Need advice

Dude ! If your happly married and don't want or need a devorse I would keep it on the DL big time......

Now let's say you go forward....you thank she gave you her real name ? Maybee she did and maybee this is fake name number #2 ! The point is it doesn't matter what she knows our does not know about you ! If your meeting OTC you must be looking for sex and she is looking for a payday !......have lunch in a location were your wife or family would not find you and nego your terms for pay4play ! Then have a blast !

Side note......don't fuck up your marriage xpecialy if you have kids over a dancer that is giveing you good time for now man !

Good luck and best wishes juice

I am by no means an expert but I'll give my 2 cents since this is what this board is about.

Just like one sees a dancer for what she is, a dancer/stripper (even if there may be other qualities you like about her); I believe a dancer will almost always see you as a customer/financial-provider.

They do what they do not to meet people or Mr. Right, they do it for the $$$. Almost all "relationships" w/ dancers will include the $$$/financial aspect. Like Kanye West says "Now I ain't sayin' she's a gold digger, but she ain't messin' wit no broke niggas!"

If one is at the same level as the dancer (financially, lifestyle, etc.) - then you don't "probably" have to worry about what you said - "playing me for a fool".

But otherwise, they often expect, or at least end up relying on you to help them out with their financial issues (which alsmost all of them seem to have) and/or other problems.

I would treat it purely as a business transaction/relationship and NOT get emotionall involved.

Just my take!

Oh - I forgot your comment about "I missed my chance to tell the truth".

First of all, most people lie in SCs! And if you want to come clean w/ her, just let her know the reason you did it and I'm sure she'll understand since they (dancers) lie all the time when they are working it!

Papi spot on !

If you wish to STOP telling lies to her, stop much sooner, rather than later.

Listen to juice box

I'm with The Juice on this one. Now listen carefully... Don't Fuck Up Your Marriage.

Man, don't listen to these girly men. Ditch the wife and get some stripper pussy.

Jack lol ! Ok let me man the fuck up ! Ya so smack that biiiiioootch wife and fuck that skank ass hoe in the puss puss ! Then post it on youporn and give the wify the page ! Then make her suck yo cokc cokcy whiel she crys !

Then leave the kids and give her 1/2 yo pay for the next 12years !

That's how all real men do dis ! Lol

Jack you made me lol so fuckin hardd man thanks !

Everybody else thanks for being my niggas ! Lol !

A dancer deals with lies ALL THE TIME. She doesn't care. If you want to reveal your true identity, then do it. I think your biggest mistake is caring what she thinks of your lies. She's already got control of you. Reserve the care for your real family and treat her as business

Unless you are really ready for this dancer to ruin your marriage and your reputation keep it in the club. So she asked you out to lunch. She askes a single guy out to lunch. Do you think that she wants to ruin you marriage too? You lied in the club. Big deal. Everybody lies in the club.

The advice listed here is right on the beam. My two cents is to forget anything outside of the club. As a newcomer, you will probably spend way more than you need to. You also should probably avoid it since you are married as well, but I don't know your situation well enough. Take some time to go through some of the previous discussion posts on this site and gain as much knowledge as you can before negotiating P4P.

I would tell the dancer you're married and not interested in going out unless you really do want to have an affair. Of course if you want to break up or hurt your marriage, that is your choice. It's only lunch you can tell yourself but if you're lying about everything, then does that mean you only want to have sex? Or are you not getting talk time out of your marriage? We can't answer these questions but we can certainly fuck up your life. Remember the best advise is not always the free stuff you get.

I would think about what I would regret the most. Would I regret cheating on the wife and possibly getting caught, getting an std and/or paying child support or would I regret missing the lifetime opportunity at a shot at fucking the hottest girl I've seen in ages just because I didn't agree to go out with her?

If you go out with her, you can tell us all the juicy details later especially when you wife finds out. The divorce rate is pretty high in this country.

A fake name is ok I believe. If you tell the dancer you're married and she finds a way to get your address or home phone or spouse's phone number she can hold that over you and attempt to contact your wife or attempt to get extra money out of you to keep quiet. It's not common but I've heard stories.

Listen to Stiletto25.

