Private Dances with Girlfriend
So my girlfriend and I have been going to sc together the past few weeks. She's ready to get a private dance with me. What can I expect? Anyone have experience with this situation?? Has anyone experienced extras in this situation??
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The experience greatly depends on the woman but also more on how YOU react and treat her while in the club and certainly in the private dance area. The two of you need to talk before hand about what the limits are and what is ok. If you can't talk about it you have no business doing a private dance.
Our experience has been that any extras are going to be focused on the woman - for obvious reasons.
Not obvious to me. Would you care to explain?
Sorry for the delay in responding.
In a couple the woman will usually see most of the action until the WOMAN tells her she wants the attention to focus on the man. The reason is simple. She gets bigger tips if the woman has a good time. Women who enjoy the dance are more likely to agree to purchase additional dances. They are more likely to buy the more private rooms (champage/VIP) because it is much easier (in my experience) to relax when you don't have to worry about the people the next booth over. A couple in which the man enjoys the dance but the woman does not are not buying more dances or going VIP to have more personal interacion, I can promise. A woman enjoying the attention plays into the very popular male lesbian fantasy which also increases tips. But the biggest reason the stripper will usually focus on the female in the couple because it is safer.
A stripper who dances for a couple opens herself up to the risk of a significantly increased risk of "drama" if the woman does not PERCEIVE the dance in a positive way. Strippers hate drama. It puts their activities front and center with the bouncers and management which has the potential to cost them customers. Who wants a private dance with a dancer that management is now watching closely to see if there is any funny stuff going on? It costs them $$ because they are off the floor explaining what happened to management at the least and at the most the cops (the club we go to any drama on the floor gets everyone thrown out or arrested depending on the level of disruption). It potentially costs them the business of any other couples in the club because every other non-dancing female in the place is now wondering "what the hell did she do to cause that?" and is not going to trust her to dance for them in most cases. Not to mention it takes a lot of energy to deal with all that drama.
It takes a VERY special and secure dancer to entertain a couple. She has to be very good at non-verbal communication and reading body language - especially of the female in the couple. Women go to strip clubs with their man for a variety of reasons. In fact, the first time we talked about going to the SC together I backed out because I realized that part of why I wanted to go was a TEST to see if he would get aroused. What a dumb ass reason to go and would have totally blown up in our face if I had kept quiet and gone! So we talked it through and then went a month or so later after I had dealt with my issues. Many women don't or won't admit that is why they want to go. That is just ONE pitfall an entertainer may run into when dancing for couples, it is not the only one.
Does that about sum it up Stiletto?
mrs m00tpoint
So, I go back to the original question: If the concern is about getting "extras" while she is present, do not take her. It will only cause issues in that relatonship. If your goal is to enrich the relationship, invest the time beforehand.
mrs m00tpoint