What makes a stripper decide to come sit by you?
Nidan111
Somewhere in MO.
After a VIP session this week, I told the gal that she can go make money with others now. She told me that she doesn’t want to leave my table because she enjoys our conversation. I then asked her “What makes you initially want to come sit with a PL? “. I had to explain to her what a PL was, but she laughed and told me the following traits are what she uses to decide who to approach:
1. Nicely dressed
2. Smiles
3. Nice shoes
4. Watches
5. Does not smell bad
If the PL passes that initial screen, then she feels confident that she will make money. She then went on to characterize every customer in the house as to who would spend money at the rail, who would get a private dance with a dancer at some time, who would at least by a drink for a dancer, and who would never even look at a dancer. As we continue to sit, I observed those customers. She was spot on! Interesting.
1. Nicely dressed
2. Smiles
3. Nice shoes
4. Watches
5. Does not smell bad
If the PL passes that initial screen, then she feels confident that she will make money. She then went on to characterize every customer in the house as to who would spend money at the rail, who would get a private dance with a dancer at some time, who would at least by a drink for a dancer, and who would never even look at a dancer. As we continue to sit, I observed those customers. She was spot on! Interesting.
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There is a decent % of customers who say this exact line, at any time after some dances, but if you continue to sit with them, it’s likely another benji or more might manifest anyways. I take it that they just don’t want to blow through their budget too quick.
If a customer uses that line and hasn’t spent anything (even if minuscule) then yeah, probably a good time to bail.
I’m less picky in who I approach and prefer to just go for nearly everyone. And I prioritize my approach by their facial expressions/body language. Unless I’m tired or something then I may get lazy and just expect a customer to walk up to me. Which yes does happen, but obviously affects my money more than it would otherwise.
One reason I don’t like to judge based on dress alone is because while there are general things that hold, there’s too many exceptions. Just last week, a late 20s, tall, and physically attractive guy who was very casually dressed bought a string of ten dances in a row. 😁
There seems to be certain dancers that are not good at, or very comfortable with, approaching (a lot of) custies and may prefer locking-in on certain PLs whether it'd be bc they look like an easier mark, or perhaps more well-mannered, etc.
I assume it's because, to an observant salesperson (dancer), I'm spending money. Not lots, not fast, but I'm tipping the stage, getting dollar dances from many/most, and getting a dance or two from those that appeal to me.
I don't look rich, so they better come by before I run out of $20s.
I think also it is just how you are treating her, and if it seems like you might want to see her outside, and like maybe immediately.
SJG
SJG
That is all.
In most countries other than the US, smart guys keep mistresses.
In the US now some are starting to call such Side Chicks.
SJG
Money is often little more than a social token.
SJG
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SJG
In other news I do not give a shit what you are wearing or what watch you have on UNLESS you are dirty, stinky, or wearing pajama pants or other super thin pants. Can’t judge a book by its cover. I will talk to almost anyone.
older - check
white - check
dressed well - check, I think
Guess I must look like a creep then, dang
If it was somebody I knew and had spent money on, that was pretty much the reason. I was a known quantity and they knew they probably weren't going to be wasting their time.
If it was someone I hadn't spent on before, it was either someone else suggested they do so, or a case of "taking a shot".
If it was a new girl, it was usually "her job" sometimes in combination with "you don't look like a creep." (Little do they know.)
But they pretty much all boil down to "they want me to spend money", which most of the time I'm not reluctant to do, at least once or twice.
@PinkSugarDoll: "If you call someone over to you, it should be for dances and not because you’re unsure and need to be *impressed* or something. If you call me over and after we chat you decline a dance, I will not be happy..."
But PSD, how am I to know if I want dances from you if I don't talk to you for at least a couple of minutes? Are most customers buying dances from you based on looks, or maybe stage show, alone? I confess that I've seen that sort of thing happen in local clubs, but I don't understand it. At the very least, I'm going to want to attempt to verify that you'll let me grope the way I want to.
I'll concede that a more "put together" look may make a difference for some dancers. But, I think that if you go to a club (or any social setting) in what might amount to a 'costume' just for that setting, then your attitude and body language will be adversely affected (along with any advantage).
Purely from the perspective of aesthetics, if you shower, brush your teeth, and don't look like you live in a refrigerator box, you're probably ahead of over half the guys in the club (depending on the club...).
After that, be friendly and funny. Don't be creepy.
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I'll agree with @subraman that many times after your CF/ATF leaves for any reason a lot of the other dancers will all come by. I certainly do not mind since it helps me see who else is in the club & get an idea of how they work.
I also find that yeah, if you're looking down or at your smartphone you'll get less approaches than if you're gazing around / paying attention to the stage. An experienced dancer should be able to read body language and guess when a client wants to be approached - then it is up to them to decide if it is worth their while.
I'm often in strip clubs well groomed, dressed well with higher end accessories, etc. I'm also in clubs with a three day beard and t-shirt & flip flops. My mood/attitude also varies quite a bit, I'll hit the clubs when I'm aggravated and need a break or happy and celebrating. I never stink, I mean sometimes I smell like whiskey, cigarettes, and cheap perfume (aka eau de stripper,) but otherwise I'm all over the map. I haven't seen any strong correlation to my appearance or demeanor and me being approached. It doesn't seem to matter the type of club either, looking like a bum in a high end joint doesn't scare the girls off. Looking professional in a dive doesn't attract them either.
Sure, there's some difference, but it's hardly significant. Certainly not enough to make me dress a certain way to "attract" a stripper.
I have always drawn attention from some strippers.
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Now I would always go at the slow hours of the day.
Some really seemed to want to know me. Others seemed to want what is called and SB arrangement.
In the faster moving clubs, like San Francisco, they sit with me, but they are getting money.
Grown men should not be fretting over these issues.
SJG
A girl is going to approach a known Whale in a blue collar outfit, before they approach a stranger wearing a Rolex and a collared shirt.
In clubs where there is a $$$ throwing culture, girls can kind of figure out who those guys are before the first dollar is thrown. They'll gravitate to that because it's easy money.
Estaf... No, no explanation. But to put it in a bit more context, you're a stripper in a high end Vegas club, tons of girls, night is just heating up but it's still two hours until it gets packed, I imagine huge percentage of transients-to-regulars since it's all Vegas visitors (that is, no known customers). My assumption is, the girls are walking in with very little knowledge of customers. I imagine spending a lot would catch the girls' attention faster than anyone else, but I'm not sure anyone was spending a lot yet.
Some are all about the money. Others also want to work at a more relaxed pace.
Some are short term oriented. Others want to build a repeat group of customers.
Some get their party on. Others avoid drinking at work.
Different dancers will sit with different types of customers for different reasons.
A dancer may have already rolled up on all those other custies on that or previous nights. She may already know they have no money, or are two much aggravation to be worth it. A smart dancer is not going to waste time just sitting and being bored. She's going to build up some good will that may help get her future dances.
It's considered very bad form among dancers to roll up on a custy whose sitting with another dancer. Some dancers take advantage of this to lessen the chance you'll see that the grass is greener elsewhere.
Know rules 2 and 3.
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Dressing too fancy just makes you look like a mark.