Opinions on taking non GF female to SC

20 comments

• harrydave

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  13 years ago

  Why do you assume she wants to do anything sexual with you?
• RickWood

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  13 years ago

  For the purpose of discussion HD, let's assume its a good possibility.
• mikeya02

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  13 years ago

  Is she really a friend or an object of your desire or both? Just play it cool and see what happens.
• bang69

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  13 years ago

  wait & see what hapens
• rickdugan

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  13 years ago

  RW, your chances of getting in this girl's pants will vastly diminish if you get too frisky with a girl at the club. I don't care what your "friend" says, she will not view you the same way if you take a BJ from a stripper. If this girl is really into you then she probably views this trip as the appetizer, not the main course.
• Cravey

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  13 years ago

  I've been down that path. An excellent female friend agreed to go to a SC with me. Quick background: this friend and I had never had sexual relations but the mutual flirting is off the scale. We arrived at a local SC, went to VIP I invited a couple of dancers to come by. I allowed my female friend to pick "the one" and we settled in on a few dances. After I received two, I gave the stripper $20 and asked that she dance for my friend. Wow, they did 5 dances and my friend's clothes were more off than on. Realizing that things were getting hot, I discreetly inquired about extras and was told that a BJ could be had for $200. When my friend went to the ladies room to clean up after her dances, I told the dancer that she'd get $300 if she could talk my friend into "helping" with the BJ. She took that has a personal challenge. After a couple dances, my zipper came down, the dancer slid between my legs and started playing. The dancer took my friend's hand and placed it on Happy Johnson. Two songs later, they were both between my legs taking turns on me, seeing who could take me the deepest. Sorry, what was the question? Absolutely go for it. Take your friend to a SC. That she wants to go at all tells me that she'd predisposed to have some fun. After a few dances and a couple of drinks, you'll find out what level of fun she's into.
• Doc_Holliday

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  13 years ago

  Tell her to put out or get out. Before you get the BJ/FS, let her know by damn sight, this is her competition and it's time to step up to bat and if she really wants to score points, she can pay for the extras. Be blunt, women appreciate a man who's assertive!
• shadowcat

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  13 years ago

  It sounds to me like she is BI curious. That she is afraid of going alone for security reasons. That she views your platonic relationship as non threatening. You are being used. Taken advantage of. If I were you, I would pass. If you in fact have a romantic interest in her, a strip club is the last place you want to take her on a first date.
• Doc_Holliday

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  13 years ago

  But ask first if she'll pay for everything, including extras, before you pass.
• georgmicrodong

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  13 years ago

  RickWood, First, you're an asshole for your demand of mutual satisfaction from somebody you only know "casually" (your word) and of whom you apparently haven't inquired as to reasons for wanting *you* as a companion on this venture. On the chance that you're *not* being an asshole, and just pondering possibilities for the purpose of preparation, why haven't you asked *her* flat out what her expectations are for this little jaunt, and go from there? You can claim, probably truthfully, that you're asking so that you can better judge what to recommend. Be honest, to a point, about why you think local clubs are lame. I would probably not mention anything blatantly illegal, but I wouldn't be shy about such things as level of mutual contact. If she's really interested in heading out of town, I would not assume she wants to spend the night there, but it might be worth asking her if, since it *is* a longer trip, if she's going to want to come back that night, or find someplace to crash, and if she's willing to pitch in for that. As a final thought, I think you ought to spend more time talking to her, and less to us.
• Doc_Holliday

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  13 years ago

  The only thing you should be talking about is how much she's willing to spend! Otherwise her mouth better be filled with pussy or cock!
• harrydave

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  13 years ago

  What GMD said.
• m00tpoint

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  13 years ago

  Agees wholeheartedly with georgemicrodong. If she felt comfortable enough to ask you if you could visit the SC together and even suggested one outside of the normal stomping gounds she is seeking something. It may or may not be with you. I suggest you ask her what she hopes to get out of the trip. You can always tell her you don't want to assume one way or another and get it wrong. Women appreciat HONESTY. Ignore Doc. He is single for reason.
• georgmicrodong

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  13 years ago

  Oh, one more thing. Don't assume she's being coy and really wants to hookup with you. She may just be looking for a wingman who can show her the ropes, steer her in the right direction, and maybe bail her out of a jam. I wouldn't be too quick to scoff at that notion either. After all, she can be *your* wingman, too, even if for different things.
• Doc_Holliday

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  13 years ago

  Good point! Get her to bring the strippers to you and have her negotiate the extras! If you can't get her to foot the bill, then let her know what your willing to spend for what and have her haggle it out! Tell her, 'It's rookie initiation. It's all very standard.' And be sure to let her know if she gets you everything you want and you still have some money left over, there may be some dick left over for her!!
• Alucard

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  13 years ago

  "If you in fact have a romantic interest in her, a strip club is the last place you want to take her on a first date" Just ask Travis Bickle about 1st Date choices! LOL
• Doc_Holliday

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  13 years ago

  Oh! also you get there and everything's negotiated, be sure to remind her about every half hour how much money she could make dancing! Bitches love to hear how much they could make dancing!
• RickWood

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  13 years ago

  I am not interested in her for a romantic relationship. I'm not trying to get her to pay for my lap dances, I'm just not paying for her lap dances and not getting a return on the investment. If that makes me an asshole, then I'm an asshole. I think SC is correct with the BiCurious observation, but it may be more than curiosity. I will probably just wait and see what happens as suggested. She and I will discuss the trip before it happens, especially her expectations. I want to know her "limits" just like taking a dancer to VIP. More input is welcome For those that wondered, she's a solid 5, maybe a 6. Could end up as FWB status, which is as far as I'm willing to go here.
• georgmicrodong

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  13 years ago

  I don't see anything in your original post about her wanting you to pay for anything. Did she say or imply anything like that, or is she the type of person that ditches and leaves the check? If so, I'll retract the "asshole" comment. Otherwise it stands. Preparing for the possibility is reasonable; assuming she's gonna try to stiff you without proof is an asshole move. Do you have any rational reason for believing that she'd be interested in being in a FEB situation?
• lopaw

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  13 years ago

  What gmd said. He is a wise man indeed. Geez. Just TALK TO HER. That way there will be no surprises,disappointments or awkward moments that could ruin the "adventure". She might be game for some sexual fun w/ you, or that may be that last thing on her mind. Like gmd noted - she may just want to explore her bi side, and is too shy to do it alone. When I first started clubbing, I would often ask a male friend to accompany me to help me get familiar with the SC environment. But my attention was strictly for the ladies - and my friends knew that and respected it.