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17 years ago
Oh, I just remembered another time. I was sitting at a sportsbar having a beer. I saw one of my favorites suddenly walk in the door. She spotted me and came over and sat beside me and started talking for a few minutes. She said she just stopped by before going to work. Then she asked if I was going to go visit the strip club she works at and I said yeah, I'll be there. Then she left.
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17 years ago
The only accidental encounter I remember was when I was stuck in a traffic jam on the interstate. We were both going to the same place at about the same time and she was only a certain number of cars ahead of me. She spotted me walking around and struck up a conversation with me. I wasn't used to seeing helicopters flying around a wreck scene and walked down a hill a little bit to get a better view.
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17 years ago
I've had dancers ask for my help with a few different things. Early on I had a few different dancers ask for a small loan of something like 100 or so which I was very leery about. No one asked me for professional help though. I think one dancer actually gave me a good deal. In return for giving her 100 dollars, she said she would dance for me at half the normal price for as long as I came into the club. I think she still got just as much money out of me because she danced for twice the normal number of songs. It still seemed like a good deal. After 2 years she said she wanted to end that deal saying I got more than my money's worth.
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17 years ago
Actually I don't mind a little bit of biting. Not on my nipples though and nothing so hard it breaks the skin or leaves marks.
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17 years ago
I've had a few dancers ask me the question:
Do you like boobs or ass?
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17 years ago
I've told a few dancers playing with my nipples doesn't do anything for me. I don't like it. In fact I really hate it when a dancer wants to squeeze or pinch them. If a dancer wants to play or squeeze something, I do have something a bit lower down I don't mind if she plays with. I had a dancer lift up my shirt and start licking my nipples. I didn't care for that at all and decided to tell her so she would stop. I thought maybe she would stop if she noticed I wasn't smiling anymore. No luck there. I believe I'm starting to think an interview before the lap dance might be handy. questions like:
Do you like your nipples played with? For both guy and girl
Are you an ass man or tit man?
etc. etc.
However I don't usually like to ask too many questions to start with.
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17 years ago
My first ATF that I remember used to like using that word alot. She kept asking "you love me don't you?" I found it slightly annoying at times because what am I supposed to say to that? No, I hate you? I didn't think that would go over well. I did feel some kind of special connection with her for a while. At other times I wanted to avoid her but she found me anyway. I think once or twice I even visited her club when she wasn't supposed to be working. She mysteriously showed up a while after I had been there. She reminded me of a small puppy or dog very happy to see someone come home. It seemed like we had a slight age difference since I was about 9 or 10 years older than her. That seems like a lot when you're only 18 or 19.
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17 years ago
I know of a few dancers that will take off their top if I go tip them on stage. I usually don't hesitate to go tip them a dollar. I guess if the dancer looks somewhat decent from a distance in the club, I will go tip her a dollar to check her out a little bit and enjoy the close up view. Maybe a little bit of bump and grind with some dancers. I don't try to impress anyone with my tips since I usually only tip a dollar at a time. However I enjoy seeing some of the dancers up close and may tip them on more than one stage especially since not that many people are tipping the dancers anything. Change is given out in two dollar bills but I bring ones. I'm sure that impresses out of town visiting dancers. (ok sarcasm off now)
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17 years ago
I did enjoy talking to her though. Then I enjoyed a couple of other dancers saying "wow, you're sitting alone!"
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17 years ago
Did you ever feel slightly guilty that the dancer you're talking to is spending her time just sitting and talking to you but not making very much money during the 2 or 3 hours she spent talking to you? As a dancer leaves your table, I hear this comment a lot, "I need to go make some money". I don't feel guilty if the club isn't busy, however if the club is real busy and she needs the money, it seems like it is costing her money she could have been making to keep talking to me. She told me she only made $60 the previous night. I started thinking, I can see why if you talk this long to one guy.
FONDL summed it up pretty good. I guess to get there though, just be nice and she'll start getting a bit more friendly if she shares similiar ideas.
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17 years ago
I enjoy seeing more pretty girls in the strip clubs whether they are lesbian or not. The only time I may not like their presence is the rare occasion when I want to tip a dancer on stage but the dancer decides to go tip the girls who came up at the last minute and she never gets to me. That doesn't happen too often. More often than not, the dancers I see on stage will come get my tip first and ignore any girls who came up to the stage if I was there first. However if time allows before a dancer leaves the stage, I don't mind waiting a little bit longer. If a female customer wants to put her tits up against the dancers tits, that is fun to watch.
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17 years ago
I believe the girl who snuck up behind me that one time must have been drunk. She waved me over to her table and told me she thought it was funny that someone thought me and her were having sex or something like that. I had no idea what in the world she was talking about and got slightly nervous that she hinted someone else thought we were in some kind of sexual relationship. I didn't know if there was a jealous ex in the club or not. I got a dance from the dancer who was on stage but before she started, she asked "did you want to bring your girlfriend?"
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17 years ago
If I think a girl is a lesbian I just leave her alone but I have discovered that a few of the girls who look like lesbians may be bi. I have a current favorite (maybe she's working an earlier shift because all my favorites at one club disappeared on me) and she is bi. I keep getting surprised when I get dances from her and she'll make comments like before she starts dancing like, "I like watching her with the nice tits (referring to another dancer in the lap dance room)." I can talk to her like one of the guys since we have the same interest in some females and web sites online.
What occasionally surprises me is when a female customer in a strip club approaches me or seems to sit beside me. I never know what to expect. When this happens at the stage, I usually assume they are just trying to have fun like me and want the dancers attention and in that respect, they are just like one of the guys. I remember one girl snuck up behind me when I was tipping a dancer at the stage. I don't think she was lesbian. She did a good job on fooling the dancer on stage, the dancer thought she was my girlfriend but that was the first time I ever saw her.
