There’s a tip-parade and then there is a TIP PARADE.
There are clubs w/ a modest tip-parade; and then there are clubs where the dancers def take advantage.
NJ clubs seem to have a rep for too-much of a tip-parade. I live in Miami where some of “the extra-Cuban-heavy” clubs have gangsta-style tip-parades.
I don’t like a tip-parade but I will “usually” try to adjust to the culture of the club – what I don’t let happen is to be taken advantage of and be taken for a $ucker.
If the dancer comes around after her set I don’t mind giving a small-tip – what happens in Miami, and perhaps other tip-parade-areas; is that you have dancers circling the club continuously asking for tips and you can be hit by the same dancers ever 15 or 20 minutes all night long – if I get approached for a tip by one or two girls every-song (meaning the girl that just got off-stage and perhaps the one b/f her); then I’ll likely acquiesce – what I won’t do is be tipping 4,5,6,etc girls every damn song – in some of the Miami tip-parade-hustle clubs you can be tipping every 15 damn-seconds to where one can’t even sit back and relax w/o having to reach into your pocket every 15 seconds – fuck that shit – that is taking advantage and the dancers KNOW IT and do it b/c they know most custies are easy to manipulate.
I stopped being a tip-parade-trained-monkey long ago – my M.O.:
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depending on my mood – I may tip most girls when I first get there – but by the time they come around a 2nd-time I just say “no thanks I’m good”
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or; depending on my mood: I won’t do the above and just say no-thanks right off the bat and only tip the girls I’m interested in
The obvious reality is that the more PLs give-in; the worst it only gets and the more of an expectation that is built in – again this applies to clubs that take-advantage of the tip-parade where one is having to tip multiple (3 or more) girls ever single song even if they haven’ been on stage right b/f their tip-parade – and of course if one is sitting at-the-stage then one should be tipping the dancer(s) performing on-stage (which makes it tricky for NJ clubs since the stage is inside the bar and seems most NJ clubs are small w/ mostly bar-side sitting basically meaning one is sitting stage-side).
In summary:
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I tip every -dancer if I’m sitting stage-side (but I mostly care about dances and will rarely sit stage-side)
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if a club has a tip-parade, I will try to blend-in if the dancers are not taking advantage, meaning only the dancer that got off stage is doing the tip-parade – if I’m getting hit by half-a-dozen dancers per song; forget-that; I stop tipping and only tip the dancers I’m interested in
Clubs w/ abusive tip-parades are IMO counter-productive for custies – i.e. the more girls make on stage or w/ tip-parades, the less they may be apt to wanna give dances or even-good-dances if they can make a decent-amount tip-parading all-night-long and thus can avoid having to grind and be groped.
w.r.t. being seen as “cheap” – for one; girls know they are taking advantage (in clubs w/ excessive tip-parades) – most know if a custy puts his foot down that he is not necessarily being cheap but just not being a sucker – I’ve been in excessive-tip-parade clubs a good # of times and rarely have I not been able to get dances when I want from who I want even if I haven’t been tipping – it may take being a bit pro-active in approaching the dancer and/or someway letting her know you’re interested in dances – IME rarely will a dancer say no to dance-$$$ b/c you didn’t tip the tip-parade (again b/c they know it’s a hustle) – and if she’s not willing to take my dance-$$$ ($25/dance) b/c I didn’t tip a buck or two during the tip-parade then I rather not deal w/ such a dumb-dancer.