Naming Names

doctorevil
Evil Lair
So a member sent me a PM asking for the names of some dancers I mentioned in recent review. I replied with "Sorry I don't do names." I got a couple of follow up PMs kind of calling me out of not giving up names in response to a PM, then this was posted to the review comments this morning:

"techi1
32217
28 Minutes Ago
So I asked the reviewer for the stage name of the girls he reviewed, and he tells me sorry, it's private? What the hell, I'm asking him in private! What's this site for again if you can't identify a stripper stage name in private???" https://www.tuscl.net/review.php?id=3599…

Early on I occasionally asked for names or gave names in response to PMs from members that seem to have established track records, but my policy now is pretty much this: If I haven't met you in person, I'm not giving you any names. I may make exceptions on a case by case basis.

These girls are providing a very personal service. I think it's an invasion their privacy to provide their names to someone else, whether in the open forum or in a PM. If they are open to providing the same service to you that they provided to me, they'll let you know when they see you.

I know the subject of not naming names in reviews has come up often, but I don't think I have seen any discussions about naming names in PMs. I know at least one person disagrees with me. Anyone on my side?

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ATACdawg
5 years ago
Absolutely, doc. Occasionally I will give a shout out to a girl who has given me a great experience, but I will absolutely not name names where that could land her in trouble with her club or with LEO, and most definitely not with a poster that I don't know and trust.
Call.Me.Ishmael
5 years ago
TL;DR... A reviewers information sharing policy is none of my business.

I have occasionally provided and received names of strippers who featured prominently in a review.

My policy about asking is... I just ask. Sometimes I get a name. Sometimes I don't. I don't pitch a fit if I don't get a name.

Two important points: (1) I understand that a dancer may not do for me what she did for another guy; (2) if she chooses to not give me the same level of service, I don't call her out by saying "a guy online told me you do X, Y, and Z."

Which leads to my policy about handing out names or talking about specifics... I do it rarely and selectively. That's because there are a lot of guys out there who are utterly clueless with regard to both points in the previous paragraph.

I don't want to put the dancer in an awkward spot with a customer. And I certainly don't want to be in an awkward spot with a CF. It's a choice I make.

So, as far as I'm concerned we're barely obligated to post reviews, and we're not obligated to provide any information outside of the reviews at all.

Folks who feel differently can go pound sand.
Subraman
5 years ago
I think it's fine to ask a reviewer for names, in private. I think it's fine for a reviewer to decline to give names, even in private -- no way I'd ever share names with anyone I don't know well through the forum, at minimum. Don't be a little bitch if the reviewer declines to give names, even in private.
twentyfive
5 years ago
That’s a call to be made on a case by case basis I lean towards not giving up names especially if I don’t know the inquirer personally, and it’s really not fair to give out the name of a dancer without her consent or knowledge.
Mate27
5 years ago
Tough guy laying down the law. I just don’t engage if I don’t want to divulge.
Papi_Chulo
5 years ago
As far as I'm concerned what happens between a dancer and custy is between them - I don't like outing dancers per se particularly in the context of extracurricular activities - even with someone I know I generally don't like getting into the nitty-gritty details beyond "yeah she was pretty-good".

There seems to be a TUSCL subset that feel TUSCL should be like TER where every detail about the girl and what she does is explicitly commented and expected.
Papi_Chulo
5 years ago
I think this guy dtek had an issue with a dancer from the dancer-directory where the dancer felt he had being a bit too creepy/stalkish but at the time it seemed as if she was overreacting although maybe she was onto something
shadowcat
5 years ago
I get them quite often also and my stock answer no that it protects me and the dancer. Of course my buddies that I have met in person and trust do get insider information via PM, text or Email.
SirLapdancealot
5 years ago
I've shared my faves names in PMs with only a few fellow local PLs that I trust. And that trust is earned by them sharing similar information about their own faves with me and also by agreeing that we won't talk about any of it with those strippers.