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17 years ago
The term for this is RIL, regular in love. An easy way for a dancer to take advantage of a customer if you're not careful.
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17 years ago
I'm interested. I remember I did like my first ATF quite a bit after a while. It didn't happen overnight though. I think we would have gotten along alot better if she had stopped treating me like a customer earlier on rather then when she finally treated me like one of her friends. It was more like I liked her, she thought of me as a customer even though I was seeing her outside the club on occasion. Later after her boyfriend broke up with her, I believe I was her number one choice but I had lost interest in pursuing her by that time and after she treated me like a customer for that long. She claimed she was in love with me when I told her goodbye. I gave the odds as high as 60 percent chance that she wasn't lying. I didn't care at that point though. Yes, go ahead and tell your story.
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17 years ago
I was refering to a cage like stage in case any of you are having dirty thoughts about the comment about a dancer swinging from pole to pole.
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17 years ago
This happens to me all the time or a lot of the time. I enjoy it. Have you had a dancer put both legs around your head as well? That can be a nice position as well. If the dancers are physical alot though, you have to be on guard. Watch out for high heels accidently coming too close and watch out that a dancer sees where you are, don't move around too much on her. I got a bloody nose one time when a dancer jumped up from the bottom of the stage and accidently hit me in the face. I do try to avoid some really wild dancers that look like they are an accident waiting to happen. Well sometimes I do if I know what's coming. I prefer no acrobatics on my shoulders swinging from pole to pole.
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17 years ago
I remember I once heard someone say they were driving 5 miles under the speed limit and got pulled over. I think they had been drinking. I heard someone else say they go the normal speed of everyone else.
I remember one night in the town I live in, I had what appeared to be a swat team of police shining flashlights in my car, barking out orders like "PUT YOUR HANDS ON THE STEERING WHEEL!" Then the officer said, "I SMELL ALCOHOL!" I told him I didn't know what he was smelling because there wasn't any in my car and I hadn't had a drink in over a week. He persisted his questioning or I should say drilling. He had nothing on me and finally let me go. There reaction would have been enough to terrorize most people except I had some prior experiences with the police in another town calling up our house claiming they were going to get my brother. I was already used to it a little bit. I just imagine they are like some big macho guys pumped up on steroids with a big ego trying to show everyone who's the boss. All of them certainly aren't like that though. Some more reasonable police will act calm and explain themselves.
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17 years ago
I once thought about taking a shower with a stripper but I already had one and then she got in bed naked. Didn't think about it after that.
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17 years ago
I live in the middle of a big drought area but we have plenty of water here for our population and business needs as well. No water restrictions at all. Our lake is only 1 foot below normal. Sometimes I wonder where all the water is coming from for it to stay full in the middle of a long drought.
I think Atlanta and parts of the southeast will be getting some good rain in another month or two when it finally cools down. Just a hunch I have.
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17 years ago
You can be there when the breakup happens but the real question is, do you really want to be? I'm not trying nor do I ever remember trying to make a dancer be my girlfriend. I unfortunately have enough experience to know many dancers do have many social problems or have family and friends with social problems that they sometimes seem to have to deal with. I mean by social problems things such as drugs or lazy ass friends. The other thing is some young strippers may not know what real work is and actually believe dancing is hard work. I call hard work working in the heat on a 7 day swing shift on a very busy manufacturing line or doing farm work on a hot summer day.
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17 years ago
Where I used to work, the boss of my boss actually took me to my first strip club. I think he wanted someone to go with. Then on another occasion, we returned and a vendor ordered and paid for some pizza from Domino's. I never saw anyone order out pizza in a strip club before or after. I believe he had connections with the manager of the strip club. Where I work at now, I have never mentioned anything to my boss or immediate coworkers.
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17 years ago
I try not to talk about visiting strip clubs while at work but a few guys have spotted me. They were there too so it's no big deal. I sometimes will hear, hey we spotted you at the club. I remember when I was in my 20's I temporarily moved back to a room in my parents house to save some money. I had a dancer occasionally calling me and asking to speak to me. I never told my parents she was a hot young strip club dancer. The dancer once threatened to tell. At work the secret that I visited strip clubs was out. One guy who seemed to think of nothing but sex seemed to be spreading rumors. I remember one girl at work asked me if I thought she would make a good stripper. At a different time another girl propositioned me and said she wanted to have a one night stand with me. I don't know what led up to all that but I believe people talk a lot. I prefer to keep things quiet.
I guess none of that was as big a surprise as when I had an unknown girl call me up while I was in High School, tell me she was a lesbian, but then say she wanted to try me out and go out with me. I didn't go out with her because she got upset by some little misunderstanding. Then the nightmares started. I was thinking what would I do if I was surrounded by a bunch of lesbian girls and they wanted to try being bi for a change.
I didn't think about that for too long.
I did keep quiet about going to the beach with another dancer and her female friend. Well I thought no one at work would believe me so when someone asked what did you do for the weekend, I told him I took a couple of strippers to the beach. Just as I expected, he didn't believe me. He just said yeah right.
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17 years ago
I keep hearing from a number of dancers, maybe it's just one or two that many guys will either talk down to a dancer or make it seem like she's somehow inferior is the message I keep hearing. I keep hearing that really irritates the dancers. I believe it. I've met some guys who think they are mister big shot and seem to look down on everyone who doesn't have a higher position then they have. I usually have my own name for that type of person.
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17 years ago
I guess he had the hunter mentality. Sit by the road watching and waiting for a decent target to come by. That must be boring if you aren't sleeping.