I’m not sure if this is a good idea (or a very bad one). I think many PL’s who’ve watched lots of porn - and spent a good amount of time looking up strippers skirts - have specific preferences. Some of those preferences might be a bit unusual. Anyone want to share their fetishes?
I’ve got a few. I love big pussy lips (the looser - the better). I prefer women whose bodies show mileage (sagging tits, stretch marks, etc.)
i.e. I associate fetish w/ kinky or uncommon
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Anything that is considered a sexual body-part on a woman I prefer for it to be big/large; i.e.:
Not sure if these would be considered fetishes or just preferences .
Seems some guys have "small butt" fetishes.
I have many "preferences" when it comes to strippers.
Tits: B to D in proportion to the rest of her body, no heavy hangers.
Ass: in proportion to her body, no ass cracks I can lose my arm in.
Hair: All colors, but I find myself with bleached blondes and redheads more often than not, no damn pixie cuts either
Pussy: shaved and the closer to an innie pussy the better.
Ethnicity: I think I like em all, but I would love to find a hot asian stripper but I have not yet.
Her eyes are very important to me too.
Everyone has preferences, myself included. But the only thing I can think of that comes close to a fetish is that I really like sluts. You know those guys who fantasize about having sex with virgins? Well, I'm the opposite of that. The sluttier and trashier, the better. That's probably why I like strippers: because it's easy to assume that a girl who dances half-naked in full view of a room full of strangers is a slut.
In this case, I'm using the word "fetish" to mean an attraction to something controversial or out-of-the-ordinary. But if you use the official dictionary definition of the word "fetish," then I don't really have one.
I also def have a preference/"fetish" for variety and getting w/ as many dancers as I can in visit that I can afford and find desirable - def not a one-woman type PL.
Ah, here comes the derisive crap again, but I've got broad shoulders and a weak mind. I enjoy watching my ATF get fucked. If that's not in the game I like her to tell me stories of her fucking and sucking young studs.
I don't think you can really call this a fetish. It seems so normal:
I like to keep girls in high heels and makeup. Maybe like thigh high stockings and a garter belt too.
And then boob out open crotch teddies are good. I like them dressed for sex.
Most of them don't automatically think this way, and strippers seem to like to keep it more simple ITC.
Takes a while to get them thinking dressing for sex instead of dressing to be undressed.
The best naughty outfits are not supposed to be taken off.
SJG
Gawker, lots of people go to swingers clubs just to see the woman get fucked by other guys.
SJG
Is anal a fetish?
@BurlingtonHF - I share a fetish for sluts too. I find sluts to have less pretense. It’s nice when you know a girl isn’t going to play hard to get.
@futuretrackstar - I think anal is common enough that it’s no longer considered a fetish. I guess if all you think about is anal - and won’t fuck any other hole - that might be a fetish?
I like titty fucking and 69 . Neither is unusual so I don't know if it's considered a fetish.
I guess if that's all I ever wanted or asked for it would be. I really like to do those things, but I'm not upset if it doesn't happen. It definitely makes my day when it happens.
While I really enjoy BDSM, I don't have any real fetishes. I'm a sucker for a nice ass, but probably not clinically fetish
@Cashman1234, the thing that's weird is that a lot of guys who go to strip clubs are not turned on by promiscuous women for some reason. They're not into sluts. They get turned off at the thought of their little half-naked princess servicing lots of other guys. They don't want to share her.
I don't understand that. It doesn't compute. I mean, she's a sex worker. She arouses men for a living. If a guy isn't into this then he may as well just go get himself wifed up instead. Or find a girlfriend. Or a mistress. Or a sugar baby. Or a whole harem. Because he's not going to find what he's looking for in a strip club. After all, a stripper is just one rung up the ladder from an actual whore. And for many, this distinction is arbitrary. Anyway, that's how it seems to me. Am I wrong about this?
I consider damn near everything I'm into a fetish. I love girls wearing thongs or g strings, and I love assjobs, while the girls is wearing said thong or g string. Love titfucks also so yeah....so many fetishes.
I love strip clubs because most of those fetishes are easily satisfied in the club, especially an extras club. I felt weird even asking for the fetishes to be performed by dancers at first, until I saw that all they cared about was getting paid. Works for me!