Also I won't ever share any information that would be a detriment to a fave. I'll even tell them that they may get a new customer because of my referral. It's never been an issue.
623
5 years ago
I have on occasion, while talking to a girl about web sites, asked if she would want her name divulged. Most are flattered and wouldn’t mind the publicity but I still never share publicly. Too many idiots with ZERO class or common sense that will use that info in a way that I wouldn’t condone. Easiest fix for that is to never share names with detailed illicit activity described.

Like, if your at your job, flipping burgs at McDs, and under the counter your feeding a few friends. Then one of those jackasses writes on the bathroom wall “l got free food from Diamond”. Suddenly the line in front of Diamond is out the door and 30 min later the brown nosing janitor reads the thank you note on the bathroom wall, reports it, your out of a job 10 minutes later.

No good can come from over sharing.
chowder
5 years ago
I am not opposed but discretion should be at a maximum.
Warrior15
5 years ago
I don't give out names. Even in PM's. Sorry.
gSteph
5 years ago
Sorry techi1, I'm with Doc on this one.

In my reviews I describe my personal experiences; I always make up or modify dancers stage 'names'. Want a similar experience - go find one yourself.

Asking a stranger to 'out' a dancer is a stretch too far.
Uprightcitizen
5 years ago
I have the same policy. I been asked on PM's for names and I don't divulge that information to someone I don't know or trust.
crazyjoe
5 years ago
I agree with you Doc. It seems interesting how hard he os pushing for names. Would make me wonder what his real intentions are
Hank Moody
5 years ago
It’s a matter of trust. Who I trust is up to me. If I don’t trust you, don’t be a bitch about it, just look somewhere else. If you have the name of the club, there are other ways to figure out who provides good service, most of which are discussed here repeatedly.
minnow
5 years ago
I'm with most prior posters on this. It seems like there's a certain number of tusclers who think tuscl is TER just because they both begin with a "T". Discretion just isn't in some folks personal checklist.
Cristobal
5 years ago
If you have a few reviews, contribute to the site, or I met you in person I would give names (but not $ or acts) in a PM.

Also, I will tell you which dancers that provided bad experiences (beware and approach at your own risk).
skibum609
5 years ago
I don't describe acts, but will occasionally mention a name.
EastCoaster
5 years ago
Doc, I'm with you, too. I've met about three dozen TUSCLers, and for the handful whom I feel I know pretty well and trust, I will share some info, but in general I'm not apt to get overly specific.

I agree with doctorevil that's it's an invasion of the girls' privacy to give out too much info. Just because I had BBFS with Suzy Snowflake in a non-extras club doesn't necessarily mean that Suzy will do that with anyone else, and the last thing I need is for Joe TUSCL to tell Suzy that I told him she did it with me and now he's telling her he expects the same. If that happened, I guarantee that my next encounter with Ms. Snowflake would be pretty chilly. But more than being bad for me, it could really suck for her to be put in that position. As doc said, "If they are open to providing the same service to you that they provided to me, they'll let you know when they see you."

In addition, I have a very strict policy of not divulging any info about one dancer to any other dancer in the club. I promise the girls I wont kiss and tell -- what she and I do together (and what I paid her) stays just between us. I know for a fact that they appreciate this (because they've said so), as it's an expression of respect. By extension, I think what doctorevil asked about is related to this. Just my two cents...
jmiddle30234
5 years ago
If I have seen you post for a number of years I’ll share names in pm
WILLYSGOTAWOMAN
5 years ago
I agree with Doc. "Karen at Xclub" sucked my dick for $50 is bullshit. What if the PM is from a cop?
doctorevil
5 years ago
So I looked at some of this guy's old reviews, one of which I've cut and pasted below. I redacted dancer name and club name so I'm not republishing this guy's BS. I'm really glad I didn't give any info now.

techi1
32217
XXXX Gives BJS in XXXXX VIP

So I went into XXXX for lunch with dancer friend of mine and met XXXX with her bad teeth though she's very friendly. Went into VIP with my friend and noticed girl giving BJ to customer and we both wanted to wait until next song to see who the dancer was. My friend was as curious as I was. Out walked XXXX after the customer. I tipped XXXX $5 for her performance and she was a bit pissed at me for bringing it to her attention, but then blew it off (pun intended ) when I gave her another $5 tip.
Monday Afternoon
11-25
Not Provided
Place8
Satisfaction7
Value7

