Hey y'all,
I’m researching for an upcoming video on the challenges/misconceptions adult industry workers encounter when dating – (for my new matchmaking company “The Little Glass Slipper”) – and wanted to check in here with you gals and guys to see if I’m on the right track. Are there are things I might want to add to the list? Or any stories that you guys have that I can share? Basically, any input would be much appreciated! xoxo!
Challenges/Misconceptions:
-People thinking you’ll “put out” right away, or take them on as a client if things don’t work out -People thinking that you want to be saved from your occupation -Being seen as emotionally damaged (beyond the average person) -Not being taken seriously/seen as relationship material/someone to bring home to family & friends -People not getting that your work is just work. It’s fantasy work, and not reality -STD Stigma -Being seen as nymphomaniacs/always in the mood for sex -Potential partner thinking that you won’t have energy for intimacy with them -People thinking that your occupation is your only interest; (no hobbies, spirituality, goals, etc.) -People thinking that you’re morally bankrupt -People thinking that you can make them money -People thinking that they’re the only one “willing” to date you -Potential partners expecting that you’ll perform for them in the same way you perform at work – not getting the difference between sex/fantasy work and real intimacy -Potential partners thinking that they’re not experienced enough to satisfy your intimacy needs -Finding someone who’s secure with themselves and trusting -People thinking that your workplace is a good place to meet you -People thinking that you have daddy issues, drug problems, or lots of drama (beyond the average person) -People assuming you’re up for a polyamorous relationship


Back when I was in school, the departments that wanted students for research gave us either cash, or a gift card to somewhere. Usually it was something that had a value of about $20, which isn’t much but it’s more than the “researchers” who seek out sex workers do. 🙄