Is dumping truck loads of poo everywhere a fetishes?
Gyno fetish. I enjoy having women strip naked, wearing nothing more than a flimsy gown or loose sheet while being required to spread their legs on an exam table and place their feet in stirrups. Donning exam gloves and lubricating the fingers, I thoroughly inspect their labia majora, running my fingers along the outer and inner length, then spreading it open with my thumb and forefinger to check out the labia minora and urethra. I retract the clitoral hood and test the sensitivity of the clitoris by gently rubbing it in a circular motion. I warm up the speculum and insert it in the vagina, holding it open while I shine a light inside. Then I perform the bi-manual exams by inserting two fingers of one hand in their vagina while pressing on their abdomen. I finish with the recto-vaginal exam, inserting my right index finger in the vagina and middle finger in the rectum. I then wipe the entire region with a soft paper towel to remove any lube or natural fluids.
Actually, I've never done this, but always dreamed of doing it. Until I do, I can only watch videos.
@MackTruck - I think dumping truckloads of poo everywhere might be more of a job description than a fetish? Lol!
@BurlingtonHF I fully agree with your point. I think PL’s are most likely attracted to the illusion of dancers being non promiscuous.
My view is different - and I will seek out different dancers - as I enjoy the girls who have a more experienced look. I might have a contrarian view - as lots of dancers have work done to make them appear younger and less used - and that’s fine. I simply enjoy the look of a real whore.
Because he's not going to find what he's looking for in a strip club. After all, a stripper is just one rung up the ladder from an actual whore. And for many, this distinction is arbitrary. Anyway, that's how it seems to me. Am I wrong about this?
Your rong. Strippers are the caviar of the sex industry. Actual whores are the hotdogs of the sex industry. Porn stars are the Doritos [tm] of the sex industry. Cam girls are the frozen pizza of the sex industry. Sugar babies are the grass-fed filet mignon of the sex industry.
Caviar comes between frozen pizza and grass-fed filet mignon on this scale.
My fetish is to give the stripper a bit of caviar right after she gets out of VIP to lend a certain je ne sais quoi flavor to the snowballing. When the eggs pop, it's reminiscent of the pop that started the snowball.
I don't think that some of these are really considered fetishes. For instance attraction to a pussy type (nature has made man, most of them anyways, naturally attracted to pussies for obvious reasons), and secondary sexual characteristics, breasts, butts, child bearing hips is generally considered "normal".
Cashman, i think you don't generally do the CF thing, but with your preferences, you could make some strippers really happy (and not just from spending money on them, for all the cynics out there), if you effectively communicated your desire and preference for them and not just from LDKing to them. Women are just extremely self conscious of big pussy lips and baby damage (the sagging/deflated tits and the post baby belly) or if they have these qualities without even having had a baby. The first one one i'm a big fan of, but the next part is harder for me to deal with especially if i was used to her pre-baby body. But i've actually seen this type quite a bit. I mean you probably really could make their day when you see them.
@dirkdiggler I agree with several of your points. I usually compliment dancers - but I try to avoid certain specifics - such as pussy lips, and aspects of her belly - as I don’t want the dancer to feel more self conscious.
I will give it a try next time, and I’ll see if the girl accepts my compliments with a smile.
@ppwh, that's amusing. But they are still part of the sex industry. They're grinding on lots of cock. Or giving head. Or getting fucked all day. One way or the other, they're with other men. You shouldn't mess with strippers if you want to be their "one and only." It's not logical.
^ i agree. Strippers aren’t technically whores. However, the line between stripper and whore can be a very fine one (at certain clubs). If a stripper provides extras - you aren’t the only customer she’s giving extras to.
@ Burl & Cash Fully agree about the experienced thing. If you wanted a good-girl you shouldn't be in the SC anyway. GFE doesn't mean she's your GF. PPWH makes a whole scale with diff levels, I'm not sure if he's being facetious, but sex work is sex work. The same as a SC bartender feeling superior to a stripper, b@%ch you work in a strip club, it's all in your own head! I love a slut. Experienced sluts also.
A lot of people consider a fascination / obsession with strippers and strip clubs to be a fetish all by itself.
