Can you actually "Sleep" with a stripper?
shadowcat
Atlanta suburb
It's been 20+ years since I last slept with anyone (my ex wife). I have had a couple of strippers tell me that they wanted to spend the night with me. Assuming that this isn't stripper shit, I don't think I could do it. I don't want to snuggle and I know that I am not going to wake up in the middle of the night and want to have sex again. Throw in that I would have some reservations about my safety and of getting robbed while I slept.
We know that gawker would not have a problem. How about the rest of you?
We know that gawker would not have a problem. How about the rest of you?
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I've also had a few overnights with a girl that worked off and on as a stripper.
When you said, "Throw in that I would have some reservations about my safety and of getting robbed while I slept." it made me think of when I DID have a stripper living in my home. No idea what kind of idiots she might have known. I always rested my mind by thinking the dogs would handle any problem.
The club I fell asleep in one visitor described the music volume as louder than front row seats at Talladega.
I did sleep a bit light though. Last night I felt tired. I sat down on my sofa. Next thing I know it's morning. I can have trouble sleeping in certain locations but if I get tired enough, maybe I don't have the problem anymore. I think I've slept on an airplane. Used to have trouble with that at one time. I fell asleep on board a long train ride one time and got woke up by a girl sitting next to me. I was leaning partly into her seat but she didn't seem to mind the body contact. I was young. It was along time ago.
I have given rides to people I didn't know. I used my spider sense to ensure I didn't get any bad vibes. I didn't get any bad vibes from a wolf that wandered right by me in an elementary school while everyone else was running so that has worked so far.
In short, would not sleep with a random stripper or even this month's CF. But I'm always looking to find a more arrangement-ish ATF, and will sleep with them as often as possible. I've written before about one ATF a few years ago, where she lived far away and had trouble making it to work remotely on time in the morning (and always suffering big fines for it); that girl downright loved it that we'd set up our OTC for the night before she worked, I'd get a hotel right around the corner from the club, we'd party at night, I'd kick her awake at 10:30, and she'd take the walk of shame to the club and arrive on time
Looking back, a few of the girls I let stay over were kinda nutbags, but no worse than some of the random chicks I've picked up at bars and brought home.
I also slept with DS II on our trips and on a few dates, but much less frequently.
This is something that you only want to do with a dancer that you know well and reasonably trust.
I have a few favorites that I’ve hung out with; known them for years, gone to lunches and dinners at no cost other than a meal, loaned a SMALL amount of cash (few hundred) and been PAID BACK, had phone conversations about life and all the silly things a silly 24 year old can go through, given advice, met friends, and then of course hung out with back at the hotel room...
But as much as these girls can almost start to feel more like “friends” rather than just another stripper, I have never been able to have one stay the night when they requested, truthfully out of fear of being robbed or something. I feel like I know them, but I don’t really know them.
The funny part is, had we simply met at a bar and not at a strip club, staying the night wouldn’t have ever felt like such a big deal.
w.r.t. sleeping w/ anyone in general - have not slept w/ anyone in several years - I toss and turn a lot and prefer to sleep alone so both of us can get rest - but when I do sleep w/ a woman I usually don't toss and turn as much.
We like our kidneys.
What hasn’t worked for me is trying to turn same day pickups into overnight stays. Too much security uncertainty and lack of trust on BOTH sides. It’s always a bad sign when a stripper is relying on someone else for transportation. This brings an unknown third party into the picture and adds risk.
When I was a kid, I had friends who were strippers and Id help them out, theyd fall asleep in my car on the way home. One used to pay me in blowjobs and would always pass out right after.
I had relationships with 7 girls who were strippers. Being able to fall asleep together was one of the things that made the relationships stronger. Strippers are afraid of real intimacy
On these overnight occasions or any occasion I always go in with only needed essentials. And I usually hide my belongings somewhere while the dancer is getting changed or very near me. Overall, I think the overnight is strongly based on how much you "trust" the dancer or previous encounters with her.
Moreover, beyond safety concerns, I can never sleep soundly as I would when I was with my ex-wife.
Would I sleep with a stripper? Not at home unless I knew her really -- and I mean really -- well. At a hotel, yes. Making sure my cash and credit cards were well-hidden.
I can understand this feeling, especially if we're talking theoretically. As a practical matter, though, I've only slept with strippers who I knew well enough that I didn't feel like I have to hide my cash and credit cards in the first place. But, by the time we're sleeping together, our relationship is already vaguely arrangement-ish. Not saying I'd never do it -- I'm sure with a hot enough chick, if I got buzzed enough, if she wanted to stay over I wouldn't kick her out -- but at least in theory, I'm going to continue to try to live up to "if I can't trust her not to rifle through my wallet, what in the world am I doing falling asleep next to her?"
It's a shame it's so tricky to arrange, because being awakened by a hot chick sucking your cock is pretty much the best feeling in the world.
Sure.
You talk as if all strippers are the same, and that they are just looking to get one over on their customers at every opportunity with no conscience.
You might want to think about arranging OTC trysts a bit more discriminately.
Just a thought.
I wasn't patronizing you, I was patronizing the other losers.
As others have said, if trust has been built up then I would have no problem...risk vs reward. And yes I did us the words trust and stripper in the same post....I know I know!
Can you sleep with an alligator, or a mountain lion?
Why is a stripper different from any other woman?
SJG
You along with some of the other well versed vets, probably look at everything about SCing in a different perspective than most of us.
Most of the board comments in general usually cast a dark cloud on the dancers aside from their great dances, bedroom skills, and wild personalities.
Brilliant point!
Thanks!