"Dumped" by stripper friend
neon44
Dumped by ATF?
Thursday, August 25, 2022 12:34 AM
Long story. I knew this dancer for almost 6 years. Got along great did fetish stuff,extras but not all the way. Shes in NJ I'm in Staten Island. Once last December after club she almost followed me by car to a coffee shop I frequent close to me but thee was too much traffic.
Fast forward to May when the XXXV club was raided/shut down. We texted each other and she said we might have to find somewhere else to meet. Last week I texted her about getting together maybe at the coffee shop or a place of her choosing, she said definitely yes and gave a date she was free (shes a teacher and tutor) When I asked about her plans she ignored my text. I sent another text to her saying there was too much traffic anyway. She gave me another date she was free and then ignored my text about where to meet.
I know I got too close to her but its almost like she was messing with me at the end. lol Wish I didnt spend so much money on her.
Fast forward to May when the XXXV club was raided/shut down. We texted each other and she said we might have to find somewhere else to meet. Last week I texted her about getting together maybe at the coffee shop or a place of her choosing, she said definitely yes and gave a date she was free (shes a teacher and tutor) When I asked about her plans she ignored my text. I sent another text to her saying there was too much traffic anyway. She gave me another date she was free and then ignored my text about where to meet.
I know I got too close to her but its almost like she was messing with me at the end. lol Wish I didnt spend so much money on her.
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Of course anyone could dump you at anytime.
But if you want to know the women who dance in strip clubs you get them outside ASAP.
SJG
In My Dreams
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It's essential you put your dick in at least three other women over the next six weeks, drink herbal tea or some shit, and focus on yourself.
If shit didn't happen in six years, it wasn't real.
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SJG
In My Dreams
https://youtu.be/-55rKa7fZTo?t=510
Look, get laid and get over it. Been there, dine that, I've got the t shirt. It wasn't love. Admit it to yourself and move on.
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Yes you did get too close to her and she was messing with you at the end. She was probably also messing with you in the beginning and in the middle too in one way or another. you were a good source of income and I suspect that she knew how to keep you on the hook.
Consider what you paid her to be tuition. To guys this is personal entertainment (at least the ones that don't lose perspective), but to her it's just a job. Trying to use strippers to fill some void inevitably has only one outcome. The fact that it went on for 6 years is impressive - many of these girls don't last 6 months in the same club. But whether it's 6 years or 6 months, every regular/favorite arrangement has an end date, at which point one of you moves on. Enjoy it for what it is, but never lose sight of the fact that it's commercial for her.
Now shake it off cowboy and go find your new adventure. Maybe next time, if you're spending real money, you can find a girl to put your dick in before 6 years passes. Just another thought.
SJG
But whatever, fuck them in your own bed, it makes a difference.
SJG
And still she could dump you.
SJG
Anyway, we ended things but me saying "lol great heel turn" she then asked whats a heel turn and i send a kiss emoji to end on somewhat good terms.
SJG
SJG
that to me is a cool and slightly subtle way of telling her that she's a bitch.
maybe go out to some gyms and find that type of girl to "train" her for whatever it is you're looking for and pay for those meets.
hell if she's in your area why not try katie arquette herself? the worst that could happen is she whacks the top of your head with a trash can lid or a kendo stick. tip: don't ask jordyn grace - she's strong as fuck!!! she could literally pick up most men.
I knew a dancer who told me she could squat 300 lbs. But the only hint I can give you is she may be somewhere in Western Indiana. Sad to say, but if I heard she was dead or in jail, would not be surprised.
As a TUSCLer one should know how flaky many of these girls are - we should be surprised when they follow thru vs the other way around - if she really wanted-to or needed-to, she would make sure to get w/ you; o/w you should just accept that perhaps she's not interested - you let you intentions be known and she has a way to get in touch w/ you; if she hasn't then it's for a reason.
Many dancers for some reason have a hard time saying no - IDK if it's b/c they feel they are being rude; or b/c they never wanna burn a bridge in case they may need it in the future; but it's not uncommon for many dancers to not say no when they are thinking/feeling no.
Also - many TUSCLers on here read about OTC and think it's as easy as just willing to pay - reality is that OTC has a high-failure-rate and many if not most dancers are not down with it and prefer to keep their club-life and their real-life as separate as possible.
I went into a club I'd never been into about a year ago while travelling. I spent the entire night there. While I didn't do OTC, I did an experiment. About 5 dancers asked if I wanted a dance and I said, "I usually don't play IN the club" emphasizing the IN. 3 ,sort of drifted away after that. One spent time with Mr then indicated an interest in OTC. And the other was easy and probably says yes to almost anyone. That first woman who indicated an interest probably has a 50% of changing her mind or standing me up. It's a high failure rate and you just have to be tough enough not to take it personally OP. But in your case, even if you think you've found the perfect woman, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just move on and learn from your experience.
Remember what Michael Corleone said to his brother, "It isnt personal Sonny. It's business"
I've only been in one situation where I wasn't sure when to end it. This involved a six-year regular like you. In my case she said she was quitting. I then said, "I won't see you again". She then got an angry look on her face and wanted to know why not. I then told her, if she wanted to, we could still see each other after she quit stripping. We had dinner and talked on the phone a few times and then she stopped answering the phone when I called. I think she just changed her mind about seeing me after her stripper days were over. These girls change their mind about things all the time. I was a little unhappy but I accept that these relationships have an expiration date and I can always find new girls.
"She even hinted she would be open to going to my place or a hotel from more stuff." why leave it at a hint? that was the time to clarify what she meant and make her a solid offer.
i think we chatted about some of this years ago. am i recalling correctly?
So, maybe for the best they just ghost on us. They may be right, that we don't want to hear about how/why they're tired of our shit. The times I've broken it off with favs, some had the sense to not ask why. But most did, so I had a very massage version of the truth, if not a straight up lie, ready for them. Maybe sometimes people ghost because they're not good liars.
You have to discuss beforehand what the terms are, and pay her for the OTC after you do otc with her. If you pay her first she could scam you.
You will be alright. Welcome to TUSCL.
SJG
Were you looking for a relationship with that dancer?
Some strippers only do OTC with someone they have a connection with, or someone disease free or someone they think wont start drama or etc or someone they’re attracted to.
Theres hookers who only take on a couple clients at a time and prefer long term clients.
Theres sugar baby hookers who do the same.
Then there’s escorts and actual hookers who will bang 10 different guys everyday.
So some hookers are very selective
There are many strippers who are in fact selective about who they do otc with. So yes you are special if a stripper is only doing otc with you and noone else
You come on here with tge most inane bs and either are playing dumb or are clueless.