Do you lie to dancers about your day job?
Call.Me.Ishmael
Rhode Island
Thursday, August 15, 2024 9:04 AM
I mostly don't, but my job is relatively common and not public facing. So, I might tell them what I do broadly (as in "I'm an accountant."), but I won't say who I work for or in what field.
Why lie (or be vague)? I don't go to strip clubs when I'm looking for an abundance of scruples. And though I think the percentage of dancers who might track you down is low... it's not zero. If caution costs me nothing, then I use caution.
The phrase "I'm not really here to talk about work." is useful to get off the topic.
Also, I'm not an accountant. I'm shit at math.
Why lie (or be vague)? I don't go to strip clubs when I'm looking for an abundance of scruples. And though I think the percentage of dancers who might track you down is low... it's not zero. If caution costs me nothing, then I use caution.
The phrase "I'm not really here to talk about work." is useful to get off the topic.
Also, I'm not an accountant. I'm shit at math.
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At least they always tell the truth when they say I’m handsome and have a huge unit.
If they start to ask any questions I just say "your job is a lot more fun than mine so why don't we just focus on that."
@Chili- So how's your golf game been lately ? It's hot in AZ, even with dry heat.
GoldmongerATL tells them he fills the little cups with nacho cheese at Taco Bell.
Like they'll charge more if you're a neurosurgeon than if you're bagging groceries.
It is info they can potentially blackmail you with or cause drama at your work
Wonder who pulls the line, "I use to work for the CIA."
I am not a project manager nor an IT professional. I discovered very early in my legal career that there are far too many strippers who want free legal advice/representation. It's the only thing I lie to strippers about.
I tell them I work as a carrier architect in data networks, Layers 1-4. When asked what that is I bring up Dense Wave Division Multiplexing with nanometer light wave frequency multiplexing at the terabit level per channel, and I show dogs; they glom onto the dog show world as strippers seem to like dogs a lot. My wife understood showing dogs, as she did too, she had no idea was DWDM was all about or Link State Routing; when she heard ISIS she thought I worked with terrorists and not Intermediate System-to-Intermediate System Routing.
What you are left with are the girls who will work for what they can squeeze from you.
I also generally don't lie about other aspects of my life. Again, not out of principle, but because it's just much easier not to have to keep track of any lies I've told. I also find that my current status as a single custodial Dad actually makes me more appealing to some younger girls with Daddy issues. I've definitely leveraged the shit out of that, lol.
But when it is advantageous to do so, I have no qualms about lying. For example, when I'm traveling, I often try to grease the skids for OTC by telling a girl that I'll be in town often and would like a local friend. Sometimes this is actually true, but usually it's not, lol.
So to boil it down, I will usually tell the truth because it's easier and advantageous for me to do so, but I have zero qualms about lying when it suits my needs. It's a strip club, not a church group. The dancers are often spinning tales too as needed. We are all hustling for something or another. As long as any actual agreed upon transaction is honored by both parties, the surrounding fluff leading to that point is largely irrelevant.
It is also problematic if a dancer, falsely tells clients that she needs money to take care of a dying relative or child or any other story that isn’t true. The fact is, any average guy will feel better about spending money or handing money to someone in a desperate situation vs purely for personal enjoyment.
Besides that,
It is important to not give off any impression that you would be unable to pay, or would try to steal back your payment and run off. So even if someone wants to lie about their job, it would be best to still show that you have money available to spend.
Not just that you have $300 in cash available, but that you can spend it comfortably without affecting other bills and without feeling remorse. Theres multiple ways you can accomplish this, especially since anyone can claim to be rich and have a nice job. Dressing well or wearing expensive clothes or a flashy watch helps. A drawback can be if they judge you as being rich they may ask for a higher OTC rate than they normally would.
Spending some amount of money on them in the club, on dances/drinks also helps to establish trust. I would say be willing to spend at least $100 on dances, per girl, for anyone you want for OTC. The primary issues these girls can have with clients are guys who dont pay, possessive jealous guys or entitled guys.
Most of them. It's not really something worth talking about but it pays the bills lol. Dancers get paid and everybody wins lol
Sorry, but I failed to see a problem in any of that. 😉
But fear not troll boy, you can bet she's still quoting a number she's comfortable with or else she wouldn't do it. You're thinking like a regular dude, not a dancer. Her primary concern is about cash in hand today.
At best all I'm doing is making it easier for her to justify doing it in the first place and maybe keeping her from quoting me twice what she'd really be willing to accept. But no dancer is going to throw herself in the bargain bin today for a promise that may never come to pass.
Some of the made up details approximate some of my real ones which makes them easier to remember. I just don't feel like letting anyone know my life and I don't want to get too mixed up in any possible drama in a dancer's life by knowing her details. We're participating in a fantasy in the club, just going all in on it.
IMO, its the number one determinator as far as whether a dancer or escort will provide poor service and/or be a scammer. And, its not something you can easily find out as they are trained to lie about it.