@Cashman Well you wouldn't say that you like those certain aspects. You would just generally compliment, like very nice breasts, or very nice pussy (and the big lipped girls do want/need to hear it as many of them are certainly thinking of surgery). But try to say it a bit more sexy or smooth than the way i just did, like i just love your body, i wouldn't change a single thing or something like that, and if you are very sincere, it should come across that way. Then she'll probably start talking about certain things she doesn't like, which you can quickly refute. Of course, you'd probably rather be focused on other things that taking a however long break from the action in praise of her body, but believe me this could lead to better things, even in the immediate term.
For instance, there was this beautiful, so sexy newbie dancer with large lips, and she was clearly shy about them. But i was quick to compliment them and encourage her to show them more and soon enough i was playing with that lovely kitty when i'm almost sure she would have moved my hands away if i just went without "warming" her up to it. I even told her not to get them changed, and she said she was thinking about it :( . I do hope, although not likely, that i was able to convince her. I'll just keep on trying the next time i see her. Hopefully she's still there; the club she's at has high turnover, especially with the new girls, but she's already very popular.
"I like smelly ass in my face."
@PoolyD man do I have a girl for you!
@dirkdiggler - thanks for that advice. I think that might work quite well. I’ll be subtle - and I’ll make sure she’s comfortable with me - and then I’ll use an opening (that she provides) to compliment certain areas.
I’ve heard of dancers who are highly self conscious about their labia - and I find their labia to be gorgeous. The same with a natural sag to her breasts. I’m sure these things are even more of a concern for dancers in nude clubs (with stage sets) as customers get a few minutes to view the dancers bodies.
Fetish? No, that is a perversion ^^^^^^^^^
SJG
@lick-that, I don't think I could have said it better myself. The way I see it, you can fall in love with a stripper, you can date a stripper, you can marry a stripper, you can even play Captain Save-A-Ho with a stripper. But don't pretend you can change who she is. She's a ho-bag. And there's really nothing wrong with that. Embrace it or move on.
(For the record folks, no, I don't advocate doing any of those things with strippers. Just a hypothetical. There's no need to have 87 posts about how you shouldn't fall in love with a stripper. I get it.)
A fetish is something without which it is difficult or impossible to achieve sexual release.
I don't have any fetishes. I have a few kinks that make sex more fun, but I can still get off without them.
@BurlingtonHoFactory - Somewhat off topic to this thread I think, but yes, you're wrong. In any city you're going to find a number of clubs which run the gamut from disguised brothels to sugar baby hunting grounds. And within each club you're going to find a number of girls who have become dancers for a multiplicity of reasons and motivations. Do you ever make an effort to try to talk to these girls, otherwise why do I find myself having to explain this to you?
I really don't know what to think of guys who complain about girls who only give air dances, and then turn around and claim that they're all prostitutes. I don't really have time for this, but damnit next tine you're in a club open your eyes and ears for a change.
Strip clubs that are sugar baby hunting grounds? I strongly doubt you’d find that in any city - let alone every city!
Yes, dancers have different motivations for getting into stripping - but most all of them grind against boners to make a living! They are a step away from whores - and in certain cases it’s a very short step. I stay away from air dance clubs - as it’s a waste of my money.
@cashman - Air dance clubs are precisely where you're most likely to find aspiring sugar babies. The fact that you avoid them is why you don't understand my reference. And I didn't say every city, I was speaking in generalities. It would take a good sized city, with a known affluent population, to likely host just one such club.
@anonlvone, as far as I know we don't have any places like that in my state. And the thing is, I compare them to prostitutes but I believe prostitution is a good thing. It's not an insult. After all, I have a "slut fetish."
^ maybe that’s why I’ve never heard of air dance clubs? I’ve not encountered them in NJ.
I also don’t think of strippers, whores, cam girls, and porn girls in a negative or demeaning way. Those folks work hard for their money, and I respect that.
I don't think I have particular fetishes unless a pale-while looking guy almost exclusively into ebony-women a fetish, I loot at it more like a preference than a fetish.
Googling the definition of fetish it states:
"... a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc ..."
Right now of the top of my PL-head I can't think of anything that would fit the above definition other than just normal attraction to a woman.