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Loosing Erection while having sex

Tuesday, January 21, 2020 10:03 PM
So guys I recently met another lady after breaking up with Ex. During the period of our Breakup I stayed out of stripclubs while I pursued Vanilla Dating. I was also Masturbating during these period since I was very horny & was able to release sperms without any issues. After some cuddling and kissing, we decided it was time to become intimate. I'm usually very excited around her, get hard even when we are kissing and I really want to have sex with her. But something happened. We had sex for like 15 minutes in the Missionary Position & when we tried to switch to doggy my dick fall flat, went soft and simply stopped working. She tried everything possible but my dick wouldn't respond and as a result I'm unable to cum. This's almost Day 3 of us attempting to have sex & same thing happens everytime. I mean I get hard everytime but after maybe 15 Minutes of sex my dick goes flat. I want to have sex but the freaking think just doesn't work properly!! Even now when I am writing this I feel like I want to have sex but the thing just doesn't get hard. I feel tickling in my penis, butterflies in my stomach, I feel the need but my penis is not responding UNTIL I open my porn site then I get hard like a rock. WTF?! What would your recommendations be? (A) Try having sex with another Girl (B) Keep trying with that Girl (C) Start using pills like Viagra but will Viagra make me cum from just Vaginal Penetration? I feel like I'm too young to start using Sex Performance Enhancing Drugs. I really want to have a healthy sex life.

50 comments

  • Michigan
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    4 years ago
    Talk to your doctor.
  • loper
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    4 years ago
    Reminds me of the old joke, "Doctor, it hurts when I do that!", "Then don't do that." In other words, stop switching to doggie. Alternatively, get her off and then finish yourself by masturbating.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Loper Doggie is her favorite position & my dick usually goes soft whenever we try Doggie At least during Missionary Position my dick stays somewhat strong. She gets off whenever she’s on top but most times she gets tired easily being on top. So I end up eating her pussy to make her cum.
  • PaulDrake
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    4 years ago
    It's probably something emotional. Take a break from sex/masturbation for a bit.
  • Electronman
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    4 years ago
    The irony is that the more you worry about it, the more likely it is to go soft on you (and her).
  • Tiburon
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    4 years ago
    Stop masturbating. I'm serious when I say that. Masturbation causes you your brain to get used to your alternative forms of sexual stimulation. You may he used to your pressure of hand stroke. You also may be more excited by porn or whatever your jerking bnb off to and not your girlfriend. The less you masturbate the better your sex life will become. Its be better if you ldk vs masturbate.
  • Warrior15
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    4 years ago
    No Fap.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Tiburon I've stop masturbating for now. It's difficult but I'm trying. I've gone 3 days now without masturbating.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Warrior15 I've embarked on the No Fap Challenge. This's only my 3rd Day. I heard it takes about 90 days of No Fap for the body to reboot. Is that correct?
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    Another thing is when I've sex I'm unable to release sperm through Vaginal Sex only. I've to release by stimulating my dick using my hands. I've stop using my hands for now.
  • Tetradon
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    4 years ago
    See a doctor. Boner problems can be an indicator of a cardiovascular issue.
  • Warrior15
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    4 years ago
    I haven't ever gone 90 days. But I have found that if I go without for 3-4 days, then I'm like a high school kid again.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Tetradon What do you mean by a Cardiovascular issue.
  • jackslash
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    4 years ago
    I can't give you any advice. It's never happened to me.
  • skibum609
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    4 years ago
    The more you masturbate the more you train your dick to a hand and prychologically you make it tough to do intercourse. Stop jacking it for two weeks and enjoy.
  • wallanon
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    4 years ago
    Also think about backing off the porn a little.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Skibum609 That's what I'm currently doing. I've embarked on a 90 days no Fap Challenge. I'm on day three.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Wallanon I've stopped going to porn sites like pornhub & xnxx But since I follow a lot of strippers, Escorts & Sugar Babies on Instagram and Twitter I still come across soft porn on my timelines I might need to quit Instagram and Twitter.