If you want to weasel out of things you can confide that the name you go with in strip clubs is your club name. You thought no one ever told their real name in a club even if they said it was their real name. Then you can change your name to whatever you want. Dancers give out fake names all the time claiming it was their real name in my opinion. Sometimes they go with nicknames though. Many times I believe they give out fake last names. Sometimes not.

The club manager should have a copy of the dancer's drivers license on file so if you really had a case to identify someone, the manager could. You can always pay a few bucks and run a background check on her to see if she really told you her real name and if she has anything on her criminal background report. I believe that is legal.

Shark "jucy" thanks for the plug man !

Don't fall in love. This is strictly business. Your marriage will be at risk if you give her your real name. What will you do when she calls your home looking for you and your money and your wife answers the phone? Some clubs have a mandatory coat check. All clubs require patrons to leave the truth in the car, but don't tells that checking the truth is part of the cover charge.

...don't tell us..

Fht, nothing good will come of letting her know your real identity. Take her to lunch, fuck her, do whatever, but there isn't any reason to let her know your real name. Stripclubs, strippers, this is a world of fake and lies and people who are honest get burned. Oh, and try to resist when she asks for a loan or says getting evicted unless you help her with xxx dollars lol.

I've been there, my friend. It has been great, AND it has caused me much grief. I won't bore you with details--I've written an article, which you can find in my profile. But the comments here, especially Stiletto's, are spot on, in my experience. You risk a lot by giving her personal info, even if she is honest with you. Because even if you develop a friendship (or more), if you are not willing to leave you wife, it eventually will end. And the end may or may not be very ugly.

The easiest way to deal with this situation, since you're married, is to NOT Fuck around in Clubs with Strippers. Maintain your marital FIDELITY! Is what you are doing & getting in Strip Clubs worth the problems if your wife discovers it?

Time to get my Flame shield out. LOL

"Many times I believe they give out fake last names. Sometimes not"

That may well be true in most if not all situations. My current ATF told me both her real 1st & last names when I visited her residence the 1st time. I confirmed it by looking at a piece of her mail. NO lie in that instance.

Find out what she's after by wanting to have lunch. If, and in my opinion, that's a very big "if", she's interested in you as you, rather than as an ATM, and you are also interested in that type of thing, come clean and tell her that you fibbed, then deal with whatever happens.

However, the likeliest outcome is that, whatever she says, she's simply looking for extra cash, preferably in return for as little effort on her part as possible, in which case Stiletto is 100% correct; she ain't gonna give a shit that you lied, or why. There are exceptions, of course, but until she's *proven* to you that she is one, you're better off assuming she just wants the cash, at least until you get more experience, though you should probably try to avoid being a dick about it. :)

I'll admit, I may be atypical in this regard, especially among the bunch that hangs out here, but I've never actually found it necessary to lie about stuff like this to dancers. If there's something I'm not willing to share, I just don't. "That's not important," works for most things, and "none of your business" works for the stubborn ones. Most *aren't* stubborn, they don't care.

One further piece of advice, if you are one of those people who believes he can be honest with his wife, get yourself a burn phone, or a google voice number, or both, and only give that out to dancers. That way, you'll never get an unwelcome call on your home phone. There's an article about google voice in the articles section of this site, though you may have to go back a ways to find it.

Reading one of the previous posts reminded of a situation.

A dancer I knew pretty well told me of a time when a married older man (she was in her early 20s, he in his early 50s) was having a on-again off-again affair with her.

One day, she crashed her car and did not have $$$ to fix it - being desperate to get in touch with him - she actually called his house to ask for him (she said she was desperate; and this was before the time cell phones were common) and the man's wife anwered. The dancer did not tell me all the details, but some how everyhting came to light and the guy actually ended up getting a divorce!

Just go out to lunch using your fake name. What's the big deal about that? You always want the shell between your SC life and your home life. I'm single so I don't have that problem, but you need some extra insurance.

You are just at a crossroads my friend. I think you have two smart options

A. Tell her you're married and not interested in this.

B. Take her to lunch using your alias and have a good time.

If you do decide you want to bang her later (probably for cash, but that's a different story) you will have to commit to this. With your wife you will be XXXX, married man. With strippers you will be ZZZZ, bachelor.

I don't know which option you should pick, only you do.