Does the way you dress influence dancers perception of you and service she offer
Concorde757
Anyone have any experiences to share on this?
I usually check to make sure I meet dress code requirements before I go to a club. Since the economy tanked most clubs dumped any code they had so I usually go dress casual like slacks, polo shirt and dress shoes.
If a guy is wearing a shirt and tie or suit perceived to be Mr. Moneybags who is ripe for the taking where she has to work less hard or does he warrant more time of hers?
If he goes in shorts, tennis shoes or jeans and a baseball cap mean he is poorer and she has to work harder for his dollar or does he warrant less time of hers?
I usually check to make sure I meet dress code requirements before I go to a club. Since the economy tanked most clubs dumped any code they had so I usually go dress casual like slacks, polo shirt and dress shoes.
If a guy is wearing a shirt and tie or suit perceived to be Mr. Moneybags who is ripe for the taking where she has to work less hard or does he warrant more time of hers?
If he goes in shorts, tennis shoes or jeans and a baseball cap mean he is poorer and she has to work harder for his dollar or does he warrant less time of hers?
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other times i have worn the same outfit and the exact opposite effect granted everyone else was wearing the same thing.
another time i was wearing a tee shirt and shorts and i was purely ignored
my advice find a dive bar or one that everyone wears street clothes and dress it up get hte danccers to notice you and treat you like a vip
The above said, this only applies to the first couple of visits. After they knew me, it doesn't make a difference.
I did have an interesting experience recently where I went to my usual club "incognito." I was doing some field work (ok, I didn't actually do any real work, but I watched my guys working, lol) so I was dressed in work boots, jeans, khaki shirt with company logo, company ball cap.
Later I stopped by the club. Walked in unnoticed, sat at the bar and waited a while before my fav bartender came over and asked what was I having. I just smiled at her for a moment, she did a double take, laughed, said "oh, it's you" and started to get my drink. My fav walked by without a word or a glance my way. A little while later she walked by again, then stopped, turned around, did the same double take, said "oh, it's you" and came over and hugged me.
So I guess all this time they were just seeing the suit? Talk about being an "empty suit" lol!
Seriously. Maybe y'all do in New York City or Washington, DC, but in small to medium sized midwestern towns, unless you're a lawyer or a banker, hardly anyone wears a suit. 15 years ago, all salesmen and middle managers dressed for success. Now it's golf shirts with company logos.
I do almost all of my clubbing on weekends, so I can't speak from much experience. But I rarely see a dude in a suit in a strip club. And when I do, they kinda look out of place. The kid with the sideways ball cap and shirt hanging down to his knees and baggy shorts down to his ankles is more acceptable than the dressed up guy.
Having said all that, what bang69 said sums it up.
Beyond that, how much you're spending has a much bigger influence. What stilletto says is ture, but there are plenty of girls out there that are judgemental. Showing them $ will help.
I always aim for business casual. I can't throw a suit into the wash if it gets smelly or dirty. So it's too much overheard in my busy life to run a suit to the dry cleaners becaue of a SC trip. Thus, no suits. Khaki's are usually softer than jeans. Which do you think a dancer would rather rub on? Thus, biz casual is my SOP and covers most clubs.
I'm with VM; I dress the way I want. If they're not interested, they aren't. Somebody else will be shortly.
IMO, if you walked in smelling like a garbage truck, and spent $$$, dancers would still flock to you.
FWIW, my SC uniform is:
* Microfiber dress slacks, b/c dancers don't grind against denim. (I actually learned that little tidbit here at TUSCL.) The other night, my fave thanked me after a couple couch dances for "letting me rub my ass all over your pants."
* Shirt that buttons; doesn't have to be a dress shirt, though. But after a dancer undid 3 of my buttons at the tip rail, I don't want to take away another dancer's opportunity to do the same -- and though 3 is the "record", it's happened a few times since. So I never wore a polo to a SC again.
Only the 1%ers, lol
I have been getting excellent service at most clubs, but occasionally I get completely ignored due me being the new strange wearing the funny clothes. No issues in Detroit, but Florida and Montana clubs some times require me to work to get dances. Also I rarely get offered phone numbers but I am only a regular at PHC in Detroit.
The last time I took your advice and wore a skirt, they wouldn't even let me in the door. Next time maybe I should try a kilt. :)
I remember once seeing a guy in a kilt (sans bagpipes) at the entrance to a fave SC last year. Thank god there wasn't a breeze, coz I sure didn't want to know if he was going commando or not!
I'm with vm though, I dress how I please and have been much happier since I've decided to do so. I typically wear shorts, jeans or khakis, a polo, flip flops or tennis shoes. The dancers who avoid me based on my appearance don't seem to be the ones I enjoy, consequently the percentage of dancers approaching me that I do enjoy has risen. On the occasion when a dancer I fancy may not approach me based on my dress, a waive & a smile or a tip & an invitation to sit at my table has a near 100% success rate for getting some company.
The important things are that both me and my clothes are reasonably clean, that I am polite, and I have money to spend for the right service. I went in my fav club once with a suit on just to show the girls that I do have another side to me.