Eye contact during a lapdance
In a other thread, shadowcat posted: “No one else has ever had their ATF post on TUSCL. Read her reviews and comments and you'll understand why she is my ATF.”
...and so I found this thread
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I thought it was a compelling thread that had potential, debates about shorting treasuries not withstanding.
My take. Some customers are just like the OP hornyfucker(an aptly chosen screen name) and just want a hard grind. Others LOVE eye contact, and those tend to be the ones who buy 5+ dances. 😁
I thought it was interesting that one dancer considered eye contact as relinquishing control somehow. I would disagree. Sometimes, I think it could even be the opposite.
And it’s a two way street. Honestly, it’s the way a prospective customer makes eye contact (or not) is how I prioritize whether I’m approaching him first.
What are other people’s thoughts?
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I make eye contact to get her attention - but for me dances are about the physical not romance so I don't feel a desire to look into her eyes while getting a dance
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^ hey papi - as self-appointed pussy-inspector - that's your job! What do you do for fun?
Seriously, eye contact from a beautiful dancer is like kryptonite.
I indulge but its usually a wallet emptying experience.
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spice....I’ve noticed a few dancers close their eyes during timed dances
They don’t keep them closed the entire time...but they definitely keep them closed thru some parts of the dance
I don’t like this because it makes me feel like she’s just going through the motions
But I understand them having their eyes closed probably puts them at ease/makes them feel more comfortable
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I’ve seen it both ways. It can also work both ways. If they do look you in the eye and are more engaging it feels more personal. It also tends to go with slower more sensual dances which are really nice. Of course a good grind can be nice too and is probably a bit more common.
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Eye contact is good. Too much feels unnatural. The opposite end of the spectrum, zero eye contact also bad. I have seen one or two new baby strippers that would stare off in the distance as they were clearly uncomfortable.
As far as making eye contact with a dancer walking around the main room... Uhh I suck at this. I think maybe I am used to trying not to make it obvious I am staring at a hot girl in public? But yeah I suck at signaling interest in the club with eye contact.
Semi unrelated: A dancer made an analogy once that I found really enlightening. For her being a hot girl in a night club she has to be careful who she looks at. If she looks at any guy for any length of time they think she is interested in them and will come hit on her. I thought that was really interesting and insightful into the female experience. Being a guy in a strip club is sort of the reverse of what girls experience in a night club.
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I like eye contact when our noses are touching.
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I fucking love eye contact during a lap dance/sex.
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I love the eye contact and for the dancer to enjoy herself.
The more she enjoys it the more you will enjoy it.
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I partially agree with Papi. It’s the vaginal contact that counts most.
But sustained eye contact during vaginal penetration is always a plus.
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I do not short treasuries.
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When the dancer stares out into space or leaves her eyes closed my wallet lobbies for a better choice. Looking into each others eyes creates a connection and a connection enhances the experience.
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Eye contact and vagina contact..both contacts take me to heaven.
While dancing if a girl has eye contact that means she like me,she likes to make me happy. I keep on saying one more one more..
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So the hypothesis is that a guy is more willing to buy more dances if during the lap dances the dancer isnt focusing on the client and isn’t eyeballing the room and her next potential customer? Holy shit what a thought.
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^I’m not surprised pistola missed the point of not only my thread, but also someone else’s on this exact same topic a decade ago.
Alright pistola, let me explain it in terms you may find more relatable. When you’re giving a guy a blowjob, do how often do you and your boy toys think eye contact enhances the experience? Or...how often do you find that distracting? And would rather just be able to focus on his dick properly for both your enjoyment and his?
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I like it when a dancer is actively looking at my face to judge how I am reacting to her efforts. Of course that isn’t really possible when doing reverse cowgirl but when she is facing me it is definitely a plus.
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It's nice but not a deal breaker.
