Ever wonder sometimes, how you became a friend of a dancer instead of a customer
I guess maybe things just add up. I was sitting and talking to a dancer. She flat out told me she didn't think of me as a customer. She was talking about her personal life a bit. I didn't mind. In fact she was fun to be around. I found out she had a 4.0 GPA and is not that far away from graduating with 2 degrees. She's also has had a number of life troubling events she's had to go through with other family members or due to relatives in some cases. Here I thought, oh darn, I'm at the club too early. Stage dancing isn't even going to start for another 30 to 60 minutes.
One thing I remember from either talking to her or someone else, dancers really do not like it when people look down on them just because they dance.
One thing I remember from either talking to her or someone else, dancers really do not like it when people look down on them just because they dance.
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COMMUNICATION is the key. I think even total jerks at talking have a better chance (assuming your looking for that) than the guy who thinks that the dancers primary need is being felt up or receiving cash. And, yes there are exceptions . . .
That's the route to becoming someone I WANT to interact with, rather than someone I DON'T want to interact with.
But that skirts the question of this thread. In fact, it ignores it all together. Because whether or not I WANT to interact with her, has very little to do with HOW I want to interact with her -- as a sexy playmate who giggles and coos in my ear and strokes my willie and I spend a lot of time and money on her in the private lapper room; or as a genuine friend who knows my real concerns, shares hers with me, and THEN I hope she giggles and coos in my ear and strokes my willie whether or not I spend a lot of time and money on her in the private lapper room. Of course, with the latter category, I haven't ever gotten a girl to get involved with me outside the lapper room except in so far as there's cash involved on a strict pay-for-play basis, so it's all just theoretical.
FONDL summed it up pretty good. I guess to get there though, just be nice and she'll start getting a bit more friendly if she shares similiar ideas.
I always sit and talk to a girl for a long time if I like her and she's willing. That's my favorite part of clubbing, sitting and talking with a scantily-clad attractive girl. But I usually buy enough dances and/or tip her well enough that she doesn't lose money by spending time with me. And I usually go to clubs when they're the least busy, which is when girls are most willing to sit and talk.
I believe the majority of us civil guys and gals enjoy talking with a girl (dancer) in a club, whether we end up getting dances from her or not. And, like FONDL, I know she's there for the money, so I will not STIFF her for the conversation. (that didn't come out just right, but I think ya'll know what I mean)
And Chandler I'm not sure that the sexual energy ever runs out of steam for me but it does change significantly once you begin to get to know each other well. And I love it when that happens because for me a fake feeling is being replaced by a real one.