  • Tetradon
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    4 years ago
    Like this. [view link]
  • Tiburon
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    4 years ago
    @Tetradon. Have you actually tried smashing said nasty hoes? And can I see what your working with. I have had terrible luck finding find thoterinas under $800
  • Jascoi
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    4 years ago
    less booze and more watermelon seems to help.
  • azdd
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    4 years ago
    Sometimes ED is like quicksand. Everything is going great, but you start to get the slightest doubt or distraction about your ability to maintain, and then your stress level takes over and replaces the sexual stimulation that should be dominating your thoughts, and by extension, your dick. I’ve started playing around with ED drugs, and find that they really enhance the LD experience, and help to eliminate stress about maintaining your erection. They also can make it more difficult to orgasm, which is not a bad thing if you’re subject to quick release. I agree with others - see your doctor.
  • RandomMember
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    4 years ago
    I never masturbate like the rest of you, so that's not an issue. \sarcasm Adding to the above, getting a good nights sleep (no coffee or caffeine day before) might help. It's been proven that testosterone is released during deep sleep. I also prefer eating light -- nearly fasting -- the day of the date. My reasoning is that it lets blood flow where it's supposed to instead of your digestive tract. Big high-fat meal an hour before sex is probably the worst thing you can do. Stress is an obvious factor.
  • sinclair
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    4 years ago
    Try to eat healthier, especially heart healthy foods. Get more sleep. Get rid of the stress in your life. Exercise, even if it is just walking or running a couple miles. Try Blue Chew...it is easy to get a prescription and will open things up so you get better blood flow in your dick. Lay off the porn. It sounds like you have a condition called porno creep: someone who is addicted to porn, or watches so much porn that they get to the point where normal sexual acts and/or average people don't satisfy them so they have to go to extremes to get off.
  • JohnSmith69
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    4 years ago
    Get some weed. The issue will go away if you’re high. Alternatively just cum in the first 15 minutes and stop switching positions.
  • san_jose_guy
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    4 years ago
    As I know, most ED stuff is Psychological in nature, on going stresses. Otherwise perhaps diabetes related, and this is serious. SJG
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Sinclair Where do I obtain Blue Chew from? Is it sold on the black market?
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Random Member I’ve been stressed out lately. So I definitely agree that stress is an obvious factor but I don’t know how to deal.
  • sinclair
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    4 years ago
    [view link] You just have to answer some questions about your health and then take a brief 30 second video interview with a nurse on your phone, tablet, or laptop. The pills are mailed in a plain brown envelope. They actually taste good, kind of like Smarties.
  • Papi_Chulo
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    4 years ago
    "... I can't give you any advice. It's never happened to me ..." LOL - Jack the stallion 😄
  • san_jose_guy
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    4 years ago
    Blew Chew? Like Vitamin V, but just ingest as much as you need, little by little? [view link] [view link] [view link] SJG
  • Nidan111
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    4 years ago
    If you are able to get it up to start and you are able to get it up with porn, but it just Peters out when you do the switch from missionary to doggy, then it is most likely psychological. If you can’t figure the psychology, then try a cock ring before taking meds. It might help and she might like the expansion of girth it can bring.
  • prevert
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    4 years ago
    “Release sperms”? Who talks like that? Can you still jerk off? Does a blow job work?
  • rickdugan
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    4 years ago
    Sounds to me like maybe you're not that excited by the girl in question. Or maybe she's doing something that is turning you off, like acting like a dead fish. Normally in these situations I'd suggest that the two of you get drunk in order to relax and then treat her like the farm animal that she is. 😉 If that doesn't work, then maybe it's time for the little blue pill.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Nidan111 I’m able to get it up to start and I’m also able to get it up with porn But most times if she’s on top & we decide to switch to either Missionary or Doggie my Dick goes soft. If we maintain a single position then my dick remains hard, i.e. Start with cowgirl & finish with cowgirl Dick remains hard i.e. Start with Missionary & finish with Missionary Dick remains hard i.e. Start with cowgirl & switch to Missionary Dick becomes soft i.e. Start with Missionary & switch to Doggie Dick becomes soft, Another important case is I’m unable to ejaculate through Vaginal Sex, Even when she uses Both her Hands as well as Mouth I’m still unable to ejaculate. The only way I’m able to ejaculate is by watching porn while playing with my dick that way I’m able to bust a nut.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Pervert I’m unable to ejaculate through Vaginal Sex, Even when she uses Both her Hands as well as Mouth I’m still unable to ejaculate. The only way I’m able to ejaculate is by watching porn while playing with my dick that way I’m able to bust a nut. Could I possibly be suffering from delayed ejaculation?