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Just to expand on my answer a little, it’s this really dominant feeling. My last CF used to fuck with me though by making funny faces Not Cool! Not cool! 😤
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I like eye contact. To me, it's just another element in good communication. If she can't look me in the eyes, she's probably not gonna be a good conversationalist...and for me, feeling some sort of connection is much more important than the simple friction of grinding.
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I’m not surprised pistola missed the point of not only my thread, but also someone else’s on this exact same topic a decade ago
Oh I didnt miss the point. It's a dumb question as the answer is 'duh'. Of course your welcome to keep making gay digs at anyone on here not thinking you're hot shit.
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Well, there are various forms of eye contact.
With some dancers, it's fantastic and sexy as fuck. And, if everything else is going well it'll encourage me to buy many more dances. With other dancers it's like staring into a bottomless pit of ennui... and that's not great.
And with a few other dancers it's how you discover that you're shut in a glorified broom closet with a complete lunatic. That's sometimes great, but more often not.
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Good eye contact enhances the total lapdance experience, but it's not the focal point for me. On the flip side, dancers who turn their back on me from at the get-go, and/or throughout most of dance is a turn off for me.
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Last week I was at my favorite Baltimore club. My ATF was out with a serious bilateral eye infection and my #2 fav is teaching English in Israel until August 15. So, I focused on Tia, a very cute, highly tatted and pierced single mom who drives a Harley and is darn nice to talk with. I knew from previous experience that I would get very good dances from her and I opted for a 20 minute room with her.
Those 20 minutes were pretty incredible, and what really stands out for me was our eye contact. Tia has an amazingly beautiful, almost innocent face but her eyes are two brown pools that say, "I want you,!" Believe it or not, when I looked at her body, the tatooing and piercings that I dislike so much basically disappeared.
Is eye contact important? You bet!
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Eye contact for me is most definitely a plus. As the good Reverend put it, "sustained eye contact during vaginal penetration...". Though it seems some can seperate the physical from the mental, not sure how that works.
A pretty face is as much a part of the dancer selection process as anything else whether it be perky breasts, flat stomach, toned legs, yadda yadda. All of these things together make the fantasy of UHM dances in a strip club part of the allure. If I'm not mentally attracted, doesn't matter how good a warmup grind is being given, little willy just isn't going to be turned on and ready to go.
Having a pretty young thing 40yrs younger looking into my eyes with a twinkle or mischievous smile while riding me is why I love strip clubs. If it was purely to "get off", there are a lot of cheaper options out there.
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Def prefer my dances with eye contact. One of my favorite stripper moves is when a busty girl drapes her tits all over me and then rubs them back and forth on my dick while shes on her knees during the lap dance...fuck yeah. Give me that with full eye contact and im busting twenties... and will be happily lead into vip.
With no eye contact though? Just aint the same.
Shit like that is why i keep going to scs.
Figures it was some tuscl schmucks shorting treasuries in ‘09 that sent our economy over the cliff. Thanks guys lol
Btw time to short solar, winds got all the mojo now.
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Back to OP, if i like a girl on stage i will always try to make eye contact. Ill smile like an idiot too, the girls usually eat it up. Some dancers just will not do it on stage though,, usually newbs. If im not feeling her i will avoid eye contact like the plague to make sure she doesnt bother me. It is kind of like a role reversal wrt hot chicks in a nightclub lol good analogy (someone said this in the ‘09 thread, i think).
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If they are not close enough for DFKing, DATYing, titty sucking, BJ, or just nuzzling, then eye contact is important.
But buying dances is still a chump's game. Better to play in the front room, the makeout sessions being the epitome, and save booths and back rooms until it is time for GFE-FS.
And it is in the front room that there should be lots of eye contact.
SJG
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In our underground circuit, the Latinas like to nuzzle. But they also do make lots of very close eye contact. They do this even when they sit with you, they do it anytime they are far enough away for eye contact.
Other's in that circuit, sometimes its just a stationary, parked, titties in the face.
SJG
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God I miss the previous block feature.
