Not been approached by dancers while inside the club: How common is it?
Evasparkling
Atlanta
Have you ever visited a club, stayed for maybe one or two hours & not a single dancer approached you?
I’ve seen some members write a review saying they visited a particular club, spent some time but no dancer approached them during the course of their visit.
Usually for me I’m being swooped up by the dancers no more than 15 minutes after arriving the club.
Most times I’ve to let them know I just got here & need to settle in, however they’re welcome to cycle back later.
If no dancer approaches me within the first 15 minutes, then a simple eye contact & a smile towards any one of the dancers usually sends them my way if they’re not with any customer.
If that doesn’t work, then I wait until a dancer I want gets on stage go up & tip maybe $10 or $20 and ask her to join me afterwards, most times they usually find me once their stage set is over.
So I kinda find it odd that no dancer inside the club not even one would approach a particular customer during the course of their visit for maybe one or two hours.
I’ve seen some members write a review saying they visited a particular club, spent some time but no dancer approached them during the course of their visit.
Usually for me I’m being swooped up by the dancers no more than 15 minutes after arriving the club.
Most times I’ve to let them know I just got here & need to settle in, however they’re welcome to cycle back later.
If no dancer approaches me within the first 15 minutes, then a simple eye contact & a smile towards any one of the dancers usually sends them my way if they’re not with any customer.
If that doesn’t work, then I wait until a dancer I want gets on stage go up & tip maybe $10 or $20 and ask her to join me afterwards, most times they usually find me once their stage set is over.
So I kinda find it odd that no dancer inside the club not even one would approach a particular customer during the course of their visit for maybe one or two hours.
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I've even been to clubs where dancers are not allowed to approach.
I consider myself an OG dancer. I want the customer to get settled before I make my approach. I want you to have your first drink at your table before I come to you. That will give you time to acclimate yourself.
Personally, I find it annoying and I feel it's a sign of desperation when a girl approaches a customer as soon as he sits down and before the waitress can even go to his table.
Now, I have mentioned previously on here I'm in several online (private) dancer groups. I am not allowed to share screenshots and I'm not sure if I'm exactly allowed to even talk about them in complete detail. However, I will say that there are quite a number of posts about girls who have social anxiety and do get nervous about talking to customers or what to say to them. So, there is that. 🤷♀️
I would notice during visits that alot men sat lonesome, however who knows why, maybe they didnt like what they saw or just looked....
Does that happen.... men go to just look? Lol but seriously.... does it?
I believe some customer go and their plan is to see as much as they can, at minimal outlay!
Most of us experienced SCers likely avoid clubs w/ poor-ROI including aloof/disinterested dancers and we know which clubs to hit.
But body-language likely plays a part - if there's something to be said w.r.t. dancers looking/acting interested, then perhaps something similar can be said for custies - I tend to be a bit of a worry-wart and that sometimes shows in my body-language or face when I have stuff on my mind and I sometimes may give off a "leave me the fuck-alone" vibe.
A few times when tipping dozens of dancers and asking all the ones who I like to stop by, none will have come over after an hour and I'll leave to another club. The last place this happened was Criket's in Dearborn, on two different visits.
I think it all depends on the crowd. How many regulars have the good dancers sitting with them, and then how many lazy dancers are content just texting on their phones.
The other thing to remember is that these girls talk to each other. If you shrug off each girl that approaches you, they will spread the word in the dressing room that you are a deadbeat. Unless the girls are just hideous, I tend to agree to a dance or two with the third girl to approach me. You have to show that you have money and you want to spend it. This is why pulling a fat roll of single to peel off the stage tips helps, too.
Eye contact and smiling when a dancer you want is nearby is the final suggestion I can think of. Like an earlier comment noted, these girls are human and may be socially anxious or generally intimidated by you. Maybe they are misreading your body language. Be open about your interest.
If you enter a club - and you aren’t immediately approached to buy a dance - that’s a good thing. That immediate type of approach is usually like pouncing - and it’s not often a worthwhile offer.
The clubs where you don’t get approached - even after getting your drink - can be regulars clubs. It’s generally easy to spot those clubs after a few minutes. The dancers usually park themselves next to their regular customer and they don’t appear to be scoping out the room.
If you get your drink and you seem settled - and it’s not a regulars club - and you don’t get approached - that would seem odd. A normal dude - who is showing interest - and who is spending - would seem to be a good person to ask about buying dances.
Hell, I've had dancers walk up and ask me why I haven't left yet. Some clubs don't put dancers on stage when it's slow, so customers are sitting there bored and dancers are wondering if they should bother saying hello. Usually my answer is because I'm from out of town, it's late and there's shit else to do around here. If the dancer is the best prospect on shift I'll use the "waiting for you" line, which has been in so-bad-it's-good territory a long time now. I've had some pretty good visits kick off from there.
Since I usually give off a relaxed vibe in the club, I assume if I'm not approached that the dancers are either busy or disinterested for a potential infinite number of reasons. We can only control our own behavior and body language and I assume that others here, like me, are experienced enough to remain approachable. So then that only leaves whatever issues the dancers are considering, which I don't really waste much thought on because they are outside of my control anyway.
One thing I've learned not to do over the years is chase a particular dancer or try to push the interaction into being. Rarely has doing either ever resulted in a great experience. If she was not motivated enough to come try to take my money even after I made eye contact and, if she did a set, tipped her on stage (for example), then the odds are good that my money will get more productive use is I burned it to light my cigar. Whether her issue is social anxiety, simple laziness, waiting for someone (a regular, food delivery, drug dealer, etc.) or whatever, something is more important to her than your wallet, which does not bode well for the overall experience. There are other girls, other clubs and even other nights.
That said, if at a club where there are more guys than girls in a ration of 5:1 or greater, you’re likely not going to get approached even if you do all that as there are too many dudes to manage.
It could also be you. Nothing personal against you, but there might be something about you that makes you appear intimidating or unapproachable. But if you are tipping and no one bites, I attribute it to laziness on the part of the dancers.
I myself approach customers quite often and as much as I can. I have anxiety so this was actually the toughest thing for me to learn to do when I first began dancing. I knew how to dance and was not nervous about stage or lap dancing. It was the going up to complete strangers and holding a conversation that was tough for me. So I think intimidation from that along with laziness is what you might be experiencing, although it's hard to imagine an entire club full of girls will neglect a customer who is tipping. That is called being lazy. And stupid.
This happens to unknowns, but I don't think it's as big a factor as I used to. Girls will try to get you to spend on their friends if you're interested, but especially now with money getting tight a dancer is going to get what she needs from you. Unless you're a total dirtbag to her friend as a new face they'll work it out. These days I'm getting more random referrals (if you don't like me how about my friend, etc) because even if I'm saying no I'm looking around for talent. Used to be mostly the I don't do that but she does, want to meet her?
"Or if you dance with one and a group of girls don’t care for who you selected."
This is a thing, but dancers will keep that to themselves unless they're comfortable sharing dirty laundry. If you're an unknown they'll probably give you a pass on that unless it's a dancer they won't go behind. And if that's the case most TUSCLers would be good by then anyway.
I've approached dancers when they were with other customers before and they always come over pretty quickly