Review Comments

Papi_Chulo
Miami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
December 14, 2016
How the fuck is this a review, or are you just trying to tarnish this so-called XXXX's reputation?

busta_nut
Florida
December 14, 2016
Total DICK move

You and your "lunch date stripper" have nothing better to do than to Perv out in the lap area? Must be jealous.
Call.Me.Ishmael
5 years ago
#classact
shadowcat
5 years ago
That is the way they do business on USAsexguide. The only thing missing is the pornographic photos.
bubba267
5 years ago
100 %. With Doc and others that don't kiss and tell.
boomer79
5 years ago
I’ve told a few people I know in real life. There are some girls who really don’t hide what they do and I might tell someone to talk to them without specifics. However sometimes the best and toughest finds are YMMV any way. I have one girl right now who originally turned me down but we’ve had fun recently. Outing someone like that would be a betrayal and might actually be useless to someone If I told them.

In Atlanta though there is low hanging fruit though. It’s not a secret where to go for reliable extras.
JohnSmith69
5 years ago
Most of the time I couldn't share a name even if I wanted to because I don’t remember it.
rickthecoconutcrab
5 years ago
How can you possibly remember names? We ricks simply call female hairless ape whores by numbers. You show up wearing your suit and just go “hey whore number one, come here and let me insert my claw in your vagina”. Then she scuttles over and let’s you defile her!

Scuttle! Scuttle! Scuttle!
rickthecoconutcrab
5 years ago
A very ricklike comment Mr. Smith

I nominate that Smith guy to be an honorary rick! What kind of animal is he? Probably something reasonably badass like a Tasmanian Devil. Just keep your devil face cancer away from me and we are all good Mr. Smith

Scuttle! Scuttle! Scuttle!
chessmaster
5 years ago
"These girls are providing a very personal service."

Lol you actually believe that? Lmfao
Liwet
5 years ago
If it brings more business to the stripper, I think that's a good thing. I can't afford to keep her working, I need other PLs come see her and give her money so that she's still working the club when I come back. I really don't want to get a BJ from someone I'll never see again.

I do think there are things more important than protecting a stripper from the minute possibility that a LEO will read what we write and use it to arrest a stripper.
herbtcat
5 years ago
You did the right thing, Doc. Tell this guy to pony up some $$ and find out for himself.

Personally, I don't really care to know specific names of extra's providers. By the time I get to a club with good reviews, there's only a 10-20% chance that a named dancer will even be there. The value in the reviews that give details w/o names is in knowing how common it is to get extras there, and what the typical rates are. I have enough game to talk to various dancers and find the right one(s) to take back for a VIP.

Besides all the above, no one is entitled to get personal info from you about a dancer - ever. This ass wipe has the taste of a turd in a hot dog bun.
NJBalla
5 years ago
Its all about discretion. If its from an active user i have no problem. I see it as doing the girls a favor by helping drive business to them. Its unfortunately the only marketing they can get as club owners rarely post schedules these days.

I've always said the concerns about law enforcement on sites like these are unfounded. FBI and Cops arent idiots and go to clubs themselves for extras. Its a high stress job and bars and clubs give them a chance to unwind. Clubs get raided because of drugs, rowdy patrons, or elected officials trying to make a name for themselves.
Hank Moody
5 years ago
Even if you don’t think LE is an issue, posting names is otherwise problematic. Other dancers and managers DEFINITELY read the reviews. The owner of Players Club in Baltimore was commenting on reviews and put me on ignore because I pointed out who she was. Those other dancers, managers and owners can easily fire someone or otherwise crack down on extras at the club if they see a name. Ok not saying it happens all the time, just that it’s naive to think you can post indiscriminately without fear of consequences.
Call.Me.Ishmael
5 years ago
^^^ This.
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