dance.
Our experience has been that any extras are going to be focused on the woman - for obvious reasons.
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13 years ago
One of the clubs we went to had a sign that mandated everyone get at least two lap dances. (The Factory) They did not enforce it but we have never been back anyway.