But still, 21.5 legit replies out of 26 still isn’t bad. 😊 Some replies were especially high quality. Smash that like button.
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I had a past ATF with big and bright blue eyes. And she used them to her advantage. On stage and in a private dance she would always stare at you directly and intensely. Truth be told, at the start it was intimidating. It was a bit hard to stare back for long because they were mesmerizing and intense. We talked about it one time and she said that yeah guys will avert eye contact with her after a short bit because her look is both beautiful and intimidating.
And the funny thing is, is that once I noticed this and it was called out, the allure and intimidation of her eye contact faded with me. Because I knew it was part of her stripper game, it lost its effect.
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LMAO @heaving that's stripper quantum psychology. The duality of allure and intimidation.
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For me, Eye contact is paramount for me to make a connection. When I speak to someone, I appreciate direct eye contact. The same goes for intimate contact. The only time I do not expect eye Contact is when I’m pounding her from behind! However, if she can maintain eye contact while I pound her from behind, then hell yes!
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Eye contact in a lap dance is a turn on. Couple that with head on your shoulder and whispering or nibbling and I'm hers for several dances. As others have stated, it can compensate for other negatives.
Eye contact in VIP is completely different. I do not particularly care for the stare up at me while otherwise occupied porn movie move.
Some girls really don't like you trying for eye contact. One girl was pissed that I even tried for eye contact even though it only hit her chin.
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@Nidan111 when you are pounding her from behind you always have brown eye contact, no?
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Love eye contact that is not, as C.M.I. points out, a window into a lunatic's soul. Almost every dancer who's made good eye contact has turned out to be a good time in the long run.
Including the most important one that you all are going to get tired of hearing about it. :)
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Eye contact during dances..... good.
Eye contact on the main room floor or stage?..... I try to avoid it unless I'm really interested in a girl... I hate trying to get rid of a dancer who thought I might be interested.
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It's hard to make eye contact when you are hitting it from behind. Unless theres a mirror. Or she's the exorcist.
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I love looking into a girl’s eyes! You can see truth!
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I don’t care about eye contact with damn dirty apes. When I go to the club it is beak in vagina time!
Squawk!
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Musterd21 said "I love looking into a girl’s eyes! You can see truth!"
#doubleedgedsword
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My impression is looking into some of these girls eyes you see flashing lights, then you realize that it’s the strobes from the stage and they’re reflecting through their ears and there’s nothing in between.
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I do like good eye contact. That is how I usually choose which dancer I will approach in the first place. Eye contact is important in general imo.
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Do you get a lot of dances from air heads 25? lol
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I think there needs to be some eye contact. The strippers that don't do any weird me out.
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It can be a fine line between a sexy af look and a creepy af stare. It's all in the expression. I've had both and most everything in between so now I tend to just close my eyes and enjoy the sensations.
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"... It's hard to make eye contact when you are hitting it from behind. Unless theres a mirror. Or she's the exorcist ..."
LOL
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“... It's hard to make eye contact when you are hitting it from behind. Unless theres a mirror. Or she's the exorcist ..."
Not really. I have had some who like to look over their shoulder at me.
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@doctorevil. You're not hitting it hard enough
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I find it to be a huge turn off if the dancer won't make eye contact. I had a dance several months ago from a beautiful girl but she looked up at the ceiling the whole time. Ticked me off so the session did last very long.
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I love making eye contact. Totally heightens the experience. Eye contact is a two way street. Its part of body language. It tells a lot about people. Like scanning each others souls.
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^^^^^^ Front room eye contact and makeout sessions!
SJG
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My best SC experiences have involved eye contact in the preliminaries and during the dances... of course even better when there is some other contact going on. OTOH being I'm at a strip club there is no point in reminding "my eyes are up here" -- one of my best moments was when I made eye contact after spending a significant time taking in the sights, and her look clearly communicated "hell yeah, I KNOW you want what you're checking out... "
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