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @rickdugan The girl in question is my girlfriend, She’s definitely not a 10 Probably a 6 But the good thing is I get to fuck for free. Got tired of spending so much money on premium pussy majorly 9’s & 10’s At least with her there’s a connection.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @rickdugan She doesn’t act like a dead fish. Although most times when she’s on top she gets tired easily. Usually when she gives me a blow job she usually works on my Balls as well. Whenever she starts working on my Balls I get a sensation that I’m about to cum & I ask her to slow down that way she can swallow my cum that’s when I kinda loose my sensation & the building cum that’s about to come out goes back in. Hope it makes sense to you.
  • Tetradon
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    4 years ago
    The only thing that gets you off is jerking off to porn, nothing with any woman or just nothing with her? Sounds like you need an extended fast from masturbation.
  • Fun_Loving_Fella
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    4 years ago
    Does she look good naked? For someone who watches a lot of porn the visuals of a civvie could be a boner killer. To me it sounds like the porn is more of an issue than the masturbation. I hope the no fap thing is going well. A lot of people wouldn’t even make it past day 1
  • Papi_Chulo
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    4 years ago
    So you lost your erection? Have you tried looking under the bed - a lot of stuff rolls away under the bed and hard to know it's there it being dark under there - take a looksie
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Papi_Chulo Sorry but I’m confused by your statement.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Fun_Loving_Fella Yes, she looks good naked. She definitely doesn’t look like a hot stripper neither does she look like a hot pornstar, She’s maybe a 6 on a scale of 1 -10 That’s someone I can be able to date right now without any heavy spending involved. The 9’s & 10’s are quite difficult to keep especially if you’re not willing to spoil them.
  • Evasparkling
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    4 years ago
    @Tetradon I haven’t fucked any other women this past few months since we started dating, But about the 8 times or so, that we’ve been intimate so far, I haven’t been able to release through Vaginal Penetration. Even when she adds a Blow job & Hand job to the mix I’m still unable to release. The only way I release is by using my own hands to jerk myself.
  • Call.Me.Ishmael
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    4 years ago
    D. Go see a doctor instead of seeking advice from a collection of anonymous perverts on a titty bar website.
  • gSteph
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    4 years ago
    ^^^ What he said
  • rickdugan
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    4 years ago
    Eva, based upon your follow-up response to my comments, I agree with what others are saying about seeing a doctor. It sounds like your plumbing is not working properly. There are a lot of medical reasons why that could be happening.
  • rickthelion
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    4 years ago
    As usual, my brother from a hairless ape mother is correct. Get yourself to the vet!
  • rogertex
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    4 years ago
    @Michigan: "Talk to your doctor." OP, Go to a doctor. But doctors know shit! I bet you will make 3 visits and try 3 things. And doc will go "Hmm" If the wise sages on TUSCL could not figure this out - it's certainly an interesting problem. Last question: Does your partner have a tattoo on her ass that reads something like "Rosie Loves Bubba" ? (assuming Bubba is not your name) If yes - there you go. If not - last suggestion. You said partner is already doing Cow Girl. Switch to RCG. Then slowly get up. It will still be RCG but your partner will bend down. Better if near edge of bed. Partner will bend as necessary to resume doggie now. Pound away until she moans "Don't stop" !
  • WinningdaChumpsGame
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    4 years ago
    See if juice will share his girl with you Then you'll have a spare erection when you lose yours WCG
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