Opinions on taking non GF female to SC
RickWood
Tennessee
She's interested in the two of us heading a couple hours out of town (overnight adventure not discussed) and watching some lovely ladies, I get the feeling she might even get a lap dance or two for herself.
We've never been out on a date, but have known each other casually for years.
Here's the question. Should we just go and I'll see what happens, but make sure I at least get a BJ from a dancer or two whether she is taken care of or not (her choice). Or should I make it clear that I expect mutual satisfaction from her after we leave the club, but before returning home (an overnight hookup)...and that I don't mind if she gets all the dancer attention she wants in the club.
Yeah, I know this may sound a little cold and calculating, but I'm going to call her bluff if it is a bluff. Second, if this is supposed to be a "sex" trip then dammit, whatever happens with the dancers she and I should be exploring a little too...right?
Before anybody gets the wrong idea, she is free to say no to us hooking up, I don't want to put her, in an awkward situation so far from home, but it means I'm not footing the fuel and motel bills either. That would also cramp my style if I picked up some OTC. Having the rules or expectations defined beforehand (like a VIP dance) just seems to be the best plan to me.
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We arrived at a local SC, went to VIP I invited a couple of dancers to come by. I allowed my female friend to pick "the one" and we settled in on a few dances. After I received two, I gave the stripper $20 and asked that she dance for my friend. Wow, they did 5 dances and my friend's clothes were more off than on.
Realizing that things were getting hot, I discreetly inquired about extras and was told that a BJ could be had for $200. When my friend went to the ladies room to clean up after her dances, I told the dancer that she'd get $300 if she could talk my friend into "helping" with the BJ. She took that has a personal challenge.
After a couple dances, my zipper came down, the dancer slid between my legs and started playing. The dancer took my friend's hand and placed it on Happy Johnson. Two songs later, they were both between my legs taking turns on me, seeing who could take me the deepest.
Sorry, what was the question?
Absolutely go for it. Take your friend to a SC. That she wants to go at all tells me that she'd predisposed to have some fun. After a few dances and a couple of drinks, you'll find out what level of fun she's into.
You are being used. Taken advantage of. If I were you, I would pass. If you in fact have a romantic interest in her, a strip club is the last place you want to take her on a first date.
First, you're an asshole for your demand of mutual satisfaction from somebody you only know "casually" (your word) and of whom you apparently haven't inquired as to reasons for wanting *you* as a companion on this venture.
On the chance that you're *not* being an asshole, and just pondering possibilities for the purpose of preparation, why haven't you asked *her* flat out what her expectations are for this little jaunt, and go from there? You can claim, probably truthfully, that you're asking so that you can better judge what to recommend. Be honest, to a point, about why you think local clubs are lame. I would probably not mention anything blatantly illegal, but I wouldn't be shy about such things as level of mutual contact.
If she's really interested in heading out of town, I would not assume she wants to spend the night there, but it might be worth asking her if, since it *is* a longer trip, if she's going to want to come back that night, or find someplace to crash, and if she's willing to pitch in for that.
As a final thought, I think you ought to spend more time talking to her, and less to us.
Just ask Travis Bickle about 1st Date choices! LOL
I think SC is correct with the BiCurious observation, but it may be more than curiosity.
I will probably just wait and see what happens as suggested. She and I will discuss the trip before it happens, especially her expectations. I want to know her "limits" just like taking a dancer to VIP.
More input is welcome
For those that wondered, she's a solid 5, maybe a 6. Could end up as FWB status, which is as far as I'm willing to go here.
Do you have any rational reason for believing that she'd be interested in being in a FEB situation?
Geez.
Just TALK TO HER.
That way there will be no surprises,disappointments or awkward moments that could ruin the "adventure".
She might be game for some sexual fun w/ you, or that may be that last thing on her mind.
Like gmd noted - she may just want to explore her bi side, and is too shy to do it alone. When I first started clubbing, I would often ask a male friend to accompany me to help me get familiar with the SC environment. But my attention was strictly for the ladies - and my friends knew that and respected it.