Dealing with Racist Strippers
Call.Me.Ishmael
Rhode Island
I was in the club the other night and approached a good-looking dancer. After some small talk, I took her up on a couple of lapdances to test the waters, and it turns out that the waters were pretty fantastic. And, it was made clear that the menu would expand considerably for a private dance.
We returned to the bar for a drink. I had decided that I was going to take her up on a CR. But, apparently two lapdances is all she needed to get comfortable philosophically as well as physically.
Without a lot of preamble or prompting, she made it clear that she hated blacks and Hispanics. Also, not fond of Jews, but Asians are okay. To be clear, she wasn't talking about SC customers in terms of race, but races in general. Honestly, her views on race were pretty toxic.
I have such a strong aversion to racism and bigotry that this shut down any chance of me giving her more money or attention. I'm not a strip club SJW, so I decided to not "have it out" with her. It wouldn't do any good, anyway, I'm pretty sure. So, I told her that I forgot about a "thing" I had to do and bailed (no other dancers on that night interested me, so no big sacrifice).
So, that's what I did, and I'd do it again. Not looking for advice. That said, I thought it might make an interesting topic for debate. Dive in. How would you handle a similar situation?
We returned to the bar for a drink. I had decided that I was going to take her up on a CR. But, apparently two lapdances is all she needed to get comfortable philosophically as well as physically.
Without a lot of preamble or prompting, she made it clear that she hated blacks and Hispanics. Also, not fond of Jews, but Asians are okay. To be clear, she wasn't talking about SC customers in terms of race, but races in general. Honestly, her views on race were pretty toxic.
I have such a strong aversion to racism and bigotry that this shut down any chance of me giving her more money or attention. I'm not a strip club SJW, so I decided to not "have it out" with her. It wouldn't do any good, anyway, I'm pretty sure. So, I told her that I forgot about a "thing" I had to do and bailed (no other dancers on that night interested me, so no big sacrifice).
So, that's what I did, and I'd do it again. Not looking for advice. That said, I thought it might make an interesting topic for debate. Dive in. How would you handle a similar situation?
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Strippers are just like any other woman and most women like to talk. You always can't control what direction the conversation goes and certainly can't control a woman's opinion(s).
Good for you - for walki away, you're not a shallow fucker like MoHead and me!
generally speaking, when people are racist they don't make it very obvious. in most cases, it's a little harder to pick up on.
maybe i'm naive and its happened before and i just didn't recognize it--who knows *shrugs shoulders*
Now if it goes so far as to oppress certain groups, that is racism. If there isn't any oppression then shut the fuck up. Just keeping it real.
The question is how far we should tolerate the intolerant people?
The dancer I was with said she was "uncomfortable" with this crowd. She later turned out to become a favorite and I found out her babydaddy was black.
She was in no way racist. I guess the moral of the story is dancers say things they THINK you want to hear.
I've also had black dancers tell me they don't like black customers because they're "cheap" or "expect to get with a girl for free" or are "pimps." It's hard to impossible for me, a white guy, to say if this is due to racism, the dancer thinking I'm racist (and therefore likely to respond to racist statements), or confirmation bias.
May white dancers are shit heads.
SJG
The problem is that they lack political consciousness. Minorities and immigrants can't afford to be like that, they have to be smart to survive.
SJG
Eric Clapton - Layla
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Do you agree that huge numbers of white men and white women just have their heads up their asses, and that minorities and immigrants can't afford the luxury of being such idiots?
SJG
SJG you are what asian american? I grew up in an area with a very high asian population, they were as racist as any other group even more so to other minority groups
And ideally no one would be an idiot, but you do find idiots of every race and every creed. But don't you think there is just a typical kind of racism and idiocy found in native born whites, which is far more common than any other type?
SJG
So you don't think there is an especially stupid and very wide spread pattern of idiocy amongst native born white people?
And are you someone who would worry about mocking, and when it is most of the time from these very same native born white idiots?
SJG
I think it's great when a dancer is relaxed - and speaks freely with a customer. However - if her real views come out - and they are brutally racist - then I'd move on.
I'm not holier than thou - I've got a closet full of skeletons. But racism isn't one of them.
dw.buck, I perfectly understand your sentiments.
SJG
In my opinion, almost everyone is guilty of discrimination. Some people are just ugly about it and in your face and rude, others believe in treating people fairly and giving everyone a chance regardless of how they personally feel about everyone.
OTOH, we are ALL judgemental and we ALL have preconceptions about race. I am saying that ALL of us are, to some extent "racist." I have encountered Hispanics who believe all blacks are smelly, mean, drugged out, gangbangers. And I know a middle aged black man who is convinced Asians are not the same species as the rest of us. Personally, I am convinced Black strippers give better blow jobs.
Over the past 8 years, this nation has become over sensitive to issues of race. It hasn't been a good experience for too many people. It is not healthy, it is divisive, and it will cause even more problems. Fact is, there will always be a little of, "me, mine are OK and the others are not" in all of us. I have no idea what the solution is!
Most of my regulars like old white men the most (like me?) because as a group we are polite and tip well. Is this stereotype as bad as the ones based on race?
But then they learn that once you go Black vulture you never go back